Stupid thing to do

LegacyUser

Long term poster usual reasons 4 unreg etc

A couple of yrs ago i was bored in my relationship (5yrs at the time) and started chatting to a guy on msn and eventually txting etc. then i did something really stupid and txted him photos of me not complet;ey naked but topless. My realtionship has become alot better now and im terrified these pics will surface

Now i know the guys name where he works etc and that he is married (we never met up or anything) about a yr ago i emailed him asking him to delete the pics and he said he already ad, but obviously thereis no proof

Im pondering making contact and reminding him that i also have compromising pics of him (well there deleted now but he is not to know that) and that i can make life hard 4 him too. But i dont wanna antagonise him when he hasnt done anything with the pics afaik. It makes me feel sick inside and i think about it everyday, if they surfaced and my kids / family saw them id die/

Is there anything i can do????

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Silly Mare wrote:

Im pondering making contact and reminding him that i also have compromising pics of him (well there deleted now but he is not to know that) and that i can make life hard 4 him too

Why the hell would you threaten him like this?

That wouldn't be very productive.

Rabies

Why get in touch with him again? That will just bring it back and make you feel worse.
Leave it as life lesson. You didn't cheat on your b/f, but you did flash another guy. Don't worry about it.

LegacyUser

Im not saying i would but im desperate to know that they will never surface and with the web the way it is they could be anywhere now

warrenaldo

this sounds ridiculous. why the hell would you do that. there is no need. unless you still remain in contact and he has mentioned them.

lots and lots of people have ex girlfriends etc photos. topless nude etc etc. nobody really cares.
he probably has deleted them. considering its been so long since theve been sent and the only person who seems to remember is yu.
Sounds like he doesnt care. and you want to remind him.

get over it.

threatening him sounds like the stupidist thing to do.

LegacyUser

Im not planning on doing bad things to him, its just my back up plan.. or something ..i dont know really. I just want this not in my head anymore its hanging over me like a cloud and i want release thats all

warrenaldo

there is no way to get it out of your head.

you will never know for definite if he has the pics or not.

but threatening him cannot help.

its been 2 years - if he hasnt used them so far - and by the sounds of it - he has never got in contact regarding them.

Then it sounds like your making a big hullabaloo about nothing.

just leave it.

have your back up plan but for gods sake dont make contact with him

cold_filter

of all the millions/billions perhaps?? of porn pictures on the net what are the chances first of all the your partner is going to be surfing for porn and that the pictures he'll bring up are you??
not likely to happen.

Also dont go making these guys life hell, you sent him pictures.
He probably had a couple of shermans over them then deleted them or filed them somewhere and hasnt looked at them in a while as he probably has new ones.

Beruthiel

Silly Mare wrote:

I just want this not in my head anymore its hanging over me like a cloud and i want release thats all

Then mentally release it. Lessoned learned, did a silly thing, it's in the past, won't do it again. Move on and forget it.
Nothing you try to say or do to him at this point will help you or give you the 100% guaranteed answers you are looking for.

Black Swan

To contact or threaten can have unintended consequences, so don't do it. Learn from it, then put it in your past.

r3nu4l

OP if this guy is married then he's not going to be releasing your pics to anyone. If he did, you would find out and then probably tell his wife, thus ending his marriage...

He knows this and is unlikely to risk his marriage just to put photos of a topless girl into the world. You are regretting what you did and focusing onthat. You are worrying unnecessarily, put it behind you and get on with your life.

chuci

put it down to life experience everyonre does stupid things throughout life but you kearn from these exp. the likelyhood of this man still having your pics is very unlikely imo A its been two years since ye had contact(judinging from op)
B the guy ids married so i doubt he would put his marraige on the line for topless photos of you. if i were you i would not contact him agaiin why open up that can of worms again when ther is abosolutely no need??are you using this as an excuse to contact him again? if you weer going to contact him again then threatening him is a pretty silly way of going about it

Fanny Cradock

'Hi, we haven't spoken in about a year, but in that time I've been haunted by the possibility that you still have pictures of my boobs. If you ever, EVER show anyone the pictures I'll show the pictures your willy that I still keep.


P.S. I know where you work... muhahahahaha!'

Personally speaking, I think a threat like that (reword it as you like, the context remains the same) would confirm your status as a demented and paranoid person. Who knows how he would react to such an unnecessary threat. Relax, he has forgotten about it, you would be wise to do the same.

ianmc38

Tell him you know where he lives as well just to reinforce the point.

Miss Fluff

r3nu4l wrote:

OP if this guy is married then he's not going to be releasing your pics to anyone. If he did, you would find out and then probably tell his wife, thus ending his marriage....

Exactly. Contacting him again is a very bad idea too. Put this down to a mistake and just put it out of your mind, worrying is so counterproductive. He would not run the risk of keeping pictures like that on his PC and having his wife find them.

littlesurfer

by mailing him like that your probably making him feel threatened. Why would he still have your picture, he might not be a loyal husband but i'm sure he's not a stupid one. get on with your life and let go of this....and for god sake let him do the same. the more you remind him of it the longer it will take for him to forget it. Be clever

ELLIEJ

Are you bored again? It kinda sounds like it. Are you sure the thrill of the chase with him is over in your mind?

LegacyUser

'

Fanny Cradock wrote:

'Hi, we haven't spoken in about a year, but in that time I've been haunted by the possibility that you still have pictures of my boobs. If you ever, EVER show anyone the pictures I'll show the pictures your willy that I still keep.


P.S. I know where you work... muhahahahaha!'

ROFL
Thanks for showing me the bigger picture, I can c now I'm just stressing myself out over nothing... i'm gonna put it behind me and 4get about it now thanks again guys and girls '

tbh

it's true you'll never know for sure whether he has deleted them or not. If it were me, I'd try to take as much control of the situation as it's possible to take, and I think in this situation that means damage limitation. Instead of obsessing about whether he'll use these pics or not, figure out what you'll do if they ever surface. It'll be embarrassing, lets not kid ourselves, but it's not the end of the world. Are you clearly identifiable? I suppose you are or you wouldn't be so upset. Anyway, the best advice I can give you is get your story straight in your head, figure out in advance what you would do if they do surface, and then try to forget about it.

easyontheeye

hey, were you never worried he might have text you while you were with the other half?!?! :rolleyes:

anyway sure if its only your t*ts why do you care? sure you can't tell a woman from just her t*ts unless you have some distinctive features going on and also phone camera pics are poor quality. and even if it does come out sure you could always say it was taken before you and your bf got together. but as far as i can see if your face aint in the pic will then i wouldnt worry about it.

next time you become bored be more careful

5starpool

If he does still have them, and may intend to use them against you for whatever weird reason, then the perfect way to get him to do it is to do what you are threatening to.

Grow up.

Fanny Cradock

Silly Mare wrote:

ROFL
Thanks for showing me the bigger picture, I can c now I'm just stressing myself out over nothing... i'm gonna put it behind me and 4get about it now thanks again guys and girls '

No worries