I have never cum

LegacyUser

Im female.. i have an enjoyable sex life... always orgasm but NEVER cum.. We play around(toys, positions,place ect) so it not dull and we completly feel comfortable with eachother ...he has never had this problem.. its me.. should I see a doctor?? or is this kinda normal... Its startin to maake m b friend selfconcious now... 1year down the line.. help appreciated

chillywilly

alot of women orgasm without coming, you arnt on your own and you have nothin to feel self conscious about!!

chamlis

Right, you need to sort it out DIY.
I mean, if you can't DIY your not gonna achieve it with the BF.

/me throws 2 cent coin on the table

Owen

The majority of women can't cum, they orgasm, but actually cumming? I've only been with 2 girls who did, and it was a strange thing for me - I hadn't seen it before Anywho, to echo a previous poster, go DIY. If that does the trick, then you need to find out how to flick the same switch when your bf is present.

milod

Form what I've read and heard, most women don't 'ejaculate' (it's happened maybe three times in three years with my partner). The only common link I can think of is that each time it involved simultaneously stimulating her clitoris and G-Spot

Like previous posters have said, try it DIY, or maybe ask your b/f to help if you don't have the necessary toys... but I'm pretty sure it doesn't happen through normal penetration.

Oh, er, depending on how successful you are, you may want to lay on a towel... things can get very wet! :eek:

chamlis

****it I didn't realise we were talking about female ejaculation.
Em, yeah there is a trick to it, but mightn't work for everybody.

Women don't have a prostate gland like men do, but you can stimulate the g-spot (worth doing anyway).

This might be of use, eh.....
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/G-spot

AnonoBoy

I would say that most women when they refer to cumming mean orgasming as opposed to ejaculating.

You orgasm every time but are worried you don't ejaculate?

Clearly there's no pleasing some people!

kizzyr

Many many women don't cum in the sense of an ejaculation. Other women manage to have both a vaginal and clitoral orgasm others have one others have none.
I would think that if you are working really hard at this, determined to have one and that is what your mind is focused on and only that when you are having sex then I'd imagine that you are less and less likely to achieve your goal. Also I don't think going to the doctor is going to be able to do anything about this, you can't just demand it, especially if you are having a full enjoyable sex life anyway.

As others have said go DIY ( I find it hard to believe that there are women who don't) and see how things go for you that way.

panda100

I thought 'coming' and orgasm was the same thing??

WellyJ

Google squirting,

All women are capable of it. Gushes of it tbh

panda100

why would a women want to come?surely you just want the orgasm,thats the good bit.

WellyJ

Because it feels far better than a regular orgasm,

Ask women who have experienced it, they will tell you!

Talliesin

Yes. As a rule "cum" means orgasm in the case of women. It means ejaculation in the case of men.

The etymological reason for such definitions being that in men the vast majority (but not all, particularly with multiples) of orgasms co-incide with ejaculation, but the vast majority of orgasms in women does not coincide with ejaculation (to a degree where many medical scientists still say they do not think women ejaculate, though that debate has begun to come down to little more than semantics).

Being a relative rarity, it's hardly worth worrying if you haven't experienced it.

If you want to experience it you'll want to start experimenting with stimulation of the G-spot. As a rule quite strong stimulation.

There will not be any guarantees though. The Skene's glands vary considerably from woman to woman, and it's believed that it may be that retrograde ejaculation is much more common in women than in men, so the ejaculation will occur but not be observed.

Do not take anything you see in pornography as a guideline as to how to experience female ejaculation. A mixture of faking by various techniques and hiring of actresses who are highly given to extremely volumous ejaculations makes it an extremely unreliable guide.

Nevyn

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