What to do???

dceire

Ok, I currently find myself in a very confused and vulnerable position I'll try to summarise this as well as possible.

I started back in college this year and met a new girl on my course. She had a bf & we became very friendly I’d give her a lift in & we'd txt and call each other daily. She broke up wit her bf in October and we started to see more of each other and became more than just friends kissing etc.

We never became an official couple or anything and over Christmas we seemed to loose contact with each other for no apparent reason although she had problems at home and also with her health (long long story) Anyway we started back after the break and she told me she got back with her ex but still has strong feelings for me & doesn’t know why she's with her bf! I asked her to leave him for me because of this but she said she'd only do it on her own time and doesn’t want a relationship if she dose because she's been with him almost 2yrs now.

Since then things are pretty much the same except for the physical side of things she flirts with me constantly in college & on the phone etc. I have strong feelings for her and am struggling to get over her being in the same course in college isnt helping in the slightest.

Sorry for the long post but I'm confused as to what to do next. Any advice??? Anyone!!!

vorbis

I reckon she's enjoying the attention she's getting from both you and her bf. Sorry but if she wanted to be with you, she wouldn't have gone back to her bf. Staying around her will only do your head in. I'd recommend cutting contact with her for a while and hanging out with her friends. Also look for a girl that actually wants to be with you. Its way less headwrecking!

dceire

I know your right i'm just in denial i guess, althought its a bit difficult to cut contact with her being in college & having the same close freinds in college as her!

Ruu_Old

She is playing games here and its messing with your head. Cutting contact or as best you can to avoid her without too much effort is probably the best course of action here alright. Sorry but she doesn't want a relationship with you it looks like. You deserve better than that.

AngryBadger

Seriously, it's a two way thing, if she was interested in anything more than keeping you around for the extra attention, she'd show it, by breaking up with himself, or making more of a effort to stay in touch, or anything at all basically.

Which she's not doing. To the kerb with her m'lad!

Black Swan

Facts:
(1) She went back to her ex (and stopped dating you)
(2) She did not plan on breaking up with her b/f (if she did, "on her own time")
(3) If she did leave him, she "doesn't want a relationship"

Not very promising for you being with her anytime soon, if ever?

jellie

I dont mean to be cruel, but it sounds to me like shes keeping you sweet incase she breaks up with her bf again, so youll be readily available if that happens.
She has said that even if they break up she will not have a relationship with you, so at best youll get kissing etc.

As others have said, she likes the attention. Stop giving her the attention & treat her as you would any other friend. I dont think shes worth waiting for if shes treating u like this

davyjose

In all probability the advice you've been given is true, but not for sure. I was in a very similar situ a few years back and in the end I got the girl (we've since broke up) and spent a few happy years together.
You have to be objective about your own situ, and yeah make some space. If she wants you for real, you'll find out quick enough!