dance problem

LegacyUser

hi this may sound stupid but just gota see what people have to say regarding advice. i only startedgoing clubbing recently and its great fun but usually my firneds go off to the dance floor and because i cant dance i always stay with someone but its gettin to the stage where im sometimes left on my own as they are always up on the dance floor. i no that i shud try give it a chance more often but ill end up makin a fool of myself and look rreally stupid. its a confidence thng. so does anyone have any suggestions on how i can try stay off the dance floor and be comfortable with it. ( no smart answers [please, i have low confidence as it is and dont wanna feel worse about myself)

Muzzy

Pick four people around the dance floor and copy them! Serious.

.......and don't be afraid to throw in the odd "Big Fish, Little Fish........Cardboard box" move in every now and again!!!!

Floor is gonna be full so don't worry bout yer legs, nobody willl see them, just yer upper-body and arms.

Watch MTV for an hour, collar a few moves!

judas101

yup.

copying is a winner.

it'll all come naturally soon thereafter.

daiixi

If you're out on the dance floor laughing, smiling and giving it a go then noone will care if you can't dance. As long as you're not jumping up and down and ramming into people. Plus if you never give it a go then you're never going to get better!

biko

Man rule: do not dance with arms/hands above shoulders - unless you are at a rave, stoned to oblivion.

Black Swan

Most people on the floor don't really know how to dance, but are there just to enjoy themselves and move to the tunes. And as other posters have already said, people copy each other on the floor. For some of the more sophisticated steps, like the tango, if you know how to walk, someone can show you how to tango. And after you get the basics down, you can improv.

DS

You're not getting drunk enough.

ArphaRima

It seems like about 95% of the world's population was out of the classroom the day the teacher taught dance.
Almost nobody can dance. Dont worry about it.

My girlfriend is in a professional dance group. She knows I cant dance well and doesnt care. Just make sure the dancefloor is full and more importantly be drunk. I hate dancing with a passion, as do most straight men. But you just need the false confidence and you're away. It is fun, as long as you dont take yourself too seriously. Its worth it to see the girls move. They cant dance either, but at least they look good doing it.

LegacyUser

'thanks to all posters that advice seems real good so gonna try that.'

duckie87

http://www.videojug.com/film/dance-moves-an-emergency-guide-for-men

BoozyBabe

tbh, only a very small amount of people can actually dance imo.

as someone else said, try & copy what a few others are doing to get an idea of what you should be doing, but more importantly, try to just not give a sh!t what you look like & just enjoy yourself.

Practically everyone has the same hangups as yourself

Makaveli

Just listen to the song and find the rhythm. Once you have the rhythm go with the drum break in the track and move with it. If you can't find the rhythm of the song don't try copying others because it'll get messy.

Most people are on the dancefloor to have fun and not really care about whether they are dancing well. Most people are too drunk to even notice or care what you are doing anyway. Just go out and have fun, as long as you're not bumping into other people and falling over nobody will bat an eyelid if you're the most uncoordinated person there. It's all about finding that rhythm.

dr.bollocko

Seriously, have you not looked out at the dancefloor and just laughed at the level to which people can no longer dance? Waving arms and staring at each other lustily. It IS disgusting, but it ain't dancing. Dancing is a dead art.
I myself like the charleston.

Dave

You're afraid of looking retarded on the dancefloor? I'd say just look at every other guy, and realise everyone else is too busy making a tit of themselves (including myself) to be worried about you!

Crea

Most men can't dance, it's firmly embedded on the Y chromosome. My son is 3 and his sense of rhythem is non-existant.
Do the side to side shuffle with a bit of arm waving. No one will blink an eyelid at you unless you're bumping into others and making a nuisance of yourself.
Practice by dancing around the kitchen. Get a feel for the music and enjoy it. There's nothing girls like more than a guy with a big......grin:p

Makaveli

Most people can't dance. Watching girls on the dance floor (as you do) it's quite obvious most of them haven't got any rhythm either.

LegacyUser

'I had the same problem, but this actually helped me a surprising amount....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yUFGvz0bl3o

It's from the movie 'Hitch', starring Will Smith. Do like WS does Nothin fancy, just keep a rhythm

Also as was mentioned, copy other blokes.'

kelle

OP, I am amazed - when I went clubbing in the late 90's no-one I hung around with wanted to dance. In fact, the dance floors were virtually empty while everybody stood at the bar chatting. That annoyed me as I couldn't hear a thing with the loud music. I just wanted to dance!! I'd have to go and dance with strangers as I'd be miserable and hubby's mates would be telling me to cheer up!!
So it must have come around again that everybody (well, nearly) wants to dance!
All I can say is, just get on the floor and copy others, and don't worry what anybody else thinks- you don't need to be drunk and it burns off lots of calories!
Good luck.

Alter-Ego

Go out, loosen up, move to the rhythm and make a tit of yerself. Drunkeness helps.

JC 2K3

Dancing in club = waving arms/shaking hips/shuffling feet to the beat of the song. Considering the drumbeats of the crap they play in clubs is so retardedly loud and is always 4/4 there's no reason why anyone wouldn't be able to "dance" to it.

Women in clubs can't dance any better than guys, they just think they can and there's more of them who attempt to do it "properly". Most guys either won't dance or couldn't be bothered and make a half assed attempt or go completely over the top and take the piss.

Put simply, dancing in clubs is simply a load of drunken people having a laugh moving their bodies to music, essentially making idiots of themselves, but everyone's drunk so no one cares. There's no "being able to dance" involved. if you wanted to really dance you'd take a dance class and go to dancing functions, not clubs.

OP, try walking onto the dancefloor and simply start moving to the beat, you'll soon notice that no one stares or gives a crap.

McSween

if you're laughing and smiling you'll be alreet

birds love a **** dancer who thinks they're good but is having a laugh at the same time, try it

DonkeyStyle \o/

klasj459+6 wrote:

its a confidence thng.

Nooooo, it's an awareness thing... you're aware of how stupid and pointless dancing to crap music is... GOOOD.
Well done sir... stick to your guns, look moody and complain about the music.
I'd change the station if most of this crap came on the radio... why on earth would I want to dance to it?
Peer pressure is for the weak/desperate.

It could be argued that you'd look like more of a knob sitting on your own than flailing about on the dance floor, but you can't please everybody.

Get a routine for when your friends go off to get themselves all sweaty and tired-looking... take a wizz, head to the bar and get another drink, come back to your seat and pretend to be texting someone while secretly playing Snake... the mobile phone is an excellent prop in so many situations.

People say everyone is too drunk to care what you're doing on the dance-floor... well the same can be said for whether you're there or not... if you feel the humiliation is beneath you, then just go with it.
If you don't enjoy dancing, don't like the music, and you're already pretty sure no girls are going to come grinding up to you and are more likely to give you a filthy look and turn their back on you... why bother putting yourself through it?

My problem is that I can't possibly get drunk enough to enjoy dancing to rubbish music... I get progressively more groggy the more I drink.
I reckon I'd pass out before reaching the lets-boogy mood... so it's a complete non-starter.