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to trust or not trust

  • 28-10-2006 1:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    hi everyone. was hoping to get advice & opinions on my situation. with my bf
    nearly 3 years. he had a reputation for sleeping around before i met him including being with two prositutes. he has a child from a previous one night stand which he pays maintenance for but does not see. my bf is 36. but there is certain things about him that im not sure is normal for a relationship or if im too quiet about it.. he used to openly ogle other women in front of me which i informed him was very rude and disrespectful. he has laid off doing this slightly but could still comment on girls every other day saying that
    "their fine looking dolls" with "fine bodies". he works in a bar so he says this is a habit he has gotten from doing bar work...he also blames his job for his reckless past with women...cause of him doing this on such a regular basis im finding it harder and harder to trust him..i always gave him the benefit of the doubt when i first started going out with him wanting to judge him for myself... he goes away racing 5 or 6 times a year without me so im beginning to think im getting paranoid that im just anothe notch on his bed post... he says he has never cheated on me but he said that to previous girlfriends he did cheat on...


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  • #2
    Heyes
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,203 ✭✭✭Heyes


    id probable find him very hard to trust tbh


  • #3
    Benglian
    Closed Accounts Posts: 105 ✭✭Benglian


    Go with your gut feeling. Women's intuition in these situations is 95% correct. And I'm a GUY!


  • #4
    Black Swan
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 47,829 CMod ✭✭✭✭Black Swan


    You really need to sort this out with him (and yourself). Have a talk. The racing thing he does could be a time to be with the guys, and frankly, have a little space from you? Does not mean he is cheating when racing. And yes, there are occupational hazards working in a bar, but you knew that. If he cheats on you, dump him, but if not, then trust him.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Working in a Bar - well, to tell you the truth : the hunchback of Notredame could easily get 'the roide'.


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