Leaving Job - boss going to go mental

Lamps

I work very close to my boss and she is a very pushy, assertive, fiery woman.

We have become quite busy in the last couple of months, but Im leaving as i have offered a much better job with much better pay.

But I know my current boss is going to go mental when tell her, as she will have tonnes of work to do (and she can be quite lazy and would rather I do it) and has all these great plans for me (she wants me to be something like her in a few years) telling me what extra courses I should take and other professioal developmnent things (which im greatful for). But I just dont want all that.

So have you any advice on how I should go about all this?

badbrian

Don't really see what you are so concerned about. Give the correct notice, thank her for the invaluable experience you have gained there, explain that you have been made an offer you can't refuse, thank her again and off you go.

It happens. As you will go on you will learn that no-one is indispensable. Just consider what you will say if she matches your new offer.

Congratulations btw.

SonOfPerdition

Lamps wrote:

I work very close to my boss and she is a very pushy, assertive, fiery woman.

We have become quite busy in the last couple of months, but Im leaving as i have offered a much better job with much better pay.

But I know my current boss is going to go mental when tell her, as she will have tonnes of work to do (and she can be quite lazy and would rather I do it) and has all these great plans for me (she wants me to be something like her in a few years) telling me what extra courses I should take and other professioal developmnent things (which im greatful for). But I just dont want all that.

So have you any advice on how I should go about all this?

Record it, stick it on youtube and post a link here ... i could do with a laugh.

Millionaire

When you leave within a week or 2 she will have forgotten all about you, as if you never even worked there, and you will feel the same.

When I left jobs in the past thats what happened, and when people who worked for me left, was the same...within 2 weeks max...was like they never existed. kind of weird...but life goes on, especially in a busy work environment.

Just leave on good terms so you get a reference.

Lamps

She could never match the offer ive got, id probly be getting paid more than her!

She will try convince me not go, she will say my current job is way better etc even though she hasnt a clue about the other one. Shes a know it all andi cant wait to stop working for her.

One of the lads let it slip to her the other day that I was going to leave and she went ballistic, hence my post. I denied it though, dont need the hassle until everything is sorted with my other job. The rage in her face was unlike anything ive ever seen.
Im dreading giving my notice, especially the fact that its 4weeks notice I have to give.

leeroybrown

Just be professional. Give your notice, put up with the temporary anger and do a good job for the rest of your notice period. If is very busy then as long as you pull your weight as usual it should work out fine. I'm sure she'll be annoyed about being lied to but no one tells their boss that they're going to leave until they know they are going to leave.

If I worked for someone who was fiery, pushy and assertive I would expect them to use all their 'powers' to keep me in the job and in turn to be annoyed when it didn't have any effect.

youcancallmeal

Lamps wrote:

The rage in her face was unlike anything ive ever seen.

Wow sounds pretty hardcore, if your living in fear of your boss then it'll do you a world of good to get out of there. You'll just have to put up with the uncofortable situation for a few more weeks. You could always email her and CC in your HR person (If you have one) declaring your intention to quit. Write it very clear and professionally and what can they say to you really?

sinbadfury

Well done on the new offer. Take it and run I'd say.

Previous posters are spot on, be professional, give the proper notice and thank her for help, guidance, support and interest in your career. Maye even let her know that it was her that inspired you to look upwards for new opportunities. A bit of flattery might douse the fire a bit and she might feel bad about giving you a hard time about it.

In the short term she will be somewhat annoyed, but it wont really be at you personally even though it might seem that way. From what you say she is just stressed and highly strung due to the workload or whatever, but she shouldn't blame you for wanting more.

Go for it & don't worry about it, you are on the up!

N_Raid

If it's a better job with better money and it's something you want to do then you'd be mad not to jump at the chance. Give whatever notice you have to give and do a good job between now and then.
You're going for better money, you can bet that if the business couldn't afford to keep you, you'd be out the door lickety split, no sh1t, so why should you give all this other consideration when it wouldn't come the other way?

BostonB

Lamps wrote:

I work very close to my boss and she is a very pushy, assertive, fiery woman.

We have become quite busy in the last couple of months, but Im leaving as i have offered a much better job with much better pay.

But I know my current boss is going to go mental when tell her, as she will have tonnes of work to do (and she can be quite lazy and would rather I do it) and has all these great plans for me (she wants me to be something like her in a few years) telling me what extra courses I should take and other professioal developmnent things (which im greatful for). But I just dont want all that.

So have you any advice on how I should go about all this?

Sounds like a terrible boss. Just leave and say thanks. Perhaps via a phone call from Hawai?

secret_squirrel

Hand her your notice in private, and if she goes bonkers, just walk away saying 'we'll talk about this after you have calmed down.'

With a bit of luck you might even get garden leave out of it.

youcancallmeal

So did you tell her yet?

death1234567

Lamps wrote:

One of the lads let it slip to her the other day that I was going to leave and she went ballistic, hence my post. I denied it though, dont need the hassle until everything is sorted with my other job. The rage in her face was unlike anything ive ever seen.
Im dreading giving my notice, especially the fact that its 4weeks notice I have to give.

I would love to be in your postion. Its the ultimate reversal of roles. Think of all the times you had to do what she told you, now you can tell her your leaving and there's nothing she can do about it. You have all the power, "first ju get the money, then ju get the power, then ju get the women"