Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

Longing for what you once had

  • 13-03-2007 5:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    a few years ago I went out with a girl for a while. I really, really liked her even if she didn't like me as much back. anyway for whatever reason the relationship broke down. i haven't seen her in about two years now but there isn't a day that goes by when i don't think about what could have been. during an idle moment in work, i found her bebo and she looks more beautiful than what i remember and that's just after bringing a world of pain back. she's also going out with a guy i used to be friends with. i'm now in a different relationship with a fantastic girl with whom i'm happy with most of the time, but i keep longing for what i had with the other girl. i'm not sure exactly what's wrong with me.


Comments

  • #2
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    I almost guarantee that if you went back with her it wouldn't last. You've built her up as someone she isn't, someone no one is. Add to this your current girlfriend and her boyfriend. Regardless, unless she's sitting everyday pining for the fjords of your love, it doesn't matter. The fact that she didn't like you as much by your own opinion seals the deal.

    We all have regrets, sometimes deeper ones than this, but you learn from them and hopefully grow because of them. You have to cop on basically. No psychobabble or medication required.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #3
    humbert
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,238 ✭✭✭humbert


    Think you just have to deal with it. Some relationships are better than others but there's no point in trying to relive old ones. I think really it raises more questions about how happy you are in your current relationship and whether it's going anywhere.


  • #4
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    OP: you liked her more than she liked you is telling.. was this the reason why it broke down in the first place. You have become stuck and obsessed with the past relationship and my guess is you poured everything into it.
    You are now in a new relationship and rather than concentrating on that you are looking backwards on something through tinted glasses..looking at all the good times and not the bad times.

    Quite simply..let it go. You are doing yourself no good nor your new partner, come of age and be adult.


Advertisement