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LegacyUser

first off,i never gave this subject any thought until last year. i have a small penis - i know this because i was told by a girl i was getting busy with while on holidays. needless to say that put a dampner on things. i always knew i wasnt the biggest fish in the tank but i did find this quite upsetting. we were well into eachother in the club, get back to the hotel and the look of abject disapointment in her eyes left me cold.

its not a micropenis, from what i've read i'm a little less than average in terms of length and even doing quite well in terms of girth but this encounter has completely knocked whatever little confidence i had for six and i havnt been able to let the 'cat out of the bag' since. i had been able to use my equipment to good effect in the past but since this i doubt that any of my previous experiences were anything more than the girls in question faking it for the sake of my feelings, and obviously i can never know for sure.

question for the girls (or guys ) - could you ever be happy with a guy with somewhat sub standard penis length? i'm basically the funny/witty guy of any group i'm in, which has seemed to appeal to girls, but nowadays i cant seem to follow through as i just dont feel i can come up with the goods.

i know its stupid but i feel pretty worthless and while there is more to life than sex, a girl cant survive on humour and personality alone.

Beruthiel

Become a Master of the Oral Technique.
I promise you, you will never have a complaint!

hallelujah

You probably dont have that small a ccok. You are going on the opinion of one girl. I wouldnt worry. Concentrate on learn how to use it to good effect.

LegacyUser

i too am in the same boat as you OP but the difference with me is that i have never had sex basically because of this. im too embarassed by what iv got and fear that i will be rejected and laughed at. my penis would be slightly less than average from what iv read. i think im getting better at dealing with it but it still is very tough to get over. should i just get on with it and forget what girls have to say and do the best i can, sure what else can i do

LegacyUser

never had any complains with regard my oral kung-fu.
as to 'using it to good effect' i always thought i had but in reality i dont know if they were lying or what.

littlesurfer

length is nothing its the girth that matters

Sleepy

OP, you can't go around assuming that every girl you've been with faked on you. The only way you'll get over this is by getting back in the saddle so to speak.

Most girls I've talked to about this say that while yes, size is something of an issue, technique is a much bigger one. I actually know some girls who reckon a guy's performance in bed is inversely related to the size of his equipment based on their experiences of guys who were bigger than average thinking the sheer size of their appendage meant they didn't need to do much more than 'stick it in'!

Now, whilst I'm sure that's a total generalisation, I'm someone who usually believe's there's no smoke without fire and that there's probably a kernel of truth in the generalisation somewhere.

There are positions which allow for deeper penetration than others (doggy style being the most famous) and if your size is an issue with a girl, these can be used to get around that but if as you say you're only slightly below average I can't imagine it'll be an issue for most girls. From what I've seen, for most girls a guy being well endowed is really only a preference from an aesthetic point of view (kind of like us guys' reactions to breasts).

Von Manstein

Different opinions on what 'average' actually is. When its done by the guy himself, the figure tends (and hence the overall average) to be bigger. The figure I've heard is 6,5. But then it's done by a doctor and hence more reliable, the figure is more like 6 inches.

Don't really think it's a big issue myself. I think it's quality over quantity at the end of the day.

miles teg

if you take a gander in the personal issues forum at the moment, you'll notice loads of penis problem posts... big penis, small penis, even hairy penis (I'm surprised smelly penis hasn't been posted). No matter what penis someone has they never seem happy. Forget about your one (women are never happy either) and just get on with it.

This post took 6 penis (seven including that one)

LegacyUser

'since you don't seem to have many replies from girls I thought I'd reply, I'm not going to say anything particuarly different from what you've already heard, just thought you might like to hear it from a female poster...

imo it really is a question of technique rather than size... so I wouldn't be worrying too much if I were you, a girl might be a bit surprised when they first see it but once they find out what you can do with it then it shouldn't be a problem.

I think I'd agree with the girls that Sleepy has spoken to you on the correlation between size and performance.. based on experience that can seem to be the case.. but then again it is quite a generalisation....'

chamlis

Guys, there should be a name for this: "Porn Syndrome".

Your lad works. You're just the same as the rest of us. I understand why you are insecure, but that gowl's opinion shouldn't matter a damn. Obviously she'd been around in order to be able to compare. So if she's not worth giving the time of day, why are you letting her ruin your life?

As for Porn Syndrome, those guys are freaks. Don't campare yourself to them, or what you percieve to be the norm or the ideal.

Like Ber said, oral goes a long way to making a girl happy. They also don't mind your size that much as long as it works and you know how to use it. Fact.

Nevyn

And what makes you think that all women have the same sized vagaina ?
Some are longer, some are shorter.
There is no one size fits all then it comes to body parts.

There are several positions that can shorten the length of the vagina allowing for deeper penetration, you just have to take the time to learn and figure out what works for you.

LegacyUser

'Now I have heard that penises that are shorter when not erect, kind of make up for lost length when they ARE erect. But I don't know all the details.

I would say that if it's functional, ie it gets erect and can go in a vagina, that's probably good enough for most women.

Keep in mind that the vagina is not really sensitive once you go further than a few inches in.

AND don't let just one person dictate your whole self image.'

democrates

That's putting all the focus on your member as if that's the sole medium of intimate contact, which is dead wrong.

I'm precisely average, but have had a few girlfriends who had been with giants before me. Assuming all was in proportion if sex was all about the male organ I'd have been a disappointment in comparison.

In my experience what turned them white hot was my near savage desire for them, I love the female form and skinny or plus size doesn't matter. Mutual pleasure sends me wild and vag1nal penetration by an egotistic male using his lad as if it were a magic wand is no substitute for raw sexual hunger and abandon.

Forget about competitive performance and let your desires loose.

sweet-rasmus

you are going to have to stop thinking about size. i know it's on your mind, but if it's ruining your frame of mind when the moment is upon you... thats no good! and you said yourself you knew it was small before this girl put it all so bluntly - if anything i'd just be annoyed at her for attacking your confidence. stop worrying about it; get back out there and enjoy yourself

padser

If its bothering you that much then maybe you should look into surgical options?

Annie Bananie

As a girl I would say that it aint the size that matters, its how u use it
And if I understood that right it was a 1 night fling?
A girlfriend of yours would not mind.

And as was said by some other, girls vary in size as well.

Esel

You aren't small - she is big! :mad: