EX had new fella but....

helpme

my ex *who i still love and care so much for) has gotten a new fella. im happy if she is happy and i hope he treats her well. she deserves to be treated so well and looked after.

the thing is, i believe he is just out of a long term relationship.

In your opinion (boardies) do you think that after a long term relationship do you look for a rebound or something else. If he is using her as a rebound i wont be happy at all.


ment to be "ex has new fella"

maceocc2

What ye mean ye wont be happy about it?????? It's got nothin to do with you. Ye have to let it go man. If ye follow down the road your going it wont be pretty, the girl you feel so much for will end up hating you if you stick you nose in, so be careful.

LegacyUser

'well maybe he is, but it's not your business anymore. maybe he is on the rebound, maybe she is on the rebound too. maybe it's the start of something special. leave her make her own mistakes/decisions, if you say anything to her you'll just come across as a jealous ex. your judgement is likely to be clouded because she's your ex and none of us here know enough to say or care.'

Mighty_Mouse

who i still love and care so much for) has gotten a new fella. im happy if she is happy and i hope he treats her well. she deserves to be treated so well and looked after.

You love her and because "her" hapiness is all you want..........you dont mind the fact she has new bed company?
Dont mind the fact some new dude is having her wicked way with her?

If you do mind........then you're asking the above question out of jealously and looking for a way to damage her new relationship.

So in the end its really none your business mate. leave her to it and avoid entering "stalker" mode!

little lady

I’m afraid this has nothing to do with you; even if you are still friends with her if you try to give her advice she will think you are just jealous. Stay out of it; if he is a mistake she will figure it out herself, she will never thank you for interfering. She is your Ex for a reason.

Basically it’s none of your business who she dates.

biko

What she said ^

Talliesin

Yes. There's no way to no and it's none of your damn business.

Really, what are you going to do, phone her up and say "ZOMG! 72% of people on some website said that they'd probably just be looking for a rebound fling in his position so there's a 72% chance he's doing the same thing!!!!11111!!!!"?

BoozyBabe

As all the others said.

None of your business. What does it matter whether or not you'll be happy if things don't work out for them? You're an EX.

But, to answers a question, I think you asked:- I've had 2 long term relationships that began as a rebound thing after other long term relationships, (probably) & am still very happy in one of them.
Just because he's just broken up with someone doesn't mean this will end in disaster.

Anyway, she's not in your life anymore, so concentrate on making YOU happy.

patrickc

i'm with my girlfriend 3 years it was a rebound thing for me, and were happy.

Sony

This is black and white-stay out of it and stop kidding yourself

Beruthiel

helpme wrote:

my ex *who i still love and care so much for) has gotten a new fella. im happy if she is happy and i hope he treats her well. she deserves to be treated so well and looked after.

I agree with everything that has been said in this thread so far.
I would also like to focus on you. It's as plain on the nose on your face that you have in no way moved on since ye broke up. This 'concern' over how her new fella shows this.
Time to cut all ties with her in order to get on with your new life. If you don't, you're still going to be miserable for quite some time.

Black Swan

It's their relationship. You two broke up. Time for you to realise this and move on.