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Going out with work collegue / older girl

  • 13-11-2006 8:48pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi

    there is a girl in work that i know really likes me (all the girls have said so on the hush hush, signals i get etc)
    but im confused as im not sure I 100% like her or not, she kinda has asked me out to group dinners / movies etc but i've made excuses like have plans etc..
    She is slightly older than me (couple yrs), but feel that she may want to settle down pretty quick (body clock and all that) and that working together quite close could pose probs down the line esp if it ends bad.
    i suppose my fears are
    1- i've never really been with an older woman, it just doesnt appeal - am i just being too picky??
    2- working quite close - again it can be problematic, i would like to keep work and love life seperate, could be

    She is nice and everything and we get on well, but it just doesnt click if you know what i mean. Im happy being single although do miss some aspects of a girlfriend etc

    anyone got any thoughts??


Comments

  • #2
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,539 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    If it doesn't "click" for you, as you say, then move on. A couple of years is really not important if you fancy each other.


  • #3
    Kell
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,479 ✭✭✭Kell


    anon07 wrote:
    anyone got any thoughts??

    Yes- I dont understand your problem. You either like her or you dont. Make up your mind. It really is THAT easy (TM)

    K-


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    '
    but im confused as im not sure I 100% like her or not

    if you liked her you'd be sure, honestly you really shouldn't have to think about whether you like someone or not! as was already said you either do or you dont!'


  • #5
    Marksie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,395 ✭✭✭Marksie


    anon07 wrote:
    but im confused as im not sure I 100% like her or not

    If you are not sure, dont ask her out.
    anon07 wrote:
    1- i've never really been with an older woman, it just doesnt appeal - am i just being too picky??
    She is only a couple of years older than you... thats nothing! By the way..juts how old IS she if you think her bio clock is ticking?

    [/QUOTE]2- working quite close - again it can be problematic, i would like to keep work and love life seperate[/QUOTE]
    I have had relationships with work colleagues.... personally i like to keep them separate, though a lot of people go for them.

    [/QUOTE]but it just doesnt click if you know what i mean. Im happy being single although do miss some aspects of a girlfriend etc[/QUOTE]
    That answers your question

    Ifd you dnt click, and you dont like realtionships with those you work with then there is no point pursuing it.


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