Damn confusing woman!

Scráib

Hey all, I'm looking for a few opinions about this;

I'm currently in final year in college, and in october I met this postgrad who I thought I clicked really well with. Anyway long story short, I got in contact with her by email and immediatly she told me she wanted me to help her with an sport that we both do, and sent me her number.

Now since then we've met up on several occasions, we've trained, had dinner and I even spent an afternoon in her gaff chatting away to her(though to date nothing has happened). Now I like her, and I would like to go out with the girl. Our cummunications have been pretty flirty to be honest, and I was told that "I know the way into a girls heart" by her a short while ago. I thought I was heading for a relationship with a great girl, however a week or so ago I discovered (through Bebo no less)she has a boyfriend. Everytime she's talked about the guy she's described him as a 'friend of hers'.

So thats where I am now. She's away for the next few weeks so I've time to think about it. Have I misread an very outgoing personality for affection, or is she looking to try something without the boyfriend knowing? If the latter I'd like to think I'd do the honorable thing and walk away, but my willpower would be seriously tested by it because of my affection for her.

So, as I said in the thread title: Damn confusing womAn!

py2006

I met a girl a year ago. She was so friendly and chatty and seemed genuinely interested in me! She was quite flirty and suggestive at times! We got on really well and went out for coffee and drinks on a regular basis! But I found out that she had absolutely no interest in me other than friendship. It was a killer as I had really fallen for her!

So I guess my point is that don't always assume that just because they seem interested that they are!

Edit: Funny change of title!

LegacyUser

If she didn't tell you she had a boyfriend she is probably interested. Describing him as 'a friend' means she doesn't wanna admit she has a boyfriend, I'd say wait it out.

honru

Is there much sexual chemistry between the two of you? Any touching going on? Would she be comfortable with you as a potential lover?

Personally I would find another woman who can be more trustworthy, but do whatever's in your best interest OP.

rugbug86

is he defo her boyf? bebo other half doesn't mean boyf, could just be good friends?

hmmmm

Scr&#225 wrote: »

however a week or so ago I discovered (through Bebo no less)she has a boyfriend. Everytime she's talked about the guy she's described him as a 'friend of hers'.

Ask her then. Say you saw something on bebo and was not sure. I mean you do not want to try it on with her if she has a boyfriend anyway so theres no harm in asking.

Sangre

Ask her out, feign complete lack of knowledge on any boyfriends or potentials. If she says sorry I'm going out with someone then you've answer.

Although some girls will put their other-half as the last person they'd go out with (but still good friends) just as an in-joke.

cornbb

Sangre wrote:

Ask her out, feign complete lack of knowledge on any boyfriends or potentials. If she says sorry I'm going out with someone then you've answer.

Although some girls will put their other-half as the last person they'd go out with (but still good friends) just as an in-joke.

Second that. Give it a shot. if it turns out she really has a bf then at least you asked. If she turns you down, at least you asked. Either way I guess you can still be friends.

Adam

Scr&#225 wrote: »

Our cummunications

Where's the problem?!

Seriously though, I say as others have, wait it out. Or go with the 'ask her out and pretend you didn't know she was seeing someone' method. Nothing to lose really!

Scráib

Hmm... Didn't my title say 'Women' as opposed to 'Woman'? I'd best not say anything;)

rugbug86 wrote:

is he defo her boyf? bebo other half doesn't mean boyf, could just be good friends?

I'm 99% sure he's a boyfriend, there were comments from one to the other on their respective pages that didn't leave much doubt. There was even a comment on yer man's page from a friend congratulating him on getting with her so I'm pretty sure.

Sangre wrote:

Ask her out, feign complete lack of knowledge on any boyfriends or potentials. If she says sorry I'm going out with someone then you've answer.

I did ask her out to the cinema once, and her response was that she had a deadline to meet so she couldn't, no mention of a boyfriend then either. It was a credible excuse I suppose, it was late December and everyone I knew had deadlines to meet at that stage.

When I see her next I'll drop it into a conversation about a boyfriend and see her response. If she admits it I'll stick with the friendship, if she denies it... well I think I'll just walk away. I think I'm better off not opening that particular can of worms, especially in final year.

Thanks for the advice so far folks, its been a big help!

Black Swan

Scr&#225 wrote: »

When I see her next I'll drop it into a conversation about a boyfriend and see her response. If she admits it I'll stick with the friendship, if she denies it... well I think I'll just walk away. I think I'm better off not opening that particular can of worms, especially in final year.

Sounds like a plan.