should i or not

LegacyUser

silly thread but here goes. its bothering me so i guess i might as well.
last summer i met a guy, hung out, got him a job working somewhere temp with me, we had both just got of relationships, we liked eachother, kissed twice and talked about dating but due to a few things (long distance, trust) left it as friends. no biggie. kinda felt he knew he didnt want a relationship right then but hoped down the line we'd remain friends something would happen. but i explained thats just not me so just friends was what we decided to become.
next two/3wks we txt, chat, try to arrange times to meet but both busy. then i get him a little pressie for his bday mainly because he reminded me like 3 times. couldnt meet him the time he wanted to give it to him so said i'd give it another time.
i txt a wk later to say i'l be in town so and so and no txt back but also no delivery note. same thing happens i think twice when i try txted again once a wk for two wks. i thought maybe he's gone on that holiday abroad he mentioned so didnt feel cut out as a friend.
i get a bit suspicisous so ring from my friends phone. i figured if his phone is working and he doesnt wanna talk to me anymore then fine, i dont want a friend who doesnt wanna be my friend anyway. it rings out and doesnt even go to voicemail. i feel a bit silly writing all that but i guess im giving him the benefit of the doubt.

7 mths later i realise he's back in my college for an event and im going to see him again. most likely i'l be in the same room as him for awhile on friday without many ppl around so he'll be bound to see me.

i dont fancy him or anything of the sort anymore, i was just going through a rough time last summer and wasnt really thinking. i have a bf im madly in love with now and likewise so i havnt any little messed up notions about this guy. i just dont wanna be nervous about bumping into him.

anyway is it up to him to say hello to me or is that childish? i dont wanna throw myself out there only for him to blank me.
im afraid he's just a jerk which would be a pity as i thought he was a sound guy. if i knew for certain he blanked me mths ago it would be fine i'd just leave it and only say hi if he did.

really i guess i want advice as to whats the right thing to do/say and try to make this as unakward as possible. i dont like confrontation and to be honest it hurts a bit if did blank me because he helped me when i was going through hard personal stuff but i guess its never nice though.

Tricity Bendix

A simple 'Hi (insert name). How are you?' would suffice. You'll know instantly by his reply how he feels.

Ruu_Old

Don't go avoiding him anyway. Enjoy the event with your boyfriend (assuming you are bringing him). As above, a simple greeting is enough and that is all it has to be.

dlofnep

I bet he'll think the exact same thing when he sees you. "Should I say hello, or eh..."

Say hello, smile and keep on walking.

LegacyUser

yeah, i've been thinking about it and its really his place to come up and say hi but if i walk past him i'l just say hi and get it over with.
if i make the effort to walk up and say hi how are you and smile i know he'll take it i want something to happen. he's kinda vain like that from what i remember. thanks for the advice. i know it isnt a real issue so its nice that you replied

Motley Crue

To be honest I have to ask why you are so sure you will bump into him? Dublin is a big place, and Ive seen girls I once 'met' or dated, out of the corner of my eye and never felt any great compulsion to go over the other side of Grafton St and make verbal contact. A wave, a nod, a smile...IF he happens to see you and you see him

But theres no reason why u will, I mean, not unless you want to see him?

Black Swan

You were both on the rebound. Understandable outcome. So keep it simple. You see him in passing, say "hi." If you chat and he gets a little too personal, tell him you have a b/f now.

LegacyUser

Motley Crue wrote:

To be honest I have to ask why you are so sure you will bump into him? Dublin is a big place, and Ive seen girls I once 'met' or dated, out of the corner of my eye and never felt any great compulsion to go over the other side of Grafton St and make verbal contact. A wave, a nod, a smile...IF he happens to see you and you see him

But theres no reason why u will, I mean, not unless you want to see him?

what makes you think its dublin? its in another county actually. i swear dubs think no where else on earth exists. we have colleges in other parts of the county silly.
plus its an event that he is listed out of 20 to be part of as its celebrating their achievements ect.
theres proberly going to be 100 ppl there but just him and the other 20 setting up.

anyway it doesnt matter now, i thought i'd have to see him because i had work to do beforehand in that room but i just finished it and he hadnt arrived yet. i dont want to see him again, its just the past.
so fates helped me avoid a awkward moment which is nice. thanks

LegacyUser

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xcvbnm wrote:

what makes you think its dublin? its in another county actually. i swear dubs think no where else on earth exists. we have colleges in other parts of the county silly.

LOL that's a good point!'