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Dilemma

  • 03-01-2007 4:15pm
    #1
    a-non
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47 ✭


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  • #2
    free2fly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 565 ✭✭✭free2fly


    Are you sure you're not just bored with your relationship and that this new guy is just adding a bit of excitement? Do you want to make your relationship with your bf work?


  • #3
    Ruu_Old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    Agreed, I think this is just something new and fresh for you. You have to decide yourself but please be honest with your current partner and don't string him along.


  • #4
    biko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 81,220 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Would you consider taking a break from your bf? Rather than jumping from man to man I think you need a couple weeks alone from both to get your feelings sorted.


  • #5
    Doodee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,421 ✭✭✭Doodee


    well you have to be happy in life, thats whats important, but as others said, if its just a case of being aroused by this new flame then you could just be bored. Communication with your partner is the important thing, and if you talk and resolve the problems then it will become clear if its just a crush for this new toy, but if you cant resolve your problems then keep yourself in mind. it takes 2 people to make a relationship work.


  • #6
    sophiemarie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14 ✭sophiemarie


    Peolpe get bored in relationships sometimes. Maybe this guy is a way out of the relationship. Would you really feel this strongly about a guy if your relationship with your boyfriend was going well.
    Honesty is important in a successful relationship.
    How does your boyfriend feel about your new job? Does he miss you? Does he have a new life? Have ye talked about the possibility of meeting new people.
    Where do you see the future going for you and your boyfriend?
    "Don't leave the one you love for the one you like..."
    Love is a pretty special thing. You and your boyfriend are going out along time, there must be a reason for this. Love is a special thing. I'd think long and hard before I would give up this relationship.
    Think about how you feel about this guy in comparision to your boyfriend. Does he make you happier...do ye have better times...more chemistry..does he treat you better..? How did you feel about your boyfriend when ye first met? Maybe your feelings just need rekindling.
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  • #7
    dame
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,623 ✭✭✭dame


    biko wrote:
    Would you consider taking a break from your bf? Rather than jumping from man to man I think you need a couple weeks alone from both to get your feelings sorted.

    OP, I'd agree with this advice and also sophiemarie's. I think that even if you do decide to leave your current boyfriend, you should be single for a couple of months before you jump straight into a new relationship. You've been with one person for five years. You've changed a lot in your life recently and people change a little over time anyway. Maybe you need a bit of time to lead an independent life and rediscover yourself. When you've reintroduced yourself to you, the independent , whole person who can stand alone, then you will be better able to make decisions on which (if either) of these men, you would best like to spend time with.


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