tlking to strangers

LegacyUser

I have awful toruble tlkin to strangers when I know people I'm fine but i can't walk up to women and stuff in clubs and jst start tlkin im shy and never know wat 2 say?

Victor

Try adding some vowels to your txtspk.

Sorry.

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Clubs tend to be poor places for picking up people "just like that" unless you are good at it. Much better to be with a group of people who can mix with other groups of people, people tend to be more open and sociable when they feel secure ina group they know.

Also, practice talking to other strangers - just treat them like normal people. Strangers are friends we haven't met yet.

miabella

Hi, if your getting stuck for things to say, just ask questions. It's bound to start up a conversation! Like "are you having a good night"? i find it works

biko

Don't bother with clubs. House parties and pubs is were the action is.
If you smoke it's easy to chat outside while having a fag.

Black Swan

Agree with Victor. Join a group that does something you enjoy doing. Conversation will come natural about your mutual interests.

Cianos

OP,
If you like the person and they like you, initiating conversation is the hardest part. All you have to do is say anything to get the conversation going, and if there is an interest there, you will be fine from then on.

People always think 'well what will I say?' and run everything through their head and decide that anything they can think of is going to sound stupid/cheesey or whatever. Well, there isnt some magic one-liner that will make everything ok. The fact is, the act itself is what is awkward so its best just to accept that, and go through the moment or two of awkwardness. Just go up and say 'having a good night?', 'hi, whats your name?' or whatever, and take it from there! Then once you get talking, try and keep the conversation as natural as possible. Be polite and not too forthcoming.

Whats worse, a little moment of awkwardness or going home once again annoyed at yourself that you didnt even take the chance?

limklad

Victor wrote:

just treat them like normal people. Strangers are friends we haven't met yet.

OP, It it the best quote to repeat because it says is all.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

You don't need to smoke! Simply get a ciggie off a mate, follow her out and pretend to smoke an unlit cigarette and make a comment about the weather / ask the time / ask where she's from.

When she asks why you're smoking an unlit ciggie, tell the truth: "I'll come clean... I just wanted to come out here and talk to you." It's a shoe-in because the more nervous you are the more chuffed she'll be.