Mixed signals

LegacyUser

Hi,

There's this girl I really like, and I'm pretty sure she likes me too based on the signals I've been getting over the past while. Anyway, about two weeks ago she walked over and stood beside me (a good distance from where she was standing) while waiting for the train home, when the platform was quiet, looking rather nervous. I have to admit that I was pretty nervous too, with the end result that neither of us said anything, and it was train as usual after that. I've been thinking about this a lot over the past few days, and I'm now worried that I sent her a very, very wrong signal that I never intended to send, possibly, if not definitely, giving her the impression that I don't like her, when in reality I like her quite a lot. I feel that I should just go up and talk to her, break the ice and see where it goes, but I'm a bit concerned about the event two weeks ago - is it possible to undo what went wrong last time, or have I burned all my bridges? Any advice you can provide is greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Miss Fluff

I'm confused. Is it that you know this girl and you ignored her a fortnight ago for no reason while getting the train home?

Or is this some randomer we are talking about?

LegacyUser

'Sorry. We don't know each other, but have been getting the same train for a good while now. She stands on the same section of the platform and usually gets onto the same carriage.'

geuro

try saying hello? then you'll get your clarity

cold_filter

Hey just ask her out, if she says no tough one, if she says yes thats great, simple to the point

DilbertPartII

what was the event two weeks ago? anyways, go on and approach her.what's holding you up?;)

LegacyUser

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DilbertPartII wrote:

what was the event two weeks ago? anyways, go on and approach her.what's holding you up?;)

"Anyway, about two weeks ago she walked over and stood beside me (a good distance from where she was standing) while waiting for the train home, when the platform was quiet, looking rather nervous. I have to admit that I was pretty nervous too, with the end result that neither of us said anything, and it was train as usual after that."'

geuro

hardly a groundbreaking event..

are you letting your imagination run away with you?

Miss Fluff

geuro wrote:

hardly a groundbreaking event..

are you letting your imagination run away with you?

I'm inclined to agree, not really something to lose sleep over OP. Just say hello next time you see her on the platform, problem solved :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

geuro wrote:

hardly a groundbreaking event..

are you letting your imagination run away with you?

I could have provided far more detail about things leading up to that moment which would go much further towards justifying my statements, but I'm not here to do that. I'm not suggesting for one second that there's mutual interest based solely on one event which, by itself, isn't very significant - there are plenty of other things that have happened in the past that hint at mutual interest. So no, I don't believe that I'm letting my imagination run away with me. I'm focussing on the consequences of ignoring somebody you really like, solely as a result of nervousness, who has made a conscious effort to stand right beside you, assuming that they have made that effort hoping that you'll start a conversation with them. I don't doubt that I sent the wrong message - I'm wondering how I can best handle it's effects.

Call Me Jimmy

cold_filter wrote:

Hey just ask her out, if she says no tough one, if she says yes thats great, simple to the point

I see this sort of advice on boards a good bit and while I have nothing against it at all I'm just wondering does that sort of thing happen often

I cannot imagine doing that without it being weird, just walking up to a randomer and asking them out. Actually if yer good looking it wouldn't be weird, it would be 'sweet' or 'cute'... ah don't mind me, I'm just bitter.


do you people advising it do it yerselves?
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