what ye boardies think

Layla1981

going out with someone you work with. i mean the same shift and the same room. the same people we go to brekkie lunch and tea with. it will ruin everything i think?

Vegeta

pretty simple really if you like them go for it.

If you think it would "ruin" things you obviously don't feel very strongly about the person

ClockWorkOrange

Go ahead but you will regret it...

Ruu_Old

I found it to be difficult because everyone seems to know your business (or want to know it), just my opinion. If you both feel like you can make it worth, forget everyone else and go for it, good luck.

tbh

Layla1981 wrote:

going out with someone you work with. i mean the same shift and the same room. the same people we go to brekkie lunch and tea with. it will ruin everything i think?

not necessarily. Although maybe after nearly 4 years of living/working together, it's too soon to tell

The Sweeper

Depends.

Do you work for the same company, or actually work together?

Layla1981

work for the same company and just a few cubicles away (sigh) why is always the ones you really like that have to be so difficult

Faith

You've answered your own question.

Think: You'll be with this person ALL DAY at work, and then when you finish. Can you really handle seeing that much of someone? I'd go insane, personally.

whiskeyman

Minesajackdaniels wrote:

Depends.

Do you work for the same company, or actually work together?

Very good point.

I've done this, but only for short term flings. It fine when you're young and all.
However, I couldn't imagine having a serious long termer with someone I actually work with.
Working for the same company is ok though, and I know a good few people working for the same Co who've got married and are verry happy together.

Layla1981

i can not bump into him for a full day by dining wit other. plus we are not living together.

LegacyUser

My policy would be that life's too short to worry about what may happen if things don't work. I think you should go for it. There's only two things that can happen:

1. You live happily ever after - Thumbs Up
2. You two end up splitting up - In this case 2 things can happen:

2-1. Its amicable - Thumbs Up
2-2. Its a rough one - Then 2 things can happen:

2-1. You sort it out and be friends again - Thumbs up
2-2. You don't sort it out and bad things happen - If he/she that type of person then you're aswell to have found out and not be friends with them anyway!

Mrs_Doyle

I met my BF in college, he was in my class.
In 3rd year, I got him a part time job in the cinema I worked in, so that meant we were working together and in college together.
When we finished college I got a new job, and he started in the same building the day after me.
Eventually we moved on and got better jobs, so we weren't working together anymore - but then he moved into a house right around the corner from me.

He is a bit of a stalker

But I wouldn't have it any other way!

Layla1981

like both the above posts especially lifes too short. i could do with having you around thats for sure.!!

LegacyUser

'If it works, it\'ll be hunky dory. \r\nBut if it doesn\'t, there will be tears ... and, which \r\nof U is going to change the job ?'

sweet-rasmus

go for it! life is too short.

humanji

I agree with the above. Go for it. AS they say, it's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do.

stovelid

S'ok in peacetime but imagine having a bad/heartbreaking split and having to come in and face each other

Annie Bananie

humanji wrote:

I agree with the above. Go for it. AS they say, it's better to regret something you did than something you didn't do.

Well spoken

CathyMoran

Go for it, you will only regret it if you do not.

Met my fiancee in college, he was an undergrad and I was a postgrad in different subjects. We managed to have one month where we were only apart for 15 minutes in the day and that was one of the happiest months of my life. I have chosen job location based on working closer to him. While I am on sick leave at the moment we normally go in to work together in the morning and have breakfast together, have lunch together and travel home together as well as live together and are in contact during the day when we are apart.

Edit: Just reading that, it looks like a lot of time together but it makes both of us very happy, we just get unhappy when we are apart.

DublinWriter

Work to live, don't live to work.

Sure, it might all go bottom-over-nipple, but at the end of the day I wouldn't let my working life affect my 'real' life.

Sadly, a lot of companies in the US make new employees sign contracts stating they won't date co-workers. How sad is that?

LegacyUser

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DublinWriter wrote:

Sadly, a lot of companies in the US make new employees sign contracts stating they won\'t date co-workers. How sad is that?

\r\n\r\nWonder would that hold up in court, surely there\'s some sort of human rights issues as regards employers forcing you to live your life in a specific way?\r\n\r\nAnyway, the only problem I have with dating people from my office is that everyone in my office is male and my door doesn\'t swing inwards! If a nice girl came to work with us who I was attracted to I\'d make a conscious effort to get to know her better. The way I see it is at least we have something in common so thats a good start.'

Red Alert

I once went out with somebody I used to work with. In hindsight I don't see why I didn't take the plunge when I was still working there.

However I think I'm still very hesitant to do anything in this situation.

Chucky the tree

Faith wrote:

Think: You'll be with this person ALL DAY at work, and then when you finish. Can you really handle seeing that much of someone? I'd go insane, personally.

i agree. It would kill me to go out with somone who i worked with all day.

Black Swan

Close proximity! Most people meet at school, work, sports, dances, where ever they run into each other, so work is as normal as any. The only downside of dating someone in your immediate work group is, "What happens if you crash and burn?" You still have to work with them after... It might get unpleasant.

LegacyUser

'Some people like space from their girlfriends/boyfriends during the day.\r\nPersonally it wouldn\'t bother me, in fact, I\'d probably enjoy it because I get on really well with my girlfriend - I would consider her my best friends. Some people, however, dont have that kind of relationship.\r\n\r\nIt really does depend on the people in the realtionship though so I think you should look at that.\r\n\r\nBut as said earlier - lifes too short not to take every opportunity.'