How Long Should I Wait Before Texting Her

LegacyUser

Hi all,

After a night out on the town on Thursday (night, of course!!!) I got a girls number. We talked for about ten minutes as we knew each other, but not at all well - we had been in the same class in college for about a week and played in a game of soccer together that was all! However we remembered each others faces if not our names.

After talking for a while I asked her for her number and duly got it. I was completely sober at the time as I had not drank that night at all and to be honest I thought she seemed fairly sober...maybe a little merry but that was all.

I'm, just wondering, how long should I wait till I text her? I was thinking to leave it till Saturday (today)...

Any suggestions or does this even matter?

Another thing - can you tell by what a girl wrote in her text, if she is some way interested in you? I always try to interpret txts but am wondering is it a futile thing to do!

GrumPy

Texting her today seems fine, if you leave it too late she'll think your not bothered.

I reckon trying to interpret txts from women is a difficult thing to get right.
95% of the time, your 100% wrong (with me anyway )

Black Swan

Don't wait too long or she will think you're not really interested. Today (Saturday) should be OK.

Now, as to reading her feelings for you through her texts, please be aware that all people are different, so the only way you will really know from texting is to get to know her better first.

Rb

Don't play games, just text her when you want to text her.

Regarding interpreting peoples intents/feelings/other through their texts, I can read some people like an open book whether it be them talking to me, texting/Im/email etc. Some people I can't though, really depends on the person involved and how well I know them. Btw if you have to actually try to do it, you're just not able to and probably won't be able to in the near future.

Heyes

As RB-ie said DONT play games. I dont get why people feel they have to wait a certain amount of time to text or ring. If you like her, text her anytime. at least you ll both know where you stand and you wont be standing around guessing all the time. Makes life a lot easier and more relaxed for you both.

LegacyUser

I disagree with everyone posting here.

I say you wait until Sunday then give her a text. Think about it...do u really want to come across being that desperate that you are going to text a girl you hardly know on a saturday? You should be busy today having fun doing whatever...not texting a girl you barely know.

I reckon text her 2mro, ask her how she is and did she have a good weekend. Not on a saturday...your meant to be having fun...or at least she is meant to think ur a busy guy...

Then when/if you are getting positive responses from her, i reckon you call her say a day or two later and ask her straight up over the phone if she wants to do something on a day u decide...then take it from there...play it cool. It just looks better...

Pigman II

Wait no long, and phone her don't text her. Texting is for pussies.

King of Kings

playing games is for fools. if you like her let her know.
it's not desperation - it's showing that you know what you want which is confidence - which women like.

I think you should ring her cos if you text her and it takes a while for her to text back (no credit etc...) you'll think she is not interested etc....

Ruu_Old

Agreed with the phone and less of the texting. It doesn't have to be anything heavy. "Enjoy your night, yeah?" sort of thing. Good luck.

NADA

Always wonder what the point of waiting to text is. I mean what was the situation when there was no texting?

LegacyUser

'She's probably waiting on your text. Do it today. The weekend is a great time to do it, you can ask if she's going out anywhere tonight. Possibly even meet up.
Personally, I think anything after the next day is fine to text. (It shows you're keen without being too keen)'

the whole year inn

When is the next world cup?Id say text her when ever you want I think the longer you leave it makes it worse ,chances are she will text back tho ,throw on the charm and dont try and read to much into the texts/calls.Sounds of things you have a chance.

Good luck!

biko

rb_ie wrote:

Don't play games, just text her when you want to text her.

QFT If you want her, show it. Playing aloof is not always the best option. Honesty and flatter is

LegacyUser

'Wait until she somehow gets your number and texts you. If she's truly interested in you she's probably searching for it furiously as i type this. After she texts. This could be days/weeks or months wait exactly twice the length of time it's taken her to text you. This is a guarenteed method for success. Consult your astrologer to verify.'

Kolodny

cheesedude wrote:

I say you wait until Sunday then give her a text. Think about it...do u really want to come across being that desperate that you are going to text a girl you hardly know on a saturday? You should be busy today having fun doing whatever...not texting a girl you barely know.

But on the other hand...

What if she's been hoping she'd hear from him by the weekend so they could arrange to meet up and she writes him off because she's heard nothing and goes out at the weekend and meets some other guy?

Numberman, leave it too long and she'll think you're not interested. Ok, maybe you don't want to appear too eager (ringing her the next morning might be a bit much!) but all this stuff about waiting a few days - there no bloody set rule! If you like her just go for it. If you're worried about interpreting texts then call instead. Much easier to gauge a persons level of interest through actual conversation

LegacyUser

'Well I did text her but I got no reply. I should really have called but I was in work so I couldn't...

I'll probably end up seeing her around college anyway which would be even better still!'

LegacyUser

Kolodny wrote:

But on the other hand...

What if she's been hoping she'd hear from him by the weekend so they could arrange to meet up and she writes him off because she's heard nothing and goes out at the weekend and meets some other guy?

If she likes what she saw then she will be wondering why isn't this guy calling her sooner? That's the whole point...when she can't see you, she wonders what your doing...it's like when your girlfriend goes out without telling you on a saturday night...you ponder about what she is up too, wondering why she didn't call...(well i hope you would anyway)

I still recommend my advice, text her today (Sunday) and then when u pass a few txts back and forth, call her on tuesday