Cant choose

PIa/c

Hmm, I could trivialise this by posting it in AH but I actually want proper responses.
Im male, second year of college (well, an IT;) ) and 20 years old.
Im not a huge ladies man, no great experience and Ive got a choice to make.

In the past year Ive scored (kissed) maybe 20 girls, of those Ive slept with 3. Before that Id kissed very few and slept with none. Ive never had a gf.

My delema,
I met a nice girl who wants a relationship. Shes smart, pretty, kind but will definitly not have sex (with anyone before marrage). Big plus though is she adores me and lives in the same campus.

Ive also just met another girl. Not as smart, just as pretty but does want sex. Far more out going and sociable but lives miles away and isnt in college. She works full time and so is very busy.

So I suppose Ive 4 options
The convienient girl who wont give more than oral
The busy girl who wants sex
Both (though this couldnt work long term)
Neither

Thing about the last option is yeah, I dont really "love" either but at the same time I might be heading for a bit of a dry spell and I should just grab what ive got.

Dont give me a I cant tell you what to do answer, which would you choose?

paulac

If all you care about is the fact that you may be heading towards a 'dry spell' and don't care much about these girls really suggests that you might as well take on both. However, since you've asked for other peoples opinions, it shows your not a complete ***hole. The 'convient girl' obviously cares about you, and if you mess her around she will get hurt, so I'd avoid that path if all you're looking for is a bit of fun. The busy girl, all you've said is that she wants sex, so if you want sex and she wants sex, then thats your new shag buddy. I'm a girl and I'm trying to be as honest as I can. Just be careful, make sure that both of you know exactly what the situation is so no one gets hurt or messed around. college is supposed to be fun and new experiences but don't forget to use protection or you could really be in a mess!

Esel

Bill Clinton tried to hide behind the 'oral is not sex' thing too. Who's kidding who? When you describe a girl as 'convenient', I have to say why not stick with your hand - it's much more convenient.

Black Swan

PIa/c wrote:

The busy girl who wants sex

I dont really "love" either but at the same time I might be heading for a bit of a dry spell and I should just grab what ive got.

Seems that you have already indicated your choice? I think this is called an elaboration of the obvious?

Beruthiel

PIa/c wrote:

Dont give me a I cant tell you what to do answer, which would you choose?

If you have to ask this question, then I would say neither.
Both girls deserve to be with someone who actually cares about them.

Red Alert

Don't like disagreeing with Beruthiel, but sometimes you can care very much about two people in different ways. I was really into two different women at the same time, and didn't end up with either of them in the end.

Do you want fun/sex or a friend/girlfriend?
How long do you see this lasting?
Do you want someone to go to the cinema with or someone to come around for a shag?
How emotionally close do you want to be to this person?
Are you ready for what the more 'convenient' girl might want from a relationship? Or do you actually know?
Ditto for the busy girl.

Nalz

PIa/c wrote:

So I suppose Ive 4 options
The convienient girl who wont give more than oral
The busy girl who wants sex
Both (though this couldnt work long term)
Neither

ask them both that and see how ya get on!!

el tel

PIa/c wrote:

I met a nice girl who wants a relationship. Shes smart, pretty, kind but will definitly not have sex (with anyone before marrage). Big plus though is she adores me and lives in the same campus.

This will do your head in. She wants you more than you want her and yet the main thing you want from her is a no-go...? This isn't fair.
The only reason I can see you should go with this girl is for the challenge of compromising her stance. However if you do manage that you are in the dangerous territory of being with a girl who's virginity you've taken, who is deeply in love with you and at the same university as you. That is one intricate situation which will be hard to get out of should you feel like moving on eventually.

BuffyBot

I despair.

I dont really "love" either but at the same time I might be heading for a bit of a dry spell and I should just grab what ive got.

Perhaps you should stay out of relationships until you've matured past this little nugget of stupidity.

OliviaM

you aren't rushing on things since you could easily mingle with other girls around. i suggest you stay on your stage now and decide later what you really want.

wyndham

You don't love either. You are young. Go for the free sex. Wild oats. yada yada