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Breaking up

  • 01-11-2006 10:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Just need to get this out of my system! I have been with my bf over 2 years and things have been going downhill in the last 8 months. I have tried talking to him and saying how I feel about things but to no avail. He is oblivious to the issues I have brought up time and time again. The thing is, we are due to go on hols soon and meet up with family while away.

    I have decided that I need to break up with him and put myself first for a change. I just don't know whether to do it now or wait until the hol and we are away from work (we work in the same company) and everything else here.

    Please someone give me advice? Need a completely impartial view here! I have already been putting the feelers out for a new place to live, so anyone have any tips?!


Comments

  • #2
    Ruu_Old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    Sooner the better if you are going to do so, get it off your mind so you can get away on your holiday to relax. Is he just not listening or just brushing things off? 2 years is a long time, make sure it is what you want.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yes... I had been in another long term relationship that ended badly (on his part) and I have tried everything to change things around or help change them and nothing doing! It's like talking to a wall, no reaction and has gotten worse in the last few months.

    I am not happy at all and most of the stuff is down to him. If I could see things changing, I would stay but I don't forsee anything changing in the slightest.


  • #4
    Ruu_Old
    Closed Accounts Posts: 36,634 ✭✭✭✭Ruu_Old


    Well not much you can do if theres nothing left to say to him. Finish it asap and get it over with.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yea, had pretty much decided that much anyway. Just tricky as we live together too. I know I need to do it, I'm not happy and I would give the same advice to any of my friends.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Yea, had pretty much decided that much anyway. Just tricky as we live together too. I know I need to do it, I'm not happy and I would give the same advice to any of my friends.

    I just know it is going to turn nasty and I hate having to fight with people!


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I know I need to do it, just difficult when we live together too


  • #8
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,532 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    If you are sure, then don't delay. Make a clean break of it. Use hols to recover.


  • #9
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    You're right! And I can always be on the look-out for a new place while I am on hols too.


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