Shy girls

LegacyUser

Hey,

I'm hoping some of the ladies can help shed some light on a difficult situation for me. There's this girl from college I've liked for a while, and I think she likes me too, but I also think she's very shy. We've made good eye contact several times, particularly the last time I saw her, but occasionally she appears to ignore me when I'm close by - is it reasonable to assume this could be down to shyness or just having a bad day? While I'm normally very confident around people, I become very shy around this girl and tend to break eye contact relatively quickly, but this is only because of nerves around her - would this make her think I don't like her? Would it be a good idea to bite the bullet and talk to her, or would that be putting too much pressure on her? I'm interested in hearing this from a girl's perspective - if you're a very shy girl, how would you act around a guy you like, and is there any good advice you could provide on how to move things forward? Thanks!

Seraphina

good christ, TALK TO HER
relationships dont fall into your lap after you make eye contact ffs! whats the worst that can happen?

Zambia

Seraphina wrote:

good christ, TALK TO HER
relationships dont fall into your lap after you make eye contact ffs! whats the worst that can happen?

Listen to the lady , its not as if you even know her.

This is a pretty lame personnal issue ...

basically you have to figure out how you can

A meet her take it from there , i will give you a little gem go over and ask her what her name is next time...If she thinks your cute it will be enough.

Be sure to pick a time where she is not pre-occupied.

Ruu_Old

The only way to move forward would be to go over say hi, introduce yourself and maybe ask her what classes she is taking or something. The awkwardness will be out of the way then and take it from there.

Call Me Jimmy

Does eye contact pretty much always mean something? (Assuming you didn't just hold a door for someone the person)

FX Meister

Eye contact can give you the wrong signals. FACT.
You need to just talk to her in a relaxed enviornment, she will get the message. FACT
If she doesn't respond to you whether it's because she isn't interested or is very shy then forget her. FACT

LegacyUser

Zambia232 wrote:

This is a pretty lame personnal issue ...

That's entirely a matter of perspective. It's only a lame personal issue if you're fortunate enough not to suffer from the effects of shyness in such situations. I don't count myself amongst those who are fortunate in that respect, so it's an important issue to me, and one that I consider important enough to post about. Just because it's not a problem for you, doesn't mean it's not a problem for someone else.

Ruu wrote:

The only way to move forward would be to go over say hi, introduce yourself and maybe ask her what classes she is taking or something. The awkwardness will be out of the way then and take it from there.

You're probably right, I'll give it a shot. Thanks.

FX Meister wrote:

Eye contact can give you the wrong signals. FACT.

It isn't just a case of straightforward eye contact, it's looking directly back at each other over the shoulder, standing in close proximity, moving closer, etc. Valid point, though.

Gossip_girl

As a very shy girl myself, it sounds like she may like ya but isn't sure if you like her.

Next time ya see her, go over and introduce yourself and ask her a few questions like what classes she has, so that even if shes extremly shy she won't feel put on the spot.

Keep up the eye contact and a bit of smiling wouldn't go amiss!

Go for it, what have ya got to loose?

Good luck!

x Purple Pawprints x

Zambia232 wrote:

This is a pretty lame personnal issue ...

You obviously don't suffer from shyness then.

To the OP, to me it sounds like she does like you if she's made eye contact. With regard to the not saying anything when she's close by, that's probably just shyness as well. She sounds just like me, lol. She probably does want to talk to you but she sounds quite shy and this can often be a huge ordeal when you're that shy. Also she might not be sure whether you like her. My suggestion would be to go talk to her, even if it's just to ask her for a pen or something small like that and maybe build up into a conversation then if you get what I'm trying to say. You never know what could happen then. Good luck

frizzefreckles

It sounds like the girl is very shy and does like you. Next time you make eye contact with her smile too. She is propably just unsure how you feel especially if you are breaking off eye contact. Initiate conversation with her even over something as simple as the weather, once ye get talking things will be easier.

kaalgat

frizzefreckles wrote:

It sounds like the girl is very shy and does like you. Next time you make eye contact with her smile too. She is propably just unsure how you feel especially if you are breaking off eye contact. Initiate conversation with her even over something as simple as the weather, once ye get talking things will be easier.

Great advice!
Next time you make eye contact, smile. It's a good give-away.