Birthday headache

vorbis

Its not for a while yet (end of March I'm 25)

I've been going out with this Thai girl for about a month now. Things are going well enough with her. By the tiime of my birthday it'd be two months so I'd guess she'd be my girlfriend. The expected thing would be to invite her along to my birthday drinks.

The problem is that her english is not great. She's also a bit shy around strangers, (barely says a word to my roommates, don't think she's being ignorant about it). If I do invite her along, I'll be effectively babysitting her all night (unless she brings along a few of her Thai friends). It'll probably be difficult enough for her as I slow down my speech when talking to her. How is she going to understand a group of irish guys after a few pints!

Alternatively, I could go out with her separately for my birthday but does that come across as rude? Any opinions welcome.

Talliesin

vorbis wrote:

(unless she brings along a few of her Thai friends)

Problem solved.

aidan_walsh

How is she going to understand a group of irish guys after a few pints!

If they will be interested in talking to her, I imagine they would show her the same courtesy you do.

loismustdie

if your gonna have a proper relationship you'l have to deal with situations like this, tell her she can bring some friends and tell ur mates to make an effort with her, shouldn't be too much of an issue

Victor

Take her to dinner first and then meet up with the friends on both sides.

little lady

A friend of mine is going out with a girl from Brazil for the past few years, when they met initially she had very little English but he still brought her out with all of us and we just made an effort to speak to her. Now her English is great, we still have to slow down a bit when the drink is flowing but in general she understands us.

Invite your girlfriend along; tell her she is more than welcome to bring some friends if it makes her feel more comfortable but if not I’m sure your friends will make the effort to talk to her.

Why not bring her out with a small group of your friends before your birthday so that she can get to know some of them and then at least she will know somebody besides you on the night.

loismustdie

Victor wrote:

Take her to dinner first and then meet up with the friends on both sides.

it's his birthday, she should take him to dinner

hunnymonster

If she knows anyone else who will be there, why not have a word with them beforehand. They can keep an eye out that she is enjoying herself so that you can concentrate on being the birthday boy?