Invisble- Lost Fridenship/screw up

LegacyUser

So there is far too much messy back ground to go into in just one thread, but to begin in sum, I fell for one of my closest friends over 6 months ago, and though perfectly aware that he didn't feel the same way, allowed myself to develop feelings. We now aren't talking.

When I got back to college I saw more of him than I had over the summer. I got more confused, he got a girlfriend, things began to level out. We were getting to some where like friendship. I still had feelings for him but was putting them aside, then he and his girlfriend broke up and I was a mess again. What should I do. So I decided it was time to put it behind me. Start scoring new people, etc.

So, while very drunk one night, I socred his best friend who is also my friend. For some reason most people that the guy and I know mutually decided not to say anything to him. The friend and I both agreed that it had meant nothing, was a mistake and forgot about it. Then at a party, in a fairly crude manner the guy found out that I had scored his friend. I drunk again, got very upset at the guys reaction. SInce that night over 3 weeks ago the guy has not said so much as 3 words to me. I have literally become invisble to him, in that he can walk into, walk directly past me, and if he acknowledges my existance its a shock. I lost one of my closest friends, and its making me feel like crap. I'm distracted and irritable. I'm trying to spend more time at home and less time in college so I don't have to deal with it. I am genuinely sad, and still quite upset.

The most obvious reaction I get from people is that he wouldn't have reacted this badly if he didn't feel something for me, but I was trying to play by his rules and just be friends and that went arse ways.Also thinking that its cos he feels something, which I believe he does isn't helping. I just want advice as to how to move forward. Thanks.

Ruu_Old

I reckon your friends are correct in saying that he has feelings for you. You both need to sit down, admit both your mistakes and work things out. Give him a call, text or something and let him know that if you want to talk then do so but that you won't be waiting around. Its a silly waste of time waiting around for something to happen.

Boston

Ruu wrote:

I reckon your friends are correct in saying that he has feelings for you. You both need to sit down, admit both your mistakes and work things out. Give him a call, text or something and let him know that if you want to talk then do so but that you won't be waiting around. Its a silly waste of time waiting around for something to happen.

Are you actually a guy?

The OP scores his best mate, and all his friends lie to him about it. Theres plenty there to be mad about.

Ruu_Old

Well it was a mistake albeit a big one.

Boston

The first thing that would go through my head in a situation like that was that the OP was trying to steal my best mate. Not, omg I really love her, better threat her badly.