Date Etiquette

SteamTrean

Hi,

We’ve all become very Americanized (notice I spelled that with a ‘z’) haven’t we? We are kind of drifting away from drunken fumbling in a nightclub and moving toward the more civilised, number swapping approach followed by some text tennis and finally ‘The Date’. Well I’ve been out of the loop for a while, in a long relationship but I went on a ‘Date’ last night. I was left confused by it and wondering where did it all go wrong. I felt like yer man in ’28 days later’ who got out of the hospital to find the entire population of the world had lost the plot.

During my date, which was preplanned as a few pints; the female that I met asked where we were going for dinner. I had hurriedly eatin’ my dinner before I got on the luas to meet this girl. It nearly knocked me for 6. I offered to go with her, but the mood was spoiled. I have spoken to a few about this and they’ve agreed with me that this was a huge presumption on her part. What do yee think? Am I clueless? I hope not. My text tennis days are numbered if this is the future.

Rb

SteamTrean wrote:

I offered to go with her

Lol!

SteamTrean wrote:

What do yee think? Am I clueless? I hope not. My text tennis days are numbered if this is the future.

Well, if the date was planned as meeting up and heading to a bar for a few drinks, then yes it was quite presumptious of her to think there was a dinner involved.

petes

Should have bought her a bag of chips. Jesus. Pre planned pints shouldn't really turn into dinner.

monkeyfudge

petes wrote:

Should have bought her a bag of chips. Jesus. Pre planned pints shouldn't really turn into dinner.

A packet of Scampi Fries should do the job.

I still don't understand how texting is an americanisation... surely that's something the Irish are mad about.

Donegal Lass

very big mistake on her part tbh! too presumptuous!! this is probably why guys in Ireland rarely ask women out! some girls just cant relax have a few drinks and see how the night goes! ha funny story though but rest assured she probably feels ten times the a$$ you do!!

Splinter

give her a pint of stout...close enough to a filling pint...or many baileys and milk and shel get bloated and not be able to eat...

hallelujah

She may have been thinking, presumptiously I might add, that maybe both of you were working early the next day and having a chat over a meal would be better than getting pissed.

Did you get the under-garments off her in the end?

BaZmO*

Ridiculously presumptious of her. Just out of interest, did you end up just going for drinks? And if you did, were you expected to pay for the drinks all night?

ferdi

dinner? whats next? did she expect you to throw your cloak over a puddle so she didnt get her feet wet?

SteamTrean

BaZmO* wrote:

Ridiculously presumptious of her. Just out of interest, did you end up just going for drinks? And if you did, were you expected to pay for the drinks all night?

Just had three pints. No she bought her round alright. re: undergarments: nope .

petes

hallelujah wrote:

Did you get the under-garments off her in the end?

He probably would have had to bring her back to the house with the smelly housemate.

BaZmO*

hallelujah wrote:

Did you get the under-garments off her in the end?

SteamTrean wrote:

Just had three pints

Obviously not.

Sp@rtacus

ferdi wrote:

dinner? whats next? did she expect you to throw your cloak over a puddle so she didnt get her feet wet?

Whoa whoa whoa, you were wearing a cape?? That was your first mistake.

She sounds like a toolbar; I hope your future escapades are more successful (in the undergarment department as well )

Ps: You offered "to go with her" while she ate dinner??! Hilarious

jacko

offering to go with her...... legend

miamee

Don't mind them SteamTrean if she wanted to go for food she should have said so before you met up, not spring it on you when you got there. Maybe she was starving but then she should have asked would you mind going for a quick bite before the planned drinks, not 'where are you taking me' lol

Don't worry not all the single wimmin out there are so presumptuous. Most of us would be just as eager as you to get in a few drinks on a first date to calm the jitters

Sp@rtacus

miamee wrote:

Don't worry not all the single wimmin out there are so presumptuous. Most of us would be just as eager as you to get in a few drinks on a first date to calm the jitters

...ahem <clears throat, shuffles nervously> So-oo Miamee, can I take this opportunity to introduce myself and possibly inquire as to whether you might like to join me for a beverage or two later? Just, you know, to sort out the the jitters, like <ahem>

chamlis

Go on that man!

xzanti

Oh my God... I would never have the bottle to ask a guy where he was taking me for dinner unless he had specifically stated that he wanted to bring me.. Cheeky mare lol... How awkward must that have been :eek: I'd of gone out the bathroom window on a trip to the loo

Froot

She is a cold hearted bitch.

Burn her I say!

miamee

Sp@rtacus wrote:

...ahem <clears throat, shuffles nervously> So-oo Miamee, can I take this opportunity to introduce myself and possibly inquire as to whether you might like to join me for a beverage or two later? Just, you know, to sort out the the jitters, like <ahem>

Of course!! So long as you bring me for a nice dinner afterwards roflmao

Sp@rtacus

miamee wrote:

Of course!! So long as you bring me for a nice dinner afterwards roflmao

But of course... do you like Scottish cuisine? (I'm sure I have some McDonalds coupons somewhere that are due to expire soon)

So, meet you under Clery's clock at 8. I'll be the very short man in the yellow fedora. With the wooden leg. And a parrot (I tend to bring him along in case the conversation happens to dry up). Oh, and dont let the rash put you off, the doctor assures me the leprosy is alllmost gone.

So anyway, see you then. Hope your as excited as I am..!!:D

miamee

I'm almost peeing myself with excitement now (the doctor said that'll clear up naturally too )

I love a man in a stylish hat *swoon*

Gandhi

SteamTrean wrote:

We’ve all become very Americanized

Dude, if your idea of a first date is "a few pints" then you have not become Americanized in the slightest. Did you definitely make it clear it was drinks you were meeting for? There is no way she could have picked it up wrong?

Brilliant story, though. Keep us updated on how the text-tennis goes.

Ruu_Old

Ah what are ya like OP!? Next time bring a bag of Tayto for your potential partner incase she gets hungry and you've had yours (I have actually heard of someone who done that*)




*not me! I think they ended up with a black eye:(

BaZmO*

Sp@rtacus wrote:

So, meet you under Clery's clock at 8

Cue a load of nerds standing outside Clery's at 8 saying, "I'm Sparticus, I'm Sparticus.....No, I'm Sparticus!!"

Vegeta

You should have made some terrible joke about having a ready cooked dinner

.....in your pants

Rb

BaZmO* wrote:

Cue a load of nerds standing outside Clery's at 8 saying, "I'm Sparticus, I'm Sparticus.....No, I'm Sparticus!!"

Ah, it'll be fine though, they'll run into an internet cafe and settle it with a game of unreal tournament/WoW/some other shíte and end up standing up poor Miamee.
Thats right, the nerds will stand up a girl to play video games. It doesn't sound all that surprising when you think of it that way, does it?

OP: Have you heard from her since?

SteamTrean

rb_ie wrote:

Ah, it'll be fine though, they'll run into an internet cafe and settle it with a game of unreal tournament/WoW/some other shíte and end up standing up poor Miamee.
Thats right, the nerds will stand up a girl to play video games. It doesn't sound all that surprising when you think of it that way, does it?

OP: Have you heard from her since?

No I haven't heard anything yet. She asked me to txt her today, not sure if I'll bother mind. Next time she might want to go on a sun holiday. She'll arrive at the pub with her bags packed, smuthered in sun cream.

miamee

rb_ie wrote:

Ah, it'll be fine though, they'll run into an internet cafe and settle it with a game of unreal tournament/WoW/some other shíte and end up standing up poor Miamee.
Thats right, the nerds will stand up a girl to play video games. It doesn't sound all that surprising when you think of it that way, does it?

OP: Have you heard from her since?

Sure they might as well cos poor Miamee won't be hanging round O'Connell Street waiting for a peg leg leper to sweep her off her feet

Rabies

OP, what time did you meet her at? If it was just after work or early evening then I can see how she thought maybe a drink along with some food might be on offer.
If it was later, then she should have known.
Did you meet her at a place that regularly does food?

miamee

SteamTrean wrote:

No I haven't heard anything yet. She asked me to txt her today, not sure if I'll bother mind. Next time she might want to go on a sun holiday. She'll arrive at the pub with her bags packed, smuthered in sun cream.

Ah sure give her a second chance and a bit of a slagging about looking for her dinner and see how she takes it (and see if she has a sense of humour!)

Rb

SteamTrean wrote:

No I haven't heard anything yet. She asked me to txt her today, not sure if I'll bother mind. Next time she might want to go on a sun holiday. She'll arrive at the pub with her bags packed, smuthered in sun cream.

And you're sure you didn't happen to say anything that may have put the idea that there was a dinner involved into her head?Even hinted at it? 'Cause in fairness it was extremely presumptious of her, going by what you've said.

I don't think its a reflection on dating in Ireland these days though! And we haven't really became Americanised, more civilised perhaps? It could have been influenced by what we've seen in the media, but its nothing confined to America/ isn't an American-ism.

Oh and as far as I know, we were using texting a lot more than Americans did for quite a few years, I think they're only getting really into it now though they did have their personal pager things, I think they were using their mobiles more for calls. I'm unsure though.

miamee wrote:

Sure they might as well cos poor Miamee won't be hanging round O'Connell Street waiting for a peg leg leper to sweep her off her feet

How shallow! Just because he's physically deformed and riddled with disease, doesn't mean hes not your soul mate/ "the one" (in personality)

miamee

rb_ie wrote:

How shallow! Just because he's physically deformed and riddled with disease, doesn't mean hes not your soul mate/ "the one" (in personality)

:eek: Shallow! Moi? Maybe just peglegaphobic

Sp@rtacus

miamee wrote:

Sure they might as well cos poor Miamee won't be hanging round O'Connell Street waiting for a peg leg leper to sweep her off her feet

I'm crushed. I mean, I never seem to make it past the first date, but this time I didnt even get that far I dont know what it is... do I come on too strong, does my dapper sartorial elegance intimidate the ladies..?? I mean, I'm sure the Tourettes doesnt help (particularly at the cinema :rolleyes: ) but, cant they see past that?? Maybe its the bell I have to ring and I'm sure the continual chants of "Unclean, unclean" must get a little irritating. <sigh>

Rb

miamee wrote:

:eek: Shallow! Moi? Maybe just peglegaphobic

Theres more to a man than what you see on the outside you know!

OP: You could always give her the benefit of the doubt that it was an honest mistake?If things went well when you sat down for a few pints, you got on, were interested in eachother, clicked etc., then it'd be a shame to waste what could be a good thing over what may (or may not) have been an honest mistake.

BaZmO*

rb_ie wrote:

Oh and as far as I know, we were using texting a lot more than Americans did for quite a few years, I think they're only getting really into it now though they did have their personal pager things, I think they were using their mobiles more for calls. I'm unsure though.

I think we actually text more than any other nation.

On Christmas Day of 2003 or 2004 there were 6 million texts sent. That's just in one day!!! And I reckon it'll probably nearer double that come this Christmas.

petes

At least try and get your hole.

Rb

BaZmO* wrote:

I think we actually text more than any other nation.

On Christmas Day of 2003 or 2004 there were 6 million texts sent. That's just in one day!!! And I reckon it'll probably nearer double that come this Christmas.

Ah, I thought I'd heard similar before. 12 million this Christmas?Wouldn't surprise me really.

SteamTrean

Well when I said Americanised I wasn't referring to texting. I was referring to the notion of the 'Date'. Going out on dates in general, is not something I would have associated with my social scene up until recently. In the oldern days I'd get hammered and chat someone up and take it from there. But maybe I'm a caveman from the country and you Dubs have been doing this kind of thing all along.

I'm thinking specifically of Kevin Arnold or someone of his iconic stature asking someone "out on a date" Makes me feel queezy, but it has seeped in I reckon.

BaZmO*

SteamTrean wrote:

Well when I said Americanised I wasn't referring to texting. I was referring to the notion of the 'Date'. Going out on dates in general, is not something I would have associated with my social scene up until recently. In the oldern days I'd get hammered and chat someone up and take it from there. But maybe I'm a caveman from the country and you Dubs have been doing this kind of thing all along.

I'm thinking specifically of Kevin Arnold or someone of his iconic stature asking someone "out on a date" Makes me feel queezy, but it has seeped in I reckon.

Might have more to do with getting older rather than getting "Americanised"

Froot

rb_ie wrote:

Theres more to a man than what you see on the outside you know!

Yeah that woodworm in the peg leg must have burrowed a bit deeper by now

Capt'n Midnight

Ruu wrote:

Next time bring a bag of Tayto for your potential partner incase she gets hungry and you've had yours (I have actually heard of someone who done that*)
*not me! I think they ended up with a black eye:(

must have been cheese and onion then