Your views on this situation??

LegacyUser

Hi, going unreg here,

me and a girl that have been dating casually since nov have decided to stop seeing each other. Reason being that we cant find time at the moment to see each other outside of our mon-fri college life. we only got 1 free evening a week at most so made things awkward. we've both said that we are still crazy bout each other n we're both honest when we said it.

i know people say if u really like some one you'll find time but we've both tried but as I've said due to sports we only get one w/e night together. when we went out it was great n we've both met parents n all.

She's said that she won't b dating ne1 else n would like to keep option open in a few months, would i be the stupid sterotypical guy to wait around??

King of Kings

what wrong with only one night a week?

I'm in the a similar situation been on several dates since dec. Can't wait for us to start going out as a couple but i doubt it'll be more than meeting once a week.
we both have other things in life which I think is better cos you are not on top of each other all the time and appreciate the time together more

gloobag

Due to sports? DUDE! Sex is the best exercise you'll ever have! Cop yourself on. If you really like her, you should be willing to kill for that one day with her. Feck everything else!

killbillvol2

Tbh if neither of you place enough value on the relationship to make the most of your one evening a week it's going nowhere anyway.

ballsofire23

Towaitornot wrote:

Hi, going unreg here,

me and a girl that have been dating casually since nov have decided to stop seeing each other. Reason being that we cant find time at the moment to see each other outside of our mon-fri college life. we only got 1 free evening a week at most so made things awkward. we've both said that we are still crazy bout each other n we're both honest when we said it.

i know people say if u really like some one you'll find time but we've both tried but as I've said due to sports we only get one w/e night together. when we went out it was great n we've both met parents n all.

She's said that she won't b dating ne1 else n would like to keep option open in a few months, would i be the stupid sterotypical guy to wait around??

It's bad for you to actively act on her request. Back stabbing is a possibility, and from reading that, she's suggesting open relationship from what I gather. Leaving it for a few months and 1 night a week is a sign she's not fully committed. And she may be too shy to come out directly with that.
Call her and say, "can we say to other's we are boyfriend and girlfriend?".
If she's hesitant it means she likes you. If she says "umm i don'tknow" she's using you. If she says no, it means she's totally not interested. If yes, the best answer possible.

So women play the same game as men, but different strategies are used which make it stalemate in the end. Good luck.

hunnymonster

If you don't have time for each other how do you have time for someone else?

baldingidiot

Make the time. Is the sports more important than her?

loismustdie

can u not just see each other one night or whenever ou have time and txt to sty incontact, u don't have to likve in each other's pockets

redzerdrog

sounds like the perfect relationship only 1 night a week would be brilliant for most people

Miss Fluff

As someone else mentioned, you don't have to live in each other's pockets, it is not natural to spend ALL your time with one another. If you really like each other continue to see each other once a week and make some time when you have finished all your college/sport commitments for the day to just hang out. Sounds to me like you may just be making excuses?

LegacyUser

'obviously we cant live in each others pockets and time apart is also a healthy part of relationships. Not trying to make excuses, it's really hard for me to be apart from her (don't mean that in a controlling way though) i constantly think about her and it just sucks not to be around her because I really do enjoy being with her, guess I've answered my own question as to what I'm gna do, thanks for views and opinions'