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  • 18-03-2007 8:30pm
    #1
    girl25
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18 ✭


    well i dont really know where to start but hopefully sum ppl will give me their opinion.

    I m married and we have been swinging on and off for a while we gave it a break to kinda have sum us time. I suffer with depression which wasnt too bad up to recently as counselling was going quite well. but kinda got back into the swinging it kinda makes me feel good about myself makes me feel wanted i m with my partner yrs and yrs and i so want to love him and give up the other men and be happy with him and work it through. But i m not sure if i still love him or if the depression thats causing my head to be so ****ed up. He is a fantastic man so i dotn knwo why i feel like this. Things will go ok then its like i pick sumthing out to hate myself about again and then need the attention to make myself feel better.


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  • #2
    limklad
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,980 ✭✭✭limklad


    girl25 wrote:
    well i dont really know where to start but hopefully sum ppl will give me their opinion.

    I m married and we have been swinging on and off for a while we gave it a break to kinda have sum us time. I suffer with depression which wasnt too bad up to recently as counselling was going quite well. but kinda got back into the swinging it kinda makes me feel good about myself makes me feel wanted i m with my partner yrs and yrs and i so want to love him and give up the other men and be happy with him and work it through. But i m not sure if i still love him or if the depression thats causing my head to be so ****ed up. He is a fantastic man so i dotn knwo why i feel like this. Things will go ok then its like i pick sumthing out to hate myself about again and then need the attention to make myself feel better.
    Sounds like love him already, but your too depress to realize this. Do you like it when he hugs you, touches you? Do you love having sex with him? Pay him a lot more attention.
    He may be giving you breathing space if he knows you are depressed.


  • #3
    Talliesin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,314 ✭✭✭Talliesin


    girl25 wrote:
    but kinda got back into the swinging it kinda makes me feel good about myself makes me feel wanted
    Something like swinging should make you feel good about yourself and wanted (as well as being something you enjoy directly yourself). On the other hand, if you're dependant upon it for that, it could certainly lead to bad things happening.
    girl25 wrote:
    i so want to love him and give up the other men and be happy with him and work it through.
    If you're swinging then this should be something you are both into and there should be no question that you love him and he loves you and you swing.

    If you can't have both of those going on then you definitely shouldn't be swinging.

    Where is the conflict between the two coming from? From him? From you because of how you feel deep down about what love means? From you because you feel a bit uncomfortable being unconventional? From you for another reason? From somewhere else?


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