Girl Advice!

Bstatic

I've a bit of a problem and need some advice.
Ok, the thing is that there's this girl at work that recently let it be known that she really liked me, now not to sound arrogant or anything but I already knew that she did, it was kinda obvious! She's a really nice girl and good looking too. She's real easy to talk to also.
Anyway, the thing is that she's only 17 and in sixth year at school. I however am 23 and in 5th year of college. Would it be too weird to actually go out with her?

Its strange, if she was in first year college I wouldn't care its just that she's in school, you know?

Advice please....

o1s1n

Well shes 17 so its not like there'd be anything illegal going on. Hmmm. 6 years? Personally I wouldn't be able to handle that. I'm sure there would have to be conflicts as far as maturity levels?

Astro1996

she likes you, you like her. life is too short for what if's, but its up to you. all the best

falipo

go for it if you like her man its all up to you in the end

Ruu_Old

Go for it, who cares about what anyone else thinks? If you reckon there is a future for you both or some kind of a relationship, then why not. Best of luck whatever you decide.

rymus

o1s1n wrote:

I'm sure there would have to be conflicts as far as maturity levels?

That's all I'd be morbidly worried about tbh... It wouldn't be unlike poking pins in your eyeballs, trying to hold a conversation (let alone a relationship) with someone that's far less mature than you are. That's what I couldn't handle. It's all well and good to have a bit of arsing around and fun, but not 24/7

challengemaster

better to have tried than not at all, go for it and i wish you the best of luck

Bstatic

Wow! That was some quick advic

Yeah, I suppose the maturity could be an issue after a while.
Maybe I'll just see what happens you know and not worry bout it. You reassured me there with the advice, I was really focusing on the age gap.

I know its a long way away now but if anything did develop between us I really don't like the idea of being 24 and at the debs!

humbert

I'm 23 and I wouldn't do it. I do believe that it's each to their own but I'd hate to be that old guy(relatively speaking of course) walking down grafton street holding hands with the girl in the school uniform.

melekalikimaka

hummm if i was in your shoes i'd have half my friends telling me to go for it with jealous grins...and the others thinking i was sick. tbh its all cricket, nothing wrong with it, try it out, if itdoesn't work it doesnt work

Black Swan

Go for it!

kryan1

Blue_Lagoon wrote:

Go for it!

u have nothing to loose. go for it.

Volvoboy

Hmm, each to thier own but its a diffrent story when the other person is still in secondary school, very immiture, my sis is 16 average kid but, still very much a kid, and besides if in a years time a bloke of your vintage asks my sis out i would'nt be a happy bunny, also you'll have alot of ''Chats'' with her family member's.:rolleyes:




-VB-

BeardyGit

You know it already so don't bother asking strangers to validate something you know isn't on....

When you're done playing around with her, and realise she's not done growing up yet, you'll have spoiled things for her....

Sorry man, you're too old for her.

Lou.m

She is too young if she was 18 it might be different but she isnt and i am sorry but it does make a difference no matter how mature she may be. I agree with the above post if you did not know it was not ok you would not be asking. She is too young to make a sensible decision about this but you are not. Plus maybe in a year or so things would be different and maybe then. BUt she needs to be allowed to be a kid and do seventeen year old things. Besides saying i like you at seventeen means something comepletey different than it does at 23. You should leave it she is not ready. Take this from a girl who has been seventeen and got attention the crush a guy may have on you is something you can handle but if he acts on it, it starts to feel a bit weird regardless of whether you had a crush on him or not seventeen year old girls want to stoke the embers but they do not want the fire, in general they dont really know what they are doing.And you are not meant to at seventeen. Let her grow up a bit she is just a kid. Trust me leave it and i think you know you should. And it does matter what people think if those people might be her parents. Let her be seventeen it is the right thing to do.

Catari Jaguar

She won't even be able to go to pubs with you. ha ha. Too young man. She'd wreck your head with 17 year old antics. The games... giddiness... annoying friends.

Bstatic

She won't even be able to go to pubs with you

Oh yeah thats right!

And someone else said something about having a chat with her parents! **** that!

You're right peoples attitudes do change over time and its probably just a stupid crush. So I think I'll forget about it. But should I just string her along now until it goes nowhere? and not actually let her down, cos she'll probably start being weird with me then if I do, and I don't want to fall out with her, you know?

LegacyUser

'I would go for it, nothing illegal going on. If it doesn't work out then you haven't lost anything. I'm 22 and my girlfriend is 18 and I would consider her more mature than me! We have been going out a year now so it can work. Really depends on the people in question.'

spinandscribble

im in 2nd yr college and my boyfriends in 6th yr secondary school. not as bad but i can really see where you're coming from. its easier though because he's only ten months younger. still i've the debs in two months to look forward to :?

break it down: you dont see her as a kid and shes mature enough to deal with you and your friends. she'll be in college next year and tbh there isnt so much a stigma if the guys older.

one thing though, no matter how mature she is, its unlikely she has as much life experience. go slow with her for both your benefits, you dont want her to regret anything or her to be bad mouthing you for "pushing her'. let her choose the pace.

spinandscribble

Bstatic wrote:

You're right peoples attitudes do change over time and its probably just a stupid crush. So I think I'll forget about it. But should I just string her along now until it goes nowhere? and not actually let her down, cos she'll probably start being weird with me then if I do, and I don't want to fall out with her, you know?

string her along on purpose is never a option. i think a older guy did this to me once and it was by far the more painful thing he could have done. by stringing along i guess you mean flirting (touching her face, arm, back, hair and talking) and the odd peck on the cheek/mouth? ffs

just stop flirting with her and make a causal remark here and there about how you think guys who go out with younger girls arnt right. make your message clear the age gap is too wide if you prefer the direct approach.

claire h

Bstatic wrote:

Anyway, the thing is that she's only 17 and in sixth year at school. I however am 23 and in 5th year of college. Would it be too weird to actually go out with her?

Yes.

And you know it would. Otherwise you wouldn't be posting here.

LegacyUser

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Bstatic wrote:

Oh yeah thats right!


But should I just string her along now until it goes nowhere? and not actually let her down, cos she'll probably start being weird with me then if I do, and I don't want to fall out with her, you know?

yea you string her along until it goes nowhere?? - quite a painful thing to do there, she'll realise that and em ... good luck working with her then!

You should probably just act like you don't notice anything and she'll get bored after a while - she's 17, she'll move on.'