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LegacyUser

OK, so I started a new college course back there in September. Have gotten friendly with this girl on it, we hang out/text a lot and basically I've made up my mind to ask her out.

We're going to the cinema this weekend and I was planning to go for a drink after and say something to her then. My question is, do you think asking her one-on-one like this is a bad idea. Would she find it intimidating/awkward? Should I wait 'till were out with a bigger group? I'm reluctant to do this as I've made up my mind now and don't want leave it any longer and end up in the 'friend zone'. Naturally I will be disappointed if she's not keen, but I'd rather find out one way or the other sooner rather than later.

pbsuxok1znja4r

TBH if she's already going to the cinema and for drinks with you alone, she's definitely gotta already be keen. Just get ridiculously flirty with her when you're out. See how that goes, if she responds well (and she probably will), then just go for it; tell her you like her, plant a kiss on her, whatever!
There's no way you could be blamed for making a move on her if she's already going for drinks alone and flirting with you. Yeah, do it sooner rather than later.

LegacyUser

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TBH if she's already going to the cinema and for drinks with you alone, she's definitely gotta already be keen.

agreed.

definately wouldn't wait till you were out with a bigger group or it'll just turn into a meaningless score in a nightclub, not the way to go if you're looking for a relationship with this girl.'

Black Swan

Ask her out.

Seraphina

as a girl, i would find being approached while out with other people awkward and uncomfortable. definitely say something when the two of you are alone

garthv

Aye, best time is when you two are alone. Just lay your cards on the table, the worst she can say is no.

Gurgle

unreg_2552 wrote:

We're going to the cinema this weekend and I was planning to go for a drink after

Erm, isn't that going out?
What do you plan to ask her?

'Want to go to the cinema and out for a drink afterwards?'

Mighty_Mouse

Ya gotta be able to pick up whether you have a chance or are a "mate"?
I dunno I'd say go for it. Chat her up in the cinema/pub................ie jokey manner............any blokes chasing after you this weather? So if you happened to meet the right guy you'd be available? ....................etc

Just test the water and see how she reacts .ie does she get flirty back
That way you can pull back without having to blurt out "I love you" and ruin a potential friendship.

LegacyUser

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Mighty_Mouse wrote:

test the water and see how she reacts

That way you can pull back without having to blurt out "I love you" and ruin a potential friendship.

good advice wish someone had told me that. play it cool, don't force it.'

LegacyUser

'Well, I dunno how common happy endings are on this board, but FWIW I went ahead with it last night. She asked could she think about it, we met up again today and now we're going out! '

LegacyUser

Huzzah !!!

panda100

unreg_2552 wrote:

'Well, I dunno how common happy endings are on this board, but FWIW I went ahead with it last night. She asked could she think about it, we met up again today and now we're going out! '

well done.. i bet the PI mods are buying their hats as we speak:)

1huge1

unreg_2552 wrote:

I've made up my mind now and don't want leave it any longer and end up in the 'friend zone'. Naturally I will be disappointed if she's not keen, but I'd rather find out one way or the other sooner rather than later.

oh whatever you do don't let it go into the friend zone
oh the dredded friend zone
sadly my prob is that people dont really get to know me until were good friends and by then its to late (friend zone :mad: )