Alternative to Condoms

LegacyUser

Myself and my girlfriend are going out 4 months. We used condoms for a couple of months, then she whent on the pill and we ended up not using a condom a few times. Since then we never seem to use a condom as sex doesnt feel nearly as good when using them and now both of us find it really hard to use one. Either of us never had unprotected sex with anyone before. Can anyone recommend another contraceptive method we can use in addition to the pill or even a brand of condoms that feel more natural (we have used durex ultra fine+a few others).Thanks in advance

Talliesin

As contraception the pill is pretty effective on its own. There is of course no guarantee, but if used correctly it is very effective.

For STI-protection you need a barrier method. Female condoms are the only other form of contraception that appear to give a similar degree of protection to condoms.

If you decide not to use barrier contracteption it could be advisable for both of you to get an STI-check as one of you could have caught something during the protected sex you have had with someone else, and if this is the case there is now a much greater change of one of you infecting the other.

AdMMM

You could perhaps use a Spermicide. They are somewhere a long the lines of 83% effective when used correctly and on their own, but when used in conjunction with another form of contraception their effectiveness increases.

Black Swan

If it looks like you two will be together forever, then perhaps she could consult her GP (e.g., IUD?). It's too bad there is not a male equivalent that could be removed at some future date when children are desired? Then the decision for this alternative could be more balanced, when you two discussed alternatives?

Trampas

Snip.

I think it can be reveresed nowdays as they don't snip it anymore

skibum

Have you tried "Durex avanti"? http://www.shopdurex.com/product_info.php?product_id=88
They are excellent, miles better than normal latex based condoms. I hated useing condoms until we tried these, the sensations, feel, warmth etc was spot on.
OK they are pricey but for us they were well worth it.

The snip is a last resort option, you have to have a consulation meeting before hand, and they generally only perform it on couple in long term relationships with children. Had it done, in and out in about 1 hour, not as bad as I thought, made absolutely no difference to my performance

skibum

Trampas wrote:

Snip.

I think it can be reveresed nowdays as they don't snip it anymore

They "snipped" about half an inch of the vas deferens (tubes carrying the sperm) and heat sealed the cut ends. It can be reversed, but expensive with a low success rate.

davyjose

If you've both never had unprotected sex then you should be ok without a condom. In terms of STI's you won't get any - in terms of pregnancy, there is no 100% certainty even with a Condom. But that's life. If we worried too much, we'd all be virgins.

Talliesin

davyjose wrote:

If you've both never had unprotected sex then you should be ok without a condom. In terms of STI's you won't get any

Unless you've had sex with people who live in the real world. Then you could indeed have an STI.

It's sad to see childish magical thinking about STIs creeping back in (though it explains why STI rates are spiking).

davyjose

It's sad to see needless scaremongering. What, honestly, are the chances that either have an STI?
I sincerely doubt that a loving couple, neither of whom have had unprotected sex with anyone but one another, are responsible for the spiking STI rates.
I don't think my advice is being particularly irresponsible either: Had they not stipulated that they have never had unprotected sex, I would have offered much different advice.

Talliesin

They are relatively unlikely to have an STI, but people catch STIs from protected sex all the time.

I said "it could be advisable" because it could be advisable; there aren't absolutes as to whether they will or not but adults assess risks (including low risks) and act according. You said "In terms of STI's you won't get any" which is simply untrue.

Nevyn

Protected sex for the most part means condoms and there sti that can be spread despite the proper used of condoms and it is the contact in the surrounding gentail area which is not covered by a condom or femidom that is all that is needed.

Kinetic^

AbC1258 wrote:

Can anyone recommend another contraceptive method

Facials are a good way of not getting pregnant, not sure if your missus will like them though!!

akw_old

AbC1258 wrote:

Can anyone recommend another contraceptive method we can use

in the bum

davyjose

Talliesin wrote:

They are relatively unlikely to have an STI, but people catch STIs from protected sex all the time.

I said "it could be advisable" because it could be advisable; there aren't absolutes as to whether they will or not but adults assess risks (including low risks) and act according. You said "In terms of STI's you won't get any" which is simply untrue.

Fair enough. To be honest it probably is a good idea to get checked out before entering into a relationship, although quite often it's too late.

Nevyn

akw wrote:

in the bum

Due to leakage and cross contamination of the females gentials anal sex can still carry the same risks.

WindSock

Another Contraception you can try instead of the pill is a Depo Provera injection for the your other half. I think it lasts about 3 months and requires just a small jab in the hip by a GP. As for preventing STI's? erm abstinence? At least get yourselves checked out to be sure to be sure.

wexford12

**** "sorry i had to say it "

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

Nevyn

Clear the op is make and is looking for other forms of contraceptives then the condom and other then a vactomny there is not an alternative for him as a male.