how to handle a lady situation

LegacyUser

okay... ill start from the start.
I met this girl about 7 weeks ago. She's a friend of a friend, and is very hot. I was meeting her regularly - i.e. I was with her for the following few weekends and txting reg.
She kinda blew me off a date offer and I thought that was that.... but then I ended up scoring with her again the following weekend.
Got a call from my friend and she basically told me this girl really likes me, and thinks I'm a really nice guy, but that she doesn't want to get into anything serious (she has just broken up from a 1year relationship). This came through my friend as she thought it would sound bitchy/stupid coming from her.
I did end up meeting her again the following weekend and we had a bit of a chat. She basically had no problem meeting me etc, but just wanted me to know she had to do her own thing for a while i.e. she didnt want to "mess me around" cause she thinks im a "nice guy" and she "likes me" :-)
I said no worries.

The following weekend I didnt meet up with her. But, and here's the clincher, I did run into here outside a club I had been in. She was with another bloke. She did her best to hide the fact, but it was plain as day.

Now, I didn't really have an issue with this. I mean, it was unpleasant and awkward, but thats exactly why she told me what she did. And to be honest, if she had come by 5 minutes earlier she would have seen me with someone else too... lol.
But honestly, I did expect a text from her. I got nothin... this did piss me off. Thinking that it was done and dusted I didnt do anything for a while. Then, for the sake of our friend and awkwardness I decided to send her a good luck txt.
Basically, I got a reply saying how terrible she had been feeling, and how she didnt know if she should have txted me etc etc.... and that it was all just bad timing, but she was sure we would meet up again... etc etc.

Now... christ this is going on a bit... I really don't know what to do with this situation. I am prob going to see her this weekend... and I'm really not sure if I will score with her or not. I mean, this "doing here own thing" thing is a bit of a sham right? If she was really into me this wouldn't be an issue... or maybe her head really is a bit screwed up.
I would like to think Ill just leave it lie.... might be the best thing in the long run, but after a few drinks it prob won't be easy.

cluborange86

ya to me it sounds like its a situation not to get involved with. after a break up things can be a bit messy, but i think shes doing this very messily.

i think its best to leave it cause if she was with someone else and you were as well its pretty clear that this relationship is nothing more than just the odd score. maybe in time when her head is in the right frame of mind it might become something more

greenkittie

Sound advice from cluborange there.

Kell

zzzzzzzzz wrote:

Now, I didn't really have an issue with this.

Yet you come on here telling us your life story. Right. OK.

zzzzzzzzz wrote:

Now... christ this is going on a bit...

Yep

zzzzzzzzz wrote:

I really don't know what to do with this situation. I am prob going to see her this weekend... and I'm really not sure if I will score with her or not.

There is no situation. She likes you. You like her. She likes attention, you like a snog.

Relax. If you play your cards right you could wind up being fúck buddies. No strings sex with a hot chick. Happy days.

K-

layke

Easiest way to lose something is to want it too much. Hold back there horse!

Look after a long relationship and seeing every nice peice of ass pass her by she wants to go a little mad. I have to say fair dues to her for telling you to back off it's the decent thing to do. She could have strung you along. Doesn't sound like you were needy from your post but don't be texting her all the time!

Problem is she might* meet the other Mr.Right that she decides to stay with in the mean time.

Although the best advice is the let her get back to you when it's the right time. She ain't ready yet.

Black Swan

zzzzzzzzz wrote:

Now, I didn't really have an issue with this. I mean, it was unpleasant and awkward, but thats exactly why she told me what she did. And to be honest, if she had come by 5 minutes earlier she would have seen me with someone else too... lol.

Appears that both of you are just dating, with no commitment yet? I don't see a problem yet...

zzzzzzzzz wrote:

Basically, I got a reply saying how terrible she had been feeling, and how she didnt know if she should have txted me etc etc.... and that it was all just bad timing, but she was sure we would meet up again... etc etc.

Sounds like she is in the "rebound" mode after a breakup? People are very confused during this time, and are still trying to sort themselves out. If you fancy her, then just date her for now? I would not rush into a relationship with her, but be patient and after awhile, who knows?

Sony

Yeah fair play to her for telling you the truth from the off...If you cant handle the casual relationship maybe you should just say so before this goes any further.

I dont think you have much choice here but If I was you an I reaaaally liked this girl though I'd play it cool for a while like she wants and try to win her over so well that there wouldnt be any doubt in her mind as to whether or not she wanted to go out with you...

LegacyUser

...when I see posts like this I just thank god Im married. Sorry i dont have any nore to offer...ha ha..I just dont think Id be able for those sorta fickle women.