housing problem with my ex.

nicolo

Ok bit of a weird situation here. right basically me and my girlfriend want to move out of our flat and into a house.
so we got together two of our mates who are on the same wavelength as ourselves (same level of messiness/ taste in music films etc) and started looking.
aanyways I was talking to a friend of mine who said her dads moving to spain in june and letting out theyre old house, now that would be cool except the friend is infact an old girlfriend, now we're talking broke up 3 years ago and we've both been in serious relationships since then.
id have no problem with the ex being our land lady as she gets on great with all of us but shes now decided she wants to move in which im not mad about, shes alot more tidy and straight laced then us an i can picture if we had a party in the house and anything got spilled or if someone got to wasted her being like "ah this is my house "etc. also if she moves in it means one of the two other people i had lined up cant move in which means our rent might go up.
So my problem is I really like this house, its a huge room for very little money/ its exactly where i want to live right next to loads of my friends and I've no chance of ever getting anywhere else like it in that price range , plus the hassle of deposits/ if anythings gets broken etc wouldnt be a problem. but living with my ex again sounds like a whole can of worms.
am i over reacting?
should i broach the subject with her?

Ruu_Old

If you are worried about her going on at ye, then why not set some rules from the start so that everyone is on the same wavelength. All sit down together and be a bit grown up about it and I am sure that ye can work out some ground rules to make things easier for everyone.

hunnymonster

The fact that she is an ex doesn't appear to be the problem. I assume your GF doesn't have a problem with it? I would be more concerned about living with someone with very different ideas than me. If there is going to be a row everytime you have a party, life isn't going to be much fun. As Ruu said, get the ground rules srted before you move in.

ELLIEJ

I would strongly suggest you get a different house with the friends you had originally chosen.

It makes sense and she is bound to be more protective of the house as it is her Fathers. Also no matter how open minded, ex girlfriends and present girlfriends do not mix for long.

Miss Fluff

Find somewhere else, can't believe you are actually considering it, so so so not a good idea on so many levels. There are other places.