Threesome

LegacyUser

I'm 8 years married and I'm looking for ways to spice up our sex life and I was considering a threesome with another feamle. The problem is that my wife is against the idea were both straight.

Is there anybody out there in a relationship who has had a threesome? Do you have intercourse with teh bothe of them or is one just for for tease, etc?

how do i get my wife around the idea?

free2fly

If your wife isn't into it I seriously doubt you are going to get her to agree quite frankly. there are many other ways to spice up a sex life without resorting to a threesome that she wants no part of. And I think trying to make her come round to your way of thinking is a bit selfish.

King of Kings

Advice_jan wrote:

how do i get my wife around the idea?

you don't - you respect your wife and stop being selfish.
Pay attention to your wife and make a proper go of your marriage.
You can have more fun with the two of you. Go buy a book along the lines of 101 weird sex positions and go try them

forbairt

Advice_jan wrote:

I'm 8 years married and I'm looking for ways to spice up our sex life and I was considering a threesome with another feamle. The problem is that my wife is against the idea were both straight.

Is there anybody out there in a relationship who has had a threesome? Do you have intercourse with teh bothe of them or is one just for for tease, etc?

how do i get my wife around the idea?

This of it this way .... how does your wife get you around to the idea of a threesome with another guy ?

Fanny Cradock

Do you not see an insurmountable problem when your wife tells you that she isn't into it? You say you are straight, well, would you be happy if she tried to force a threesome with another man on you? I'd guess not.

Cop on - zip up your mickey

Talliesin

Advice_jan wrote:

how do i get my wife around the idea?

Any prospective third party with half a clue is going to run, not walk, from this.

Threesomes can go wrong badly enough when everyone involved is actively keen on the idea (not to say they can't go marvellously right, just that there are risks). Anyone not being happy with the idea to the extent that they absolutely want to do it and are not putting up with anyone else's preferences and you're just the sort of man that people involved in "alternative" sexuality laugh at (every kink and sexual subcommunity has their version of CHUDWAH's, those into threesomes have two versions; the guy who thinks chatting up lesbians is a good way to get some MFF action, and the guy looking for a threesome even though his partner is against it).

Motley Crue

If you want to spice up your sex life why not try Ann Summers. Its not really a porn store, and theres a lot of nice frilly things in there, as well as some stuff for guys. You could have a look around, find some nice 'toys', and have fun that way. By inviting another person to share in sexual intercourse with your wife its destroying the privateness you share together.

Carrigart Exile

Advice_jan wrote:

I'm 8 years married and I'm looking for ways to spice up our sex life and I was considering a threesome with another feamle. The problem is that my wife is against the idea were both straight.

Is there anybody out there in a relationship who has had a threesome? Do you have intercourse with teh bothe of them or is one just for for tease, etc?

how do i get my wife around the idea?

Look mate, go down this road and the next threesome you have will be with a lawyer sorting out your divorce. Would it not be better to recapture the magic with your wife

dame

Advice_jan wrote:

how do i get my wife around the idea?

You don't. She's said no so that's that. You can fantasise about it if you like but it's not going to happen. If you keep on about it your wife will just get fed up with you and angry and you'll have bigger problems then.

Kinetic^

Advice_jan wrote:

how do i get my wife around the idea?

Bring the other girl upstairs on the sly. Then bring your wife up there, blindfolded of course, then open door and say "Surprise"........then you wake up in your corn flakes and realise that your wife has said no and if you pursue this she'll leave your selfish ass!!! :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

I'm looking for ways to spice up [bold]our[/b]sex life and [bold]I[/b] was considering a threesome

maybe instead of coming up with ideas to satisfy yourself you should ask your wife what she'd like?

Miss Fluff

Motley Crue wrote:

If you want to spice up your sex life why not try Ann Summers.

I agree.

Go and buy your equipement for a threesome in Ann Summers, i.e. a rather large cock to play with.

And NO, there is no way of getting your wife "round the idea". Either she is into it or not and pressuring her into taking part under duress doesn't say much about you as man or as a husband. Sounds to me like your just looking for a legitimate excuse to cheat. Cop yourself on and respect your wife's wishes.

Dragan

To be honest I think it's man up time for the OP. It seems to me that you are not some much into the idea of a threesome with your wife as much as sex with another woman. Don't get me wrong, I understand that 8 years can be a long time to have sex with the same person but the simple fact is that if your no longer attracted sexually to your partner you need to ask yourself why and take the available steps to solve that. Introducing another party as a way to make yourself feel excited is not the way to go with this one.

bolliwoodi

Advice_jan wrote:

I was considering a threesome with another feamle. The problem is that my wife is against the idea were both straight.


how do i get my wife around the idea?

well lets see.....

1. shes straight

2. your trying to get her to do something she doesnt want to do

3. Why do you automatically decide it HAS to be with another female

If your wife tried 2 get you to sleep with another bloke you would go mental-And you know it!

Zombrex

Advice_jan wrote:

The problem is that my wife is against the idea were both straight.

how do i get my wife around the idea?

If you wife isn't on for a bit of girl on girl action then I don't see you working her around to the idea.

Put it this way, do you think your wife could work you around to sleeping with a bloke?

unreggd

If ye cant please one woman, I dont see how tryin to please 2 at the same time will help

craichoe

Get naked and stick on a gas mask and wait till she gets home ... make sure you have a raging hard on ... then surprise sex her.

This should give you about the same reaction as if you try to force her into having a threesome.

ELLIEJ

what a load of BS. Grow up and why dont you spend as much time entertaining your wife as you did making up that silly post. you may be bored with her but have you ever considered in your 'big ego' world that maybe she is bored with you too???????

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

LegacyUser

'Ok as an opposing view here I thought id post. I've had a threesome and it didnt go to bad, so long as you all work out boundaries (this is normally done during)and i dint go to far with the other girl. the next day things where if im honest a bit awkward but it was puely because me and my girlfriend (long term) didnt know how the other was going to react.
she had never had any kind of a girl on girl experience but she had enjoyed it but tought i might be jealous, likewise with myself. i didnt know if she was jealous about things id done with the other girl (who is a good friend who'd never done anything like that either).
for a few weeks we skirted round the issue then when it came up we both admitted we had enjoyed the experience. we plan to maybe do it again some day.
my point being that we did it as sexual exploration and, while it is a minefield, if you discuss it properly it can happen.but you have to be doing it for the right reasons

for instance we are both madly in love and in no way felt the other girl as a threat, more as a glorified sex toy we could both enjoy, i know that sounds horrible but still.
we did it in the knowledge that it wasn't going to be a regular thing and aslo neither of us felt that it was done because the other partner was no longer attracted to them.

so you may want to actually think about it a bit. for instance do you want a threesome because your sick of your wife? because that will destroy your marriage. however if you want to spice up your marraige maybe try starting off a little further down the mountain. like start watching porn together and introducing toys in bed then maybe some role play which might open the door to the idea of the thrill of sex with a third person, lead into it. your only hope is to lead into it.
Im aware of how dull sex can get in marraiges after awhile and i dont think your wrong or sick because you want to spice up your relationship, but if you want to do it do it for the right reasons, if you just want to sleep with another woman then break up.

also its been said before but if shes not into , respect her wishes. threesomes are no fun when your sleeping aloine on the couch.'

Love2love

You selfish Prat. She said NO!!!!

Nevyn

Love2love Banned for being unhelpful, for personal abuse and failing to read the charter.

LegacyUser

Keep this up and you will get a threesome ; you, your wife and her solicitor....

dudara

I must say that I agree with a lot of the previous posters here. Why are you trying to sneak this around your wife, instead of talking to her?

She's not going to miraclously change her opinion just because you managed to blindside her. You have to pay heed to her opinions on this. Otherwise you really are just being selfish.

She might really like the idea of this, but could have insecurities about it, worries about whether you might prefer the other woman etc, or she might not just like the idea, full stop. But you won't know until you talk to her.

rediguana

Advice_jan wrote:

I'm 8 years married and I'm looking for ways to spice up our sex life and I was considering a threesome with another feamle. The problem is that my wife is against the idea were both straight.

Is there anybody out there in a relationship who has had a threesome? Do you have intercourse with teh bothe of them or is one just for for tease, etc?

how do i get my wife around the idea?

I didn't read the other replies so sorry if someone has already said it, but why don't you suggest a MFM threesome? I'd say she'd go for that?

bugs90

I don't think I've ever seen someone so unanimously shot down:D