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  • 23-03-2007 1:41am
    #1
    tiara
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    I really like one guy, but he is my lecturer and much older than I am, though the age difference is not an issue. I just know nothing gonna happen. But it really distracts me from my studies. What should I do? Suggestions like 'get over it' won't help (unfortunately):cool: . I just can't stop thinking about him, is that normal?


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  • #2
    PeakOutput
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,639 ✭✭✭PeakOutput


    tiara wrote:
    I really like one guy, but he is my lecturer and much older than I am, though the age difference is not an issue. I just know nothing gonna happen. But it really distracts me from my studies. What should I do? Suggestions like 'get over it' won't help (unfortunately):cool: . I just can't stop thinking about him, is that normal?

    depends are you just out of school doing your degree or are you after going back to college to do a masters or something??

    if your just out of school.forget it nothing is going to happen assuming he is not married he is not going to be stupid enough to mess up his career, im sure your a great person and all but its a pipedream imo

    if your older/wiser etc then there is a slim chance again assuming he is not married but i cant see how your going to break the news to him unless your going to either ask him out after class or flirt like mad with him in class


    i dont see how it can work either way i am afraid


  • #3
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Depends on your ages but I'd say that you should not follow through on this (at this moment in time anyhow). It's usually cause for you teacher to get fired if/when your affair comes out.

    It's not uncommon I believe for younger students to fall for older lecturers. The teacher/father figure and all. We all have had crushes on teachers.


  • #4
    BeardyGit
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,946 ✭✭✭BeardyGit


    tiara wrote:
    I really like one guy, but he is my lecturer and much older than I am, though the age difference is not an issue. I just know nothing gonna happen. But it really distracts me from my studies. What should I do? Suggestions like 'get over it' won't help (unfortunately):cool: . I just can't stop thinking about him, is that normal?

    Go and meet someone your own age to distract you. Seriously.


  • #5
    tiara
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭tiara


    I'm a mature student. The problem is that I have a boyfriend whom I really love and definitely won't break up with or cheat. Anyway, thanks, guys, that chilled me a little bit.


  • #6
    Drift
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,395 ✭✭✭Drift


    I don't know if its any help but during term time anyway he wouldn't (if he's a decent guy) be able to reciprocate anything because he will be marking your exam at the end of the year. If he was the type to do something with you while he was directly in charge of your marks then that should be reason enough to taint his appeal.


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  • #7
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    don't forget that during lectures, your mind naturally wanders and you end up fantasising about people you would never normally look twice at.


  • #8
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    tiara wrote:
    I'm a mature student. The problem is that I have a boyfriend whom I really love and definitely won't break up with or cheat. Anyway, thanks, guys, that chilled me a little bit.

    I dont know what the specific college policy is on student lecturer relationships. But it appears to me that you are over fantasising about this guy.
    You have a b/f and that makes the lecturer unnattainable, doubly so as he is a lecturer and therefore even more alluring in your eyes.

    It is best if you realise that what you have is simply a fantasy. A pleasant one that most people will have at some point. Accept it and leave it at that for the sake of your studies. In reality you are only seeing one aspect.. him as a lecturer and not in the whole context of him as a person.


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