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  • 27-11-2006 12:05pm
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    LegacyUser
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    Right,l basically my ex is working away at the moment and I was due to go over an see him,he broke up with me a few weeks ago saying he cant sustain a distance relationship.

    I know he hasnt met anyone else cos a few of our friends are over with him and I would hear through the grapevine. I was devastated and Im jus pretty angry now. Ive been on a few dates since to keep myself going and have been working and living my life exactly the way I did before,Im not the type to curl up and die..but Ive been goin so far as nearly to put a mental block on the situation and I realised the other night,I really miss him.

    Hel be back in a few months and people reckon il hear from him then..but I jus dont know what to do or think,my head is all over the place,jus needed to rant really! We were supposed to spend xmas and new years together an hel be most likely spending it alone now,he is the type to want to do well at his work and I have the feeling thats why he broke it off,so he can concentrate on his life over there and not be worrying about me over here. Is it right to forgive him?

    Im a strong girl and I dont take **** from people but life is short..I just dont know what to do. I was really nasty when he broke up wid me,more out of shock really..I jus dont know,Im so angry at the moment!!


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    The_Conductor
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    Calm down, and when you are in a position to talk to him without emotions colouring what you intend to say to him, organise to talk to him and try to talk things through. If it is meant to be, it will be. Its not a nice place to be in- thats what its like when you really love someone and they let you down.

    Best of good luck.


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    MojoMaker
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    Unregg06 wrote:
    Ive been on a few dates since

    Sounds like you were devastated alright.


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    CathyMoran
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    The poor girl has the right to go on dates as she chooses.

    You rightly are still upset with him at the moment and are getting over the situation. I will agree with my fiancee smccarrick on this one that what will be will be but in the interim do try to move on. Good luck.


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    Black Swan
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    Well, I've been in a long distance relationship (LDR) for over 10 months due to work (thousands of kms apart). I get plenty of opportunites to find someone new (working in playland), but cannot think of breaking up. So, although you may love him to bits, I really wonder if the feelings were mutual? Something you need to consider?

    Also, he may not be ready for commitment? You will be together over the holidays, so a great time to talk about this?


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    hunnymonster
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    none of us can read someone else's mind but I have to agree with Blue Lagoon. My first thought was that it wasn't worth the hassle. sorry. I've been doing the long distance thing for almost 2 years now (we're in very specialised careers) and it's working for us but I can't wait until my life isn't dictated by the aerlingus timetable :-)


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    Ruu_Old
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    I was in a long distance relationship for over 2 years before getting married, thats me being 3,500 miles away from my (now wife of over 2 years). Talk about it face to face when ye meet up again. It takes a lot of strength to maintain a relationship of distance, maybe he was just not up to it.


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