Was she lying?

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 2:57am #1

I'm trying to figure out whether or not this girl is lying to me or not. I've no idea where to put this thread but I think it's a bit of a personal issue so here goes.

I'm seeing this girl. But recently she's been making excuses why we can't meet. Either she's very unlucky or lying.
One of them was: her dad came round and while he was in her place he fell and broke his ankle. So she had to take him to the A&E. Few hours later I notice she's on Bebo so I text saying 'How's your dad' and she said she's still waiting for him to be seen.
Is this possible? Are there hospitals in the Dublin area (not sure which one she went to) in which people hanging around for a long time can go on the internet? Or do you think it was bull?

Just looking for some imput. I'm not too good at these sort of things!

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 9:43am

'hmmmm fibbing IMO. How often have u met before?? What impression do you get from her when u are together? From my experiance, and Im not proud of this, when i have been feeling lonely or that I need someone around for my ego but not interested them so much, i used to give the imression that I was interested and played games... no before anyone lashes out I have grown up and over that childish behaviour... and for any one reading this that acts like that... what goes around comes around..... Id not contact her and she will get in touch... when she does.. tell her to let u know when she is ready to meet up.. if u still want to .. meet her.. now she could be tellin the truth but this way your not accusing her....'

Dragan · 05-01-2007 9:53am

By "these type of things" I take it you mean trusting your partner?

My advice is simple. Either decided you trust her or decide you don't. If you do then you just have to run that risk that someday she might hurt you. That’s what trust is, you trusting that they other person will not hurt you. Trust is not a conditional thing.

If you decide you don't trust her then leave her. Sure, you might be wrong and she might be telling the truth but I imagine she won't want to be going out with someone who doesn't trust her anyway.

\m/_(>_<)_\m/ · 05-01-2007 10:02am

pleasehelp07 wrote:

Is this possible?

yes and very plausible,
you untrustworthiness of her makes me think you wont be seeing her much more, but that's only my opinion.
hope this helps.

Anti · 05-01-2007 10:38am

it is possible, that she was on bebo. I can access it from mobile, and go on msn too. Maybe she can. Or maybe she is lying to you and hoping you will find out and dump her.

2funki4wheelz · 05-01-2007 10:41am

You say 'excuses'. Aside from this incident, are there others that seem inplausible or made up just so she doesn't have to see you?

6th · 05-01-2007 10:44am

Are you guys astually 'seeing each other' or is it a case of you have gone out and YOU want more?

Black Swan · 05-01-2007 12:39pm

To trust, or not to trust, that is the question? Oh, in so far as internet access, she might be wardriving off an unsecured wifi router?

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 3:58pm

'Thanks for the replies! I take yer point, I'm not showing a lot of trust. Bit I don't know her well enough to trust her or not. I'm only getting to know her.

My real question is, is it possible for her to go online in a hospital? She can't go online from her mobile and she wouldn't have brought her laptop with her to go on a wifi. I dont know Dublin hospitals very well, are there hospitals out there that have computers for public use? Like mini net cafes or anything?

I know that sounds stupid but I really want to believe her....'

Rb · 05-01-2007 4:52pm

Blue_Lagoon wrote:

To trust, or not to trust, that is the question? Oh, in so far as internet access, she might be wardriving off an unsecured wifi router?

Thats on the provision that shes somewhat technically suave. I've never, ever been in a hospital that has an internet cafe in it though, so chances are if she doesn't know how to connect her laptop to unsecured wireless connections (why would she even bring it if she was going to A&E in the first place?) then shes lying.

Capt'n Midnight · 05-01-2007 5:45pm

I've got a small bump on my forehead. Got it opening the boot of a hatch back, didn't bother going to A&E because it was saturday evening and IIRC they won't give you stitches after three hours. So warm soapy water and a bump :mad: :mad: :mad: :mad:

The government are trying to get the average waiting time in A&E down to 6
hours. So the simpliest explanation I can think of is that she dropped him there and came home, and was talking to him on the phone. Or maybe her mum got the short straw of staying with him.

Technically if she has the 3G stuff with the PCMCIA card then she could get internet everywhere where a phone would work.

Sounds like a good business move - WiFi in A&E, people stuck there for hours.

serena06 · 05-01-2007 5:58pm

maybe someone was using her computer, it happens a lot.
it sounds like a genuine excuse. that or she doesn't like her dad too much :rolleyes:

loodles · 05-01-2007 6:17pm

Did you ask her why she was on Bebo? Go down the innocent route of "god I didnt realise they had internet in the hospitals, must have made your wait more pleasent "???
I suppose my questions would me how long you are together and has she cancelled any time before that you have been suspicious of? She may be looking for you to catch her out and dump her! Or as the previous post said, she may have popped home- if thats the case - why didnt she just meet you as planned?

rugbug86 · 05-01-2007 6:18pm

there's internet kiosks in the mater if that helps..

LegacyUser · 05-01-2007 11:52pm

Thank you Rugbug, that's exactly what I was wondering!

Shellie13 · 07-01-2007 6:40pm

ON the hospital one...maybe she waited with him for a while and then a sibling came n took over the responsibility so she could g home and eat and consequently go on bebo?!