Friends that like you

LegacyUser

This is just something I'm curious about, how can you tell if a friend (a guy friend) wants more than just friendship? I'm not talking about a close friend or best friend. Are there general signs? Would really like to know from people's experience what they think.

AdMMM

Are you asking this because you want something more than friendship?

Us guys are generally terrible at hiding this and while we do stand a chance of being able to keep it secret if the girl keeps to herself, the moment she starts talking to friends about you then we're soon found out.

Signs to look out for would be the consistant backing up in situation - even those where you know yourself that you were wrong. If we act as if we're trying to impress you then we probably are and if we seem overly enthusiastic to go the extra mile then it can be argued that we're either the best friends ever or just really, really like you.

Black Swan

Ask... "Hey, there's this film I would like to see, want to go? We can get a bite on the way." Then see what happens...

LegacyUser

'Well I'm not sure. I think maybe I want more than friendship. I guess I'm wondering about more subtle signs. What I mean is the difference between a guy who wants to be friends and is friendly or someone who wants to be more.'

LegacyUser

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|.Murderer.| wrote:

Us guys are generally terrible at hiding this and while we do stand a chance of being able to keep it secret if the girl keeps to herself, the moment she starts talking to friends about you then we're soon found out.

Not necessarily - I've managed to keep mine under wraps since early 2004 (but it hasn't been easy!)'

thebman

It kind of depends on the guys personality what he does when he likes a girl and wants to be more than friends.

We can't really say without knowing anything about the guy.

Might want to post why you think he likes you (if you do) so we can say if we agree or not. The only certain way is to go for it if you want something to happen.

biko

Just Curious wrote:

This is just something I'm curious about, how can you tell if a friend (a guy friend) wants more than just friendship? I'm not talking about a close friend or best friend. Are there general signs? Would really like to know from people's experience what they think.

See this video http://www.videojug.com/film/how-can-i-tell-if-he-is-attracted-to-me

cornbb

Also look here for a bit of background reading: http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

The guy who wrote it is a bit of a lonely cynic, by the sounds of it, but at worst its entertaining and at best provides some useful insights.

To give a more direct answer to your questions, signs might include him wanting to hang around you more than is usual for an acquaintance.

Well I'm not sure. I think maybe I want more than friendship.

Why don't you take the initiative and try to find out directly then? Chances are he'd like that, even if he's not particularly interested in anything more than friendship.

cognos

If you think that your friend might like you to be more than just friends and if you think you might want that too (even if you're not at all sure) I would reccomend just asking him becuase if hes anything like me he would probably be afraid to make a move in case you didnt want it and in case he might bugger up your friendship by saying anything. I'd say this would especially be the case when you're not all that close or have only recently met.

You could just say that you were getting the impression that he fancied you, you wouldnt have to say that you were thinking that you might like it.

LegacyUser

'Thank you all for your replies. I think it best to leave things as they are. It would be to awkward between us if our feelings weren't mutual, as I see him most days and it will be like this for some time. I think that it was all just my imagination.
Thank you again!'