need some help

LegacyUser

iv being goin out with this amazin girl for the last 10 months. its being great but yesterday she said she needed some time to herself for at least a week or two. im crazy in love with this girl. i know all she needs is time to think i cant influence her in any way. i have to give her the space but i need some help on coping with it. im wrecked. cant get up to go to work, eat or even think straight i just keep gettin upset over and over again. has anyone got any advice?

humanji

Just give her space. She'll either leave you completely or come back to you. Either way, you have no say in the matter.

Beetlebum

She has asked you to give her some space and you need to respect that. I know it's really difficult not knowing what's going on in her head but the best thing you can do is let her come back to you first. Don't text her, don't call her, don't contact her in anyway. If she is in fact having doubts and you contact her, it will more than likely confuse her further and posssibly even annoy her. If you give her time and space without caving in and contacting her, she may come to realise how much you mean to her. She might miss you and wonder what you're up to.

All you can really do at the moment is hope for the best but expect the worst. It's not easy but you'll get through this.

Ruu_Old

Keep yourself busy and don't pressure her. You both should be stronger and benefit from a little bit of time away from each other.

Rb

Agree with whats been said, give her the space shes asked for and don't put pressure on her.

beetlebum wrote:

All you can really do at the moment is hope for the best but expect the worst. It's not easy but you'll get through this.

Seconded.

dvega

humanji wrote:

Just give her space. She'll either leave you completely or come back to you. Either way, you have no say in the matter.

Im afraid its true all she wants to do is think about weather this relatationship is going somewhere or weather she'd be even happier been single for awhile.Its obvious she's thinking about this.
And im afraid want she wants at the end of it,you'll just have to accept.

LegacyUser

'maybe she want's to break up and just can't say it - happened to me a few years ago with a guy, gave him the space he wanted, never heard from him again, apart from bumping into him out the odd time, and him looking mighty awkward. never could bring myself to ask him why he'd not just say it.

but that's just my experience, everyone's different. any mutual friends you could subty ask about it? otherwise it's just wait and see...

out of interest, has anyone had a break that actually led to getting back together?'

cornbb

You've recognised what she needs and you don't seem to be battling it, so thats half the hard work already done. Now its just a matter of keeping the head. I know its tough but try to distract yourself somehow. Sport, music, arts & crafts, going out, knitting, whatever you're into. Hope it works out for you.

biko

Take time off and go away for a few days. Get wasted with mates.