why?

LegacyUser

so theres a guy who i was friends with (david), not very close friends we kind of hung around in different circles, but we got along well and in truth i always had a huge crush on him, anyway he started to make it seem that he liked me too, you know going out of his way to talk to me, sometimes i'd catch him looking at me from across the room, usually i'm fairly oblivious to these things but it was pretty obvious and eventually on a night out he kissed me, afterwards we were chatting away and the conversation unintentionally got a bit personal, far too personal he seemed really uncomfortable and from what i could gather he had serious trust issues, but he changed the subject as he obviously didn't want to talk about it and after that the atmosphere got a bit awkward to say the least. The next day it was like he wished the whole thing had never happened, he was very cool towards me and for the following week in college made no attempt to talk to me, and seemed to be going out of the way to avoid me. i thought fair enough the guys clearly not interested and i kissed another guy on a night out which only made me realise just how much i liked David. The following week on the usual group night out, i went over to say hello he basically muttered a hello back and turned his back to me and started talking to someone else, i tried again to talk to him later on and he very vindictively told me about a load of girls he had kissed. anyway i drunkinly told him how much i liked him and he basically gave me the 'your a nice girl but im not interested' speech. needless to say i felt like a fuukin eejit. The bizzare thing is now hes done a complete u-turn and started being all friendly again, i've caught him looking at me and turning away numerous times in college and on nights out.
i just don't understand why? hes made it clear he's not interested. when he was 'cool' towards me i gave him his space, its obvious i feel ridiculous about the whole situation so why can't he afford me the same curtesy?

Every time i see him i can barely look him in the eye, i messed the whole thing up and to be honest now i can't handle being 'just friends'. i just don't know how to deal with the whole situation i can't pretend the whole thing never happened and i can't avoid him forever but it easier than feeling like a fool everytime i see him.

The_B_Man

my god!!!! im gonna quote ya here:

april-3rd wrote:

so ...i always had a huge crush on him, anyway he started to make it seem that he liked me too...he kissed me...i kissed another guy on a night out...I drunkinly told him how much i liked him and he basically gave me the 'your a nice girl but im not interested' speech. needless to say i felt like a fuukin eejit. The bizzare thing is now hes done a complete u-turn and started being all friendly again,...i just don't understand why?

take from that what you will!


i miss college!

Talliesin

april-3rd wrote:

i've caught him looking at me and turning away numerous times in college and on nights out.

He could just find you pleasant to the eye. Finding someone pleasing to the eye doesn't mean you'll necessarily want to date them, but you will want to look at them.

Or he could have changed his mind. Or he could be unsure (think of any of the "I think I fancy this girl but I'm not sure" type posts that have happened in this forum).

Bottle_of_Smoke

I think he's not sure if he wants you but he most certainly wants you to want him/