Dating

LegacyUser

There is this girl in one of my classes , that is cute tall and generally very good looking. I was wondering how would i ask her out, and where could i take her baring in mind i do have much cash to spare.
The biggest thing im afraid of is the awkward silence, when you feel like there is nothing left to say. So any ideas what topics to ask a girl, that have a good chance to becoming a heated discussion, or maybe any places in which when there is a lull in a conversation that we could focus on something else.
If you know what i mean.
I have no problem talking to girls its just taking it to the next level where the problem is.
I think she is into me and that she isnt taken.


Its just that the last person i tried to be with, after the first heated kiss, we are nothing but awkward around each other.

I never been in a proper relationship only really one nighters and drunken scores. I would just like some thing more meaningfull.

Thx

padser

What a question.

Well if you don't have much money I would suggest finding somewhere to drink on the cheap - get her relaxxed with alcohol. Also I'v never known there to be silence between drunken people! Also she will prob be easier to pull when you have her 'liquored up' so to speak!

aidan_walsh

The biggest thing im afraid of is the awkward silence, when you feel like there is nothing left to say. So any ideas what topics to ask a girl, that have a good chance to becoming a heated discussion, or maybe any places in which when there is a lull in a conversation that we could focus on something else.

I have no problem talking to girls its just taking it to the next level where the problem is.

I'm having a small bit of trouble understanding what you're looking for.

Femelade

dont get her drunk for gods sake. Thats where things go wrong!! Take her to the cinema, surely its not that expensive...and then if time maybe a drink or two afterwards...

padser

Femmy wrote:

Take her to the cinema..

Worst possible first date ever. You get absolutely no chance whatsoever to talk to the person, how is this useful from a dating point of view?

Even as a 3/4th date I don't think the cinema is a good idea.

c - 13

A pool hall (not in a bar) is usually inexpensive, relaxed atmosphere with the other person and allows for conversation and a little friendly competition.

Just dont hammer her at pool and then rub it in !

EDIT: Forgot to mention, pint or two afterwards then

layke

padser wrote:

Worst possible first date ever. You get absolutely no chance whatsoever to talk to the person, how is this useful from a dating point of view?

Even as a 3/4th date I don't think the cinema is a good idea.

Agreed, at least in a pub a pint or two will realx you more and get rid of the nerves, just DO NOT OVER DO IT!!

I like the Pool idea also.

Talliesin

Cinema and then a bite to eat afterwards.

If you really can't think of anything to talk about, just talk about the film you both saw (though make sure you don't cut into another thread of conversation just to point out what you thought was an interesting piece of cinematography).

nodger

Femmy wrote:

dont get her drunk for gods sake. Thats where things go wrong!! Take her to the cinema, surely its not that expensive...and then if time maybe a drink or two afterwards...

Do not go to the cinema on a first date. You'll spend the entire two hours trying to think up things to talk about after the movie, and you'll work yourself up so much that you'll end up having nothing to say. Go to a restaurant that has a bit of life to it... somewhere like Wagamama. It's usually nice and lively, so you won't notice the little silences so much. It's also relatively inexpensive.
Have a couple of beers over dinner, then ask her if she'd like to go for a couple more pints. As Femmy said, don't get her drunk. Just tipsy enough to grease the wheels (of conversation...).

StormWarrior

If I was going on a date, I'd prefer it if the bloke took me somewhere a bit more imaginitive. Pub and cinema are a bit boring. And if you want something meaningful then don't get her drunk!

I don't know if the 2 of you would be into this sort of thing, but maybe if there's a site of historical interest or something, you could take her there. Or some nearby tourist attractions. Maybe a guided tour, then you won't have to worry about awkward silences!

A funfair would be good if there's one near you, or a theme park. They say the adrenaline produced on rides makes you fancy the other person more.

Kell

Uni Student wrote:

So any ideas what topics to ask a girl, that have a good chance to becoming a heated discussion,

You remind me of an old friend "so Phil, how did it go last night". "Yeah, great. We had a great conversation".

Jeebus- would you like a manual?

People respond to questions. It shows you are interested. Questions without interrogotation like-

Where you from, big/small family, favourite animals, places they like to visit, music they are into blah blah blah. In fact, 20 questions is totally childish, but is a total ice breaker. Also shows you arent afraid to get silly and gives you an opportunity to see if you have common ground.

Now- that'll cost you a fiver.

K-

padser

Kell wrote:

In fact, 20 questions is totally childish, but is a total ice breaker.

Nice Idea, I still think it would work better drunk though!

warrenaldo

go bowling - always good.
and always loads to chat bout when bowling.
ideal setting.

Dave

I think Kells has given the best advice so far. Don't be afraid to get silly, take the piss out of yourself, and her, not in a mean way, but light hearted. Questions questions questions, family, friends, music, film, but don't just let her answer and that be that, input some of your own opinions and try and generate a discussion.

matt-dublin

bowling / qzar / amusements
something that she will feel comfortable with you, easier to achieve when she's having fun.

having trouble asking her out?....
if you're chattin to her just ask when is she bringing you out for a drink?

LegacyUser

Thx for your suggestions, what do you think about tours and the like i.e dublin bus tour or viking splash were ideas that sprang to mind, they would be pretty different and spontanious

Red Alert

Q-Zar won't be good for talking!

Bowling or Pool really are good options!

panda100

Uni Student wrote:

that is cute tall

Do u mind me asking what 'cute tall' means?

Really just be yourself. Dont worry about akward silences. Ive gone out with guys who could talk till the cows come home but sometimes you dont need to say that much. Its important to just relax after kissing her,so even if you do feel akward,just act like your not. Also if you really cant think of anything to say then just tell her how beautiful she is and how you like kissing her. Girls love compliments!

panda100

uni student wrote:

Thx for your suggestions, what do you think about tours and the like i.e dublin bus tour or viking splash were ideas that sprang to mind, they would be pretty different and spontanious

Oh yes go for the viking splash tour!That would be really cool!

The Corinthian

It's been a very, very long time since I did this, but...

Buy a newspaper that lists the weeks upcoming events, such as the Saturday edition of the Irish Times. Go to the gallery section and look at the openings. If an exhibition says it opens on a Wednesday, this will more often than not mean the reception is on the Tuesday at 6pm. The rule of thumb is 6pm the evening before.

Invite her to the opening, dress smartly, if asked for an invite (which is unlikely) say you left it at home. Be confidant. Go in, look vaguely interested in the dire rubbish that corporate budgets like to snap up and clap politely at the speeches. Drink lots of cheap wine with her and then as the crowd thins out suggest a drink elsewhere or a bite to eat and then a drink elsewhere - If things progress keep in mind a bar that serves late.

Used to work a treat when I was a poor student.

sweet-rasmus

mmmm, i wouldnt go for pool. or cinema. tours do sound like a laugh.

though, whatever you come up with, i'm sure things will go grand