Try get your head around this one...

Epicpriest

OK, here we go.

I met a girl a while back with some friends. Really nice girl, loved everything i love (music). We clicked instantly. She had met a guy a few weeks before and she's going out with him. But that nught she was saying he's boring and she doesn't know why she's going out with him etc, and she gave me her number.

We were texting etc, nothing major. But she wanted to meet me again.
She didn't break up with him, and we met up, (with friends again etc). Right away she came over to me and we started talking all night, totally engulfed.
Anyway, she had to go meet some friends in another pub but said she'd be back.

I went to the bar and this gorgeous girl started talking to me (stunning girl). And after about 10 mins she asked if i wanted to go back for a few smokes to her place. I had a good bit of booze so i did just that.

Anyway i ended up sleeping with this girl of course, and we started smoking some more. The other girl then started texting me and sounded genuinly pis*ed off with me saying she thought we were getting on so well and that im a prick for doing that.

I really like the girl and i dont know why went with someone else, i think it's her boyfriend maybe. But i think if i had been with her she may have knocked that on the head.

I was talking to her yesterday and she said she was just kidding about the texts but i could tell she was angry with me..

What should i do?

tj-music.com

You better get body armour and outta there - I actually think that she has lost complete faith and trust because you actually "pre-cheated" her. Leaves a bad taste and might just diminish your chances to ZERO.

Better move on!

Beruthiel

Epicpriest wrote:

I was talking to her yesterday and she said she was just kidding about the texts but i could tell she was angry with me..

Well I for one think she has some nerve.
She's already got a b/f and so is not free.
You are single and free to do as you please.
What were you supposed to do, hang around and 'wait' to see if she would finish with him
You did nothing wrong.
Get on with what you're doing already, if she wishes, she can get in touch when she's single again.

Keano

Well you did nothing wrong. She has a boyfriend! You are single... I think you should forget about her. Let her come to you and apologise for giving out you. She wants to have it all her own way.

Elphaba

TJ If that's the case then he only did it after she pre cheated him!

Anyway it seems the girl needs to decide what she wants. A few years ago I got to be really good friends with a bloke even though I was goin out with someone at the time. In the end I broke up with the fella to be with this bloke friend and we went out for about 2 and a half years. Not the best way for it to happen but I dont regret a thing.

If you really like her then I think you should suss out how much she likes you and why she's still with the other fella if she slates him and is out talkin to u all night

david

Well at least you know now that this girl is crazy about you, it was bang out of line giving out to you though

ChRoMe

tj-music.com wrote:

because you actually "pre-cheated" her

Could you please explain this term as I dont understand how you can cheat on someone that you are not in a relationship with.

For what its worth she sounds like she really likes you but is making sure she has someone else before she leaves her current boyfriend.

Heisenberg.

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dr.bollocko

Yeah that relationship isnt gonna go well If she frigging psycho texts you like that whilst you arent going out, havent done anything physical and she has ANOTHER boyfriend.
Clearly she is just a crazy bitch and best avoided.

Epicpriest

Well let me give you more info, and try to get some answers.

She was saying that she was bored with her BF and didn't know why she was with him. Thats her telling me something in a round about way yes?

Then i text her a few times and asid basically "something will happen when we meet", and she said "no it wont, or maybe it will".

When we met looks like she still liked me, but i messed it up big time.

Her texts were with a friend of mine, he was writing stuff to, but some of it was her i could tell, saying "im not special to her anymore after that" and "so long" and all this stuff. My friend was talking to me the next day and said she looked genuinly peeved at me even though she was laughing it off, and when i spoke to her she was trying to laugh it off aswell, and when i asked did she want to meet up for a chat she said no.

Does that help?

ChRoMe

Epicpriest wrote:

saying "im not special to her anymore after that" and "so long"

She is "teh crazy" I'd advise you to steer well clear of this one.

Btw you didnt mess anything up

Epicpriest

Do you think she was just joking? She saw me kissing this girl outside a pub. Like do you think maybe she didn't like me?

Because to be honest i dont want a relationship with her, i'd rather just sleep with her. I know it sounds off, but she's quite fit and seems like my type of girl (apart from the boyfriend thing) but i dont know if i'd trust her.

Maybe i could salvage something from it?

LegacyUser

Epicpriest, it sounds like this girl really likes you. If you think there's some kind of future with this girl, then I think you should try going out with her. But do not, whatever you do, go out with her just so you can sleep with her. I imagine she wouldn't be the kind of girl who would be too happy about that (seeing as she sent you (a single guy) ratty texts just for heading off with someone else!)

nikolaitr

Epicpriest wrote:

Because to be honest i dont want a relationship with her, i'd rather just sleep with her.

That comment decides it for me. Yes you were right in going home with the other girl, because well to be honest, a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush. But to say you are putting her through all this heart ache and making her break up with her boyfriend just to have sex with her is CHEAP.


There are plenty of un-attached hot girls you can have sex with, you are just messing with this girl.

Thats not fair and is pretty low.

Epicpriest

It's not like that. I dont know what i want. im so confused.

She would be the perfect girl for me. I would stik with her. I suppose im just using the "sleeping" this as a defence to make myself feel better about possibly ruining something you know?

Do you think theres anything i can do?

AnonoBoy

nikolaitr wrote:

There are plenty of un-attached hot girls you can have sex with, you are just messing with this girl.

AnonoBoy would appreciate a PM with some of these girls phone numbers.

[But seriously folks.....]
The girl has no real right to be mad at you. She has a boyfriend and can't expect to wait around while she has her ego stroked by all the attention she's getting from you. She may have been planning to go off with you but then again maybe she may have been planning to flirt with you heavily just to remind herself she can pull if she wants to and then go off home to her boyfriend leaving you frutstrated and confused.

If she's bored with her boyfriend and wants something else let her dump him before she starts hooking up with you. It's her choice. But I would recommend not encouraging this if you only intend to ride her and never call her again.

The_B_Man

I think the scientist has it right. women work the opposite of fellas. that'll make her jealous and make it easier for u to get wit her, once she "calms down".