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How to quell feelings

  • 13-12-2006 6:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    I think im falling for/madly in lust with a married man... I realise this is the single most stupid situation iv gotten myself into in my life and im normally extreemly leavel headded but, i guess... **** happens to the best of us, so PLEASE spare me the lecture :)

    Anyway, im not going to ask what to do, i know what i have to do and thats get him out of my head before anything we both regrets happens...

    My question is how the hell do i do this??!!

    The problem is that I work with him, so i see him every day.
    Iv known him for over a year and we have a great friendship, nobody makes me laugh as much inside as he does, but unfortunatly the friendship has developed into something it shouldn't have (hes mad about me too).
    I really dont want to loose him as a mate - but i realise that if this is the only way forward, ill have to do just that.

    For the record, nothing has happened between us, but i feel horrible for knowing the way we both feel about each other...

    Has anybody got any level headed advice that can help me to steer our friendship back on track and away from the edge of reason where its headded fast, that also means i dont have to sacrifice our friendship, or at least our working relationship??


Comments

  • #2
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,812 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    You should seriously think about changing jobs and find a new employer. Then, perhaps you could stay friends. Also, you need to get out more and find that someone special.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yea defintely don't act on those feelings as nothing good will come of it no matter how much you like each other and you'll be the one getting the stick for it.

    Anyways thats not what your asking for so never mind. You should defintely consider changing jobs as inconvenient as that is because it's so much harder to stop liking someone if you see them everyday. Maybe try not seeing him as much if you get me because then it will give you a break and a bit of perspective.


  • #4
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    UpToNoGood wrote:
    I really dont want to loose him as a mate - but i realise that if this is the only way forward, ill have to do just that.

    You have answered your own question. It is probably best to change jobs and have no contact at all.


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