sex alternatives

LegacyUser

i'll keep this short. Due to a minor medalical condition my gf's lady bits are off limits for a few weeks. Now, there is lots of obvious stuff we can do which will not involve going near her 'there'. I was hoping for some suggestions for interesting erotic alternatives to being physically intimate....some slightly original stuff, other than the usual; oral, messy food stuffs, massage, candle wax ideas. nothing too extreme....preferably something nice and sensitive because she's a bit down at the mo.

thanks.

Sleepy

dirty mack wrote:

i'll keep this short. Due to a minor medalical condition my gf's lady bits are off limits for a few weeks. Now, there is lots of obvious stuff we can do which will not involve going near her 'there'. I was hoping for some suggestions for interesting erotic alternatives to being physically intimate....some slightly original stuff, other than the usual; oral, messy food stuffs, massage, candle wax ideas. nothing too extreme....preferably something nice and sensitive because she's a bit down at the mo.

thanks.

Bathing someone can be a pretty emotionally intense and intimate thing. Sounds like it might be kinda suitable here too as I'd imagine your girlfriend could do with some pampering right now. Surround the bath with candles, get some nice bath oil, throw on some nice mellow music (from her CD collection) and roll up your sleeves...

Da Bounca

In the ass.

LegacyUser

'A hand shandy'

hunnymonster

Op, sorry to ask you to be graphic but could you just clarify. Are you not to go near her genatalia at all or just not insert anything into her vagina?

LegacyUser

as far as i know, i'm not to go near that region at all which is a real drag cause i love goin down on her

Skiesonfire19

I agree, in the ass.

Skies

jellie

how about a nice massage?

yellowellie

If she's a bit down at the minute, try not to 'eroticise' things, sex is probably the last thing on her mind. Closeness, snuggling up to watch a movie, hugs and kisses, facing each other and really looking each other in the eye etc.. all these things can sometimes be forgotten the further you go into a long-term relationship and they are wonderfully intimate things and so simple, no props necessary.

To the guys -I assume ye're male- with the 'very useful' advice for male pleasuring, the OP is looking to make his girl feel special..

Richard W

yellowellie wrote:

To the guys -I assume ye're male- with the 'very useful' advice for male pleasuring, the OP is looking to make his girl feel special..

He could make her feel special in the ass.

yellowellie

lol! I've heard it all now!

Victor

Da Bounca wrote:

In the ass.

Have some decorum and sensativity please.

Talliesin

dirty mack wrote:

i'll keep this short. Due to a minor medalical condition my gf's lady bits are off limits for a few weeks.

Some of the best sex I've had in my life, were in similar situations where some things were "off limits".

Some of it perhaps did count as "a bit extreme", but the thing that puts those nights up there as nights that will always come to mind from time to time and make me smile is the fact that we had a lot of time to put into it.

Rather than any new techniques of ideas I'd say a very important thing is, if its at all possible to make it work with your schedule, to set aside a good piece of time for just enjoying each other.

There are two things that are important in regards to her medical condition. The first one is to have a clear idea of just what is and isn't off-limits. Some conditions can rule out penetration, some can rule out oral-gential contact and some any genital contact at all. Obviously just what is ruled out would be good to know.

The other thing is how is she feeling sexually. It could be that she's just not going to be in the mood for anything too erotic and it's best to just concentrate on other aspects of what she means to you and expressing those. On the other hand it could be that she's feeling like she isn't sexy but wants to be and it can therefore be very good for her to get a strong sense of how sexy you find her to be.

Anal sex is only going to be a good idea if:

1. It's not also contra-indicted by her medical condition.
2. It's something you already do a lot and you are experienced enough as a couple doing so there is little or no pain and you get to the point where she is getting pleasure from it quickly.
3. It's something she enjoys in itself, rather than something she enjoys because of the effect it has on you.
4. It's something she enjoys in an intimate, sensual way rather than a "let's get dirty" way.

Otherwise, not a good idea.

It might be worth just thinking about what parts of her body drive you find sexy and she finds erogenous that you haven't paid any attention to in a bit.

It can also be instructive to act as if your own genitals are off-limits. It can greatly help spur the imagination to do so. Not necessarily for the whole night, but for a couple of hours maybe.