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  • 06-01-2007 5:43pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi I'm writing on behalf of my daughter who is 17 and I wanted to know if there was anywhere she could go to make friends as her old ones have basically lost contact. She is also quite shy, quiet and introverted.

    Any help would be great.


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  • #2
    Ruu_Old
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    Is there any clubs or societies she could join where you live? What interests has she got?


  • #3
    Rb
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    As Ruu said, she should join some clubs or societies that she has an interest in around your area, any extra curricular activities/sports/clubs she has an interest in at school would be good as well. Even if its just joining the local athletics club, most are very welcoming to beginners from what I hear and it'd be a good way to keep fit and make new friends while shes doing it.


  • #4
    Caliden
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,982 ✭✭✭Caliden


    Assuming she is secondary school I wouldn't worry too much as I lost all contact with my old friends once I started going to college. I still see them when I go out but I don't go out with them anymore.
    I usually hang out with friends from my course or go out with my neighbour and his buddies, well I would consider them my friends now by this stage.


  • #5
    hunnymonster
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,365 ✭✭✭hunnymonster


    When I was that age, I was in a running club that was my whole social life. That's not much use if she's not interested in sport though. How about the red cross or civil defence. Some girls in my class had a lot of fun when they joined these groups.


  • #6
    Stargal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,626 ✭✭✭Stargal


    If she's not into sports then organisations like the Red Cross or Order of Malta can be a good way of meeting loads of new people, gaining new skills and most importantly, developing confidence.

    Also, as a starter, how about getting her to set up an account on boards? It could be a good way to get her interacting with other people, and she could talk to people who have similar interests to her (even if that's just films or tv!)

    Hope everything works out okay for you both. If it's any help, kids are usually a lot more resilient than you think. My mam used to worry about one of my sisters in much the same way as you are now, but she's turned out to be one of the happiest and most outgoing people I know.


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  • #7
    tallaght01
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    Agree witht he above about the red cross/order of malta. I joined the red cross when I was about 14, and ended up at medical school because of it. Plus met people that I'm still in touch with now 15 years later. They're usually full of welcoming people, and they teach you something useful.

    Hope it works out for you guys.


  • #8
    custardcreams
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    the people responded are dead right. its a great way to meet people who are motivated and who are normally sociable etc. there is also irish dancing in a pub in smithfield, defence forces reserve, camoige club..

    what area are ye in ?


  • #9
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,655 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    Ruu wrote:
    Is there any clubs or societies she could join where you live? What interests has she got?
    Good advice.


  • #10
    darkflower
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    Go with her to parties and occassions. Socializing will indirectly bring her to future acquaintances and a couple or more of those acquaintances would become lasting friends. I did that to my teen too!;)


  • #11
    chamlis
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    darkflower wrote:
    Go with her to parties and occassions. Socializing will indirectly bring her to future acquaintances and a couple or more of those acquaintances would become lasting friends. I did that to my teen too!;)
    I'm quite certain any Daughter or Son would be mortified by their Mom going to a party with them :confused:

    Maybe I'm wrong here, but when were Moms ever Cool? ;)


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  • #12
    Steyr
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,266 ✭✭✭Steyr


    worried_mom wrote:
    Hi I'm writing on behalf of my daughter who is 17 and I wanted to know if there was anywhere she could go to make friends as her old ones have basically lost contact. She is also quite shy, quiet and introverted.

    Any help would be great.


    Or maybe try the Irish Army Reserve, it would do wonders for her to build up her discipline,respect,honour and on top of that would be trust as you have to trust the Soldiers she would work with especially in the use of Live Ammunition, she would also get to have great friends along the way, and weekends away on Camps around Ireland meeting new people and taking part in Operations with the PDF ( Regular Army ) im in it for 6+ years now and love every second of it and i take great pride in it, i have many many friends out of it who i see alot and socialise with and i would recommend it to anybody as long as your reasonably fit and drug free then there is nothing stopping you.


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