Guys opinion please

LegacyUser

Hi every1. This may turn into a long post so please bear with me. Im not really sure why im going unreg but anyway.......

im a girl (23)and a few weeks ago I met this guy (26) when I was out. we got chatting and he took my number, he txt me and we met up last week- went to the pub had a few drinks and got on well. we said we would go out again. so then he txt me on sat and said if i wasnt busy over the weekend to give him a shout. so i was sitting in on sat night anyway and invited him over and we sat watched a dvd had a botlle of wine- just the usual quiet night in. nothing really happened between us, we kissed a bit and everything was kept above the waist. anyhow he didnt stay the night and left about 2ish. he txt me when he got home and then i txt him yesterday morning when i woke up and got his msg and since then nothing, no txts or anything

now i dont mean to blow this out of proportion, we werent exactly heading for the aisle or anything but i was just wondering why i hadnt heard from him. we have been txting each other quite a lot over the past few days or at least he has been txting me, say while he has been at work and i have replied. so now im all confused, i mean its not like i expect a txt every hour or anything but jst to generally check in with me like!

i know there could be a logical explanation, no credit, lost phone, etc. and dont say txt him cuz i did and he hasnt replied and im not doing that again- i got caught out like that years ago when i guy i liked chased me for a few weeks and then got back with his ex- girlfriend. anyway im off the point now, my question to all the guys out there is WHY? i mean he seemed keen initially but now zip

thanks

Beruthiel

Could be a case of he's changed his mind and is not that interested after all.
It's only two dates, forget about him.

Jumpy

If he gets back to you then great, but dont chase, if its not going to happen its not going to happen, the more you chase, the more it will stress you out. Whereas if you just leave it go, you wont feel like a fool if it doesnt work.
Its pretty much always a 1 to 1 situation, you shouldnt ever have to send another message to him.
There are millions more where he came from.

catherine22

i agree with the above i wouldnt be bothered with him, dont waste thinking time on him. its his loss there are better than him out there

Kazooie

Could also be he doesn't want you to think he's comin on to strong and is tryin to play it cool for a bit. Don't worry about it.

r3nu4l

There could also be a logical explanation such as a lost phone! OR perhaps he was out all day and left his phone at home and hasn't checked it yet.

Don't fret about it, give it a day or two, try one more text asking him a direct question "Do you want to meet on Saturday?" or something. No reply means you have your answer.

Don't worry too much about it, if he doesn't reply then you've not lost a lot of time on him

BillyR

Hey,
I agree with kazooie, He might be just trying to play it cool. There could be some reasonable explanation why he has not got back. Just give him a day or two and see. If you don't hear anything just forget about it. Plenty more fish and all that.

6th

Us guys are dumb ... drop him a text.

Trinity

Its only been a day!!

People can be busy, get on with your own day and see what happens.

Not slagging cos have been there done that but you shouldnt be reading so much into it already. I know it can be a knock but people can change their minds, i am sure you have about someone at some stage.

You have had 2 dates, if your head is melted already well then its time to chill out!

jdivision

Could also be a juvenile treat em mean to keep em keen thing. I wouldn't worrry bout it

delboy2

he's probably posting another thread about meeting this girl and doesn't know what to do.......life's 2 short so just drop him a text. If he's not interested then u know for sure and can move on

MikeHoncho

Hmmm. Give a day or so and then RING HIM. Im sick of text culture people need to start talking. You can hide alot in a text or you can take a text up the wrong way but within 2 minutes of talking to him you will know if he is interested or not. I know alot of my male friends (and im in the same age bracket as this fella) who are the same ..... we hate writing texters.

Beelzebub

Don't sweat it.
Phone him on Friday if he hasn't contacted you by then, and maybe you guys can make plans to do something at the weekend.

Duras

MikeHoncho wrote:

Hmmm. Give a day or so and then RING HIM. Im sick of text culture people need to start talking. You can hide alot in a text or you can take a text up the wrong way but within 2 minutes of talking to him you will know if he is interested or not. I know alot of my male friends (and im in the same age bracket as this fella) who are the same ..... we hate writing texters.

Ring him? What a good idea, to use the phone and make a phone call! Who would've thought about that? Certainly not the OP! I know it's a tough one OP, but you have to try that one out.

vorbis

a day reallly isn't all that long without contact?? Thats what I thought. I could leave days go by between contacting a girl. Wouldn't mean I'm not interested. Send him a text or ring him if you want. In general, its ok for a girl to be a bit clingy but not for a guy.

axer

MikeHoncho wrote:

Hmmm. Give a day or so and then RING HIM. Im sick of text culture people need to start talking. You can hide alot in a text or you can take a text up the wrong way but within 2 minutes of talking to him you will know if he is interested or not. I know alot of my male friends (and im in the same age bracket as this fella) who are the same ..... we hate writing texters.

Finally some one said it.

Enough with this texting crap. Ring the guy - that way you get answers there and then and you rule out all the problems like no credit etc.

Please dont text...for the sake of the children!

irishfeller

Looks like he was annoyed that you invited him over to your house for a romantic evening and then nothing more than 'above the waist' happened..that he was kicked out at 2am!

Chucky the tree

^ excactly. If i am on a second day and she invites over to hers for it, i expect to be getting at least a handy shandy from her.

Too get nothing and then to be told to piss off at 2am would really annoy me and i wouldnt bother with her again.

LegacyUser

i didnt kick him out he left of his own accord as he had work. and as for something happening on the second date- i aint that kind of person!!!!! he was the one that wanted to come over i wasnt reckoning on seeing him on sat night, he was the one who wanted to see me and i thought well im sitting in anyway so he may as well come over.

catherine22

well said bewildered101, if it was only your second date what else did you he expect. like i said b4 (i know im a girl and you wanted a guys opinion, im only here for reassurance) dont spend your time thinking about him, he might get in contact at the weekend and if not find someone else. and if he is the type that expects something on the second date and you arent up for that, you did the right thing. you have to be comfrtable with anyone you go out with. hes not worth it

ITS HIS LOSS

Caliden

It's only one day. give the guy a chance.
If u come on too strong now you may scare him off by appearing too clingy (which your OP clearly shows by the way)
Take it easy and wait for him to text back. If he enjoyed himself he will, if he doesn't text in the next 2/3 days then I would probably send one more text (dont call him, too forward at this stage) and ask him how he's been and how his week is going. If he texts back then ask him if he wants to hang out for paddy's day and hope he isn't a big drinker!
If he doesn't text back then hard luck and move on.


best of luck!

King of Kings

sorry Op it looks like he is not interested - cos if i got a text of a girl I was interested or seeing in I'd make sure I got back to her as soon as.
he may have no credit but he could always borrow somebody elses phone.

if you really want to know ring him but i'd say he is not interested.

Kell

King of Kings wrote:

sorry Op it looks like he is not interested

Um- didnt you note the bit where it has been pointed out that its only been one day?

OP- you are totally blowing this out of all proportion. So you had a lovely night, twice and it was 24 hours and no contact. So what? Whats 24 hours. Have you nothing else to occupy your time? Jeebus.

When it hits three/four days of no contact, maybe worry. Otherwise, you have nothing to worry about.

K-

manonthemoon

Chucky the tree wrote:

^ excactly. If i am on a second day and she invites over to hers for it, i expect to be getting at least a handy shandy from her.

Too get nothing and then to be told to piss off at 2am would really annoy me and i wouldnt bother with her again.

classy dude!


Hey OP, call him


at least you will know then



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cedar

above the waist is cool for 2nd date,txt him

axer

Caliden wrote:

dont call him, too forward at this stage

Calling people is now too forward?!

Please stop this texting crap and just give him a call. You will get your answer straight away. The only people that would think it is too forward would be the now 20- year olds that have only grown up in a text culture!