Too big for asian

LegacyUser

I'm white, and my girlfriend is an asian. I'm a guy with average weight and height, and she's tiny, thin, short, and petite.

Now, my penis is around average as well. 6 inches. But to a girl her size, it's a monster. Whenever we get into the mood, we seem to have a problem - I'm too big for her. I'd really like us to do anal, but that's completely out of the question if I can't even fit it into her vagina all the way.

So what do i do, PI? Dick reduction surgery? Find other girlfriend?

DAVE_K

My wife is Asian. When we first started having sex, on initial penetration she'd be hollering "toooo big" - i was like "open the window there and keep shouting - let everyone hear this!!!!!".

Take it handy at first, she'll get use to it.

Beruthiel

925 wrote:

So what do i do, PI? Dick reduction surgery? Find other girlfriend?

Considering that a baby is a lot bigger than your schlong, I think we can safely say, given time and lots of foreplay you'll eventually manage to get it in there without taking any of the above drastic measures.

Kintarō Hattori

I think this is a common enough issue. When my GF and I first started having sex I just couldn't 'him' in there. It wasn't because he was too big but I believe because she wasn't relaxed enough, her muscles or whatever down there were too tight.
Basically you need to really relax your missus and get her in the mood. Take it slow and easy.

Memnoch

you need to turn her on a lot more and get her wet. It's much much easier when she's lubricated. Lots of foreplay, maybe even try bringing her to orgasm once before you penetrate. Alternatively dry hump her till she gets wetter.

When penetrating go very slow, make sure she is enjoying it, the more she does the more she'll relax, you should VERY GRADUALLY be able to work it all in

milod

Beruthiel wrote:

Considering that a baby is a lot bigger than your schlong, I think we can safely say, given time and lots of foreplay you'll eventually manage to get it in there without taking any of the above drastic measures.

Hear hear! sorry guys, but the whole Asian girl thing is completely overdone - My ex is asian, and I've spent some time abroad (ahem...). There's perhaps a very slight difference between Asian and Caucasian women (who haven't yet had a baby...) and there's lots of overlap - I've met Irish girls who could give any asian girl a run for their money! And I've played footie with a few Korean guys who'd put most Irish guys to shame!

After child birth, there's no difference, believe me. As Beruthiel says, a baby, even an asian baby, is a lot bigger than your kit.

Really, any insertion problem is more likely to betray your inexperience, or her nervousness. Work up to it, a finger at a time

lil'one

always give give her oral first. this will definatley help her relax:D and as for anal, sometimes thats easier, kinda depends if its lenghth or girth shes worried about but its all possible. as long as she's relxed you won't have a problem, and use lube for everything, except oral, yuck, unless its flavoured:p

chump

I've often wondered if olive oil is a suitable lubricant for 'dis kinda ting'.?

I would usually use vegetable oil but with all the talk of hydrogenated vegetable fats/oils being bad for you I'm growing skeptical.

My advice would be to find a good lubricant and go for it!

lil'one

chump wrote:

I've often wondered if olive oil is a suitable lubricant for 'dis kinda ting'.?

I would usually use vegetable oil but with all the talk of hydrogenated vegetable fats/oils being bad for you I'm growing skeptical.

My advice would be to find a good lubricant and go for it!

yes it does:D

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BeardyGit

lil'one wrote:

yes it does:D

http://www.healthcentral.com/peoplespharmacy/408/60820.html

I know a man who's selling some snake oil if you're interested

Just go the pharmacy and get some KY Liquid lube. Or if you live near a larger Tesco's, you might find it there too. About €8 a bottle and you won't need much.

Or you could try the Durex Play dual purpose massage 'oil'/lube.

Cheers,

Gil

spurious

Women that are healthy will produce plenty of their own lubricant thanks. Problems arise when their partner has not taken their time or has been clumsy about foreplay.

No guy has a ding-dong bigger than a baby's head.

Asian women have no bigger or smaller 'bits' than any other race - they come in big and small as do all races.

hunnymonster

spurious wrote:

Women that are healthy will produce plenty of their own lubricant thanks. Problems arise when their partner has not taken their time or has been clumsy about foreplay.

Not necessarily, There are some times of the month (when I have my period) that I don't produce enough natural lubrication and we have no problem using ky or vaseline or whatever happens to be lying around.

bored and tired

how about trying chocolate sauce on her belly, just squeeze on and lick off. i always found laughing is the best form of foreplay you can get!! it relaxes your muscles and is a great way off getting close to each other.

rediguana

I really can't imagine how six inches would be too big for anyone (um, maybe the anal, actually, I don't know how they do it in pornos). How about just putting the first four inches inside her? You'll probably be able to last longer too. Although maybe she wants you to take less time if it hurts her...

Black Jack

Well i have same problem, but well for a start

Get another girlfriend????? u serious, just cause of this , that really shallow mate !

second dick reduction, mate cmon, never, 6 is average size, keep it , you be glad of it the older u get,

More foreplay is my suggestion , lots of it, keep going and going, and make sure is effective. and get a decent lubricant if you are really stuck, actually get anyway, can be very helpfull, Astroglide is good , or a Durex one , you cant go wrong definelty make easier.

when u do get in dont go slamming away there, stay in and dont move give her time to relax her muscles in her abdoman and hips, and let her generally relax and get used to the feeling, then move yourself in the usuall manner, but slowly. Can be quite painfull for her as u have already seen.

I have same problem just need more time and be more considerate towards her !

Marksie

chump wrote:

I've often wondered if olive oil is a suitable lubricant for 'dis kinda ting'.?

I would usually use vegetable oil but with all the talk of hydrogenated vegetable fats/oils being bad for you I'm growing skeptical.

My advice would be to find a good lubricant and go for it!

Olive oil is rapidly absorbed into the skin. Interestingly in antiquity it was rubbed into bodies and a comb used to remove the dead skin. It can also be used as a carrier for essential oils in massage

As a sexual lubricant..no.
There are plenty of products on the market which are much more suited.
The issue of arousing her so that the lubrication is natural has been well covered so i am not going into it again.

I would normally use natural lubricant to keep the clitoris wet as well.. if not that is where a good waterbased lube comes in as well, a little in the fingertip helps. Basically by keeping the clitoris very moist it stops it getting sore so that multiple orgasms are possible depending upon which of the dozen or so strokes you use.. by that time she will be very very lubricated.

Then again of course, saliva is a good lubricant and the tongue can part things gently.. so have you considered taking your time and really treating her .

I havent found that asian girls are very much different to caucasian.
It is a matter of care, consideration and gentleness.



When you have mastered tha basics of that... only then even consider any other passage!

Vegeta

maybe he means 6 inches in circumference and yes i am serious

Marksie

Vegeta wrote:

maybe he means 6 inches in circumference and yes i am serious

Then it wouldn't be average as stated in the original post. Unless he has been crossed with an elephant and comes from a long line of human/elephant crosses

Angeles

Vegeta wrote:

maybe he means 6 inches in circumference and yes i am serious

Football in the groin would take a new meaning!!

To OP, If it is a case that even after forplay and slow practise your not getting anywhere, advise her about going to a GP.