interview phobia

juanveron45

I have been out of work since last october and I am so afraid of doing interviews that there have been a number that ive canceled because I was afraid to go, maybe its because I have the secruity of my parents support and because of this im not deperate enough, saying all that i have been to a good few interviews and its soul destroying when you keep getting PFOs in the door, im thinking of getting interview training,anyone know of anything like this in the cork area?

leeroybrown

I've got no idea of where you can get interview training but I'd suggest that you are looking at interviews from which you don't get a job in the wrong way. Think of each interview as an opportunity to improve your skills. Ask for feedback from the company if possible.

Read up on interview technique and try to spot what you have been doing that counts against you and improve for the next one.

And remember that unless you're brilliant at what you're being interviewed for (and we can't all be) you may just be getting beaten to the job by really good candidates.

Kinetic^

You don't need interview training. It sounds like you need to see a psychologist or psychotherapist.

juanveron45

why do you say that kenny 5?

Dord

Kenny 5 wrote:

You don't need interview training. It sounds like you need to see a psychologist or psychotherapist.

you shouldnt really make a diagnosis like that Kenny.

OP, you just need to relax. I hate doing interviews too. I had a rake of them recently. I figured that if I fcked up one and didnt get the job then i'd learn from my mistakes and do better in the next one. thats what i did. i got the job for the last one!!

when i had a few interviews in one day in the city i'd go to the park to clear my head in between them. (if it was nice outside )

if you go into an interview with a positive attitude they're going to pick up on that. make them think that you want THAT job even though you may have other interviews lined up.

Kinetic^

I wasn't trying to make a diagnosis but if you read all of the OP's threads of late you will see that he is in a difficult situation regarding employment. Maybe see your old career guidance teacher in school or maybe a life coach will help.

juanveron45

Difficult situation regarding employment ,maybe? I still dont see your point or how this puts my mental state in question, please elaborate

DonkeyStyle \o/

I'd say try your local Fás office.

Raekwon

I think everybody hates interviews. They can be a quite intimidating experience for most people. I know some people that absolutely loathe them. But alas, if you want a job then you will have to face the music at some stage I'm afraid.

Btw, I have noticed that you have posted on this topic before. Is there a certain reason that you hate interviews so much?

Dave!

Everybody hates interviews, OP. It's intimidating knowing that you're under scrutiny like that. I can't stand them and get dead nervous, but I just make sure I'm as prepared as I can be by printing out my CV, and going through it in detail by myself. Print off a list of possible questions too, and depending on how technical the job is, sort out answers for specific questions.

If you're still in school or lookin for a part-time job then most places will just go through your CV.

Get yourself really prepared and then just know that the interviewer is usually very nice, and you can just have a chat with them

Easier said than done, but just have some perspective and know that if you walk in, try to sit down, miss your chair, touch the interviewer's c*ck when you attempt to shake his hand, etc...... then you can just leave and the only repercussion will be that you don't get the job!!! No problemo

Just remember that everybody hates interviews. I don't know anybody who doesn't.

throwingmuses

I have done a fair few interviews in my time, and I just did one last week and got the job. You know what I have noticed, the less bothered I am about whether I get a particular job the more positive I feel going to the interview. I know from your previous posts you are worried about awkward questions etc. I was the same last week, I am leaving a job after 3 months because it was a completely different job to what was explained to me in the interview, they said no phone work and I have loads of phone work - and I hate phone work. Anyway I was worried about this, i.e. dropping out so soon, even though I would have been honest, the interview barely touched on the subject, I just said this wasn't for me due to the amount of phone work and they understood.

I think that you might benefit from taking a position which is kind of more junior for the time being, just to get yourself back into the work place and from there on in look for something better for yourself when you have a better idea of what you want. If you make the interview a kind of 'be all and end all' situation of course it is going to make you dread it and become very nervous. Building up your confidence is the main thing, and I think you should just take anything to get yourself back working and get your confidence back up. I've a feeling you wouldn't be dreading the interviews so much if you were in a job when attending them?

maggz

Hi,

I dont mean to have a go, but I think you need to have a real think about what you want to do and maybe ask some people for advice. For CV and interview advice a recruitment agency should be able to help you. But you need to know what area you want to get into and choose a suitable agency for this. I think you have been putting up posts for the last couple of months about all sorts of jobs, interview, excuses to give interviewers about your time off etc. I think you need to just make some decisions about how you are going to approach interviews, what types of jobs you are really looking for and stick with that for a while. You are certainly not going to get a job if you dont bother going to interviews.

minnie_mouse

There some great books you can get in the libiary like typical questions etc. Maybe if you look at the interview as experience it might take the pressure of you.