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Dealing with break up

  • 07-11-2006 12:05pm
    #1
    mambojambo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭


    I broke up with my boyfriend last week after 2 and a half years, 14 months we lived together. Everything was great one minute and terrible the next, we were madly in love but the arguing just couldnt stop. He has a massive temper which I wouldnt tolerate also.

    Im gutted its over ( it was my choice), but I feel we have tried so hard at it that it was wearing the two of us down, so much to he point i lost all interest in s*x, but never stopped wanting him to be close to me. He is in bits but I really have to do this for myself I couldnt go another year of hoping, wishing, waiting that things will get better.

    I now have to get back used to single life which is my biggest fear. I have moved back to my mum and dads house for the time being which is even worse, as I have been living away from them for so long, I cant move out cause of money issues. I'm just in dire straits with everything at the moment, Im trying to remember times when I was single and happy etc but its hard to remember all that when you've just spent over two years living with your boyfriend.
    Suppose Im looking for tips on how to make the healing process easier. I know time is a healer but with xmas coming up etc it's going to be hard.
    Uggghhh Men!


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    The only advice I can give you is to spend time with friends as much as possible!!try not to spend too much time alone.

    I got dumped out of nowhere last august and i still feel like **** sometimes but not as much as I did back then!!!Just because you did the dumping doesnt mean you dont feel like **** cos you obviously still love him!!youre doing the right thing putting yourself first!!

    Single life is so hard getting back into!!it is sooooo crap at the start!!you probably dont want to start meeting new fellas yet,even kissing them but that will all come!!

    You wont always feel like this!!its just a process!!

    Look to the positives!!


  • #3
    mambojambo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭mambojambo


    Cheers .. I know I dont want to meet anyone else right now but half of me selfishly does, just to take away the pain.

    Sh*it thing is, is that not one of my friends is single. All shacked up for their other halves, or in serious relationships. Its going to be a hard one i think for a few months...


  • #4
    tbh
    Closed Accounts Posts: 15,914 ✭✭✭✭tbh


    yeah - keep it in perspective. You've a whole grieving process to go through, where you adjust your life view from the way it was to the was it is now. It takes time - but don't rush it. Get to know yourself again, get to like yourself as a singley and don't look at this as a bad thing - you never know what the future holds. Sounds like you took a tough decision, but I think you did the right thing - fair play, and be happy.


  • #5
    free2fly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 565 ✭✭✭free2fly


    It's only been a week OP. It is going to take some time to heal yourself. You have some soul searching to do. And need to make yourself whole before you even consider entering a new relationship. Have some fun! Flirt. Play. Feel good about yourself again. And when you are ready, then consider a relationship :)


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