How much would you spend on present?

LegacyUser

Iv been going out with this girl for nearly 3 months. Her birthday is coming up, and I was wondering, how much do you think would be appropriate to spend on a present for her? I dont wanna be OTT, but definitely dont wanna seem stinchy. Shes 19, Im 21. Thanks

Beruthiel

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greenkittie

About 60 euro i'd say, obviously it depends on your personal circumstances but no point in going over the top when it comes to gifts. If a guy spent more than that on me after that long i woudln't like it.

whiskeyman

Are you bringing her out for a meal somewhere special too?
Gotta factor that into account.
Of course, like what kittie said, it's gonna depend on your circumstance, and what you think she'd expect.
Personally, I'd book somewhere special (don't tell her) and treat her to a lovely evening out with you - but still get a nice token gift, with as much meaning to her as possible.
Best of luck.

greenkittie

I would just get her a pretty little bracelet for about 60 euro, its not over the top and it will give her something to carry about with her all the time that reminds her of you thats what i would want... if i could ever get a boyfriend

petes

€50 -€60 on the gift and and evening out. All depends on your circumstances as already mentioned.

darkflower

i'd say, i don't mind spending tons of wealth for a person i care so much. might be plain craziness to most but that's me.:D

Black Swan

Just keep in mind, it's the thought that counts and not the price of the gift. Something personal that identifies you with her? Because I don't know you or her, I cannot put a price on that.

tensecyclist

i'd say most girls are plased even with a simple gift. the thought that you've remembered their special day means so much to them.

jellie

ive been with my bf 2 months & its his bday in a month so ill be in the same situation. except im a poor student so id been thinking about 20-30 on present & maybe bringing him out for dinner. & i dont think i can even afford that!

50-60 just sounds like a crazy amount to me, but maybe thats just cause im currently poor

byte

sar84 wrote:

ive been with my bf 2 months & its his bday in a month so ill be in the same situation. except im a poor student so id been thinking about 20-30 on present & maybe bringing him out for dinner. & i dont think i can even afford that!

50-60 just sounds like a crazy amount to me, but maybe thats just cause im currently poor

Sounds like a good enough present to me.

GerryRyan

In the exact same positon as the OP, with my girl nearly 3 months, her birthday's soon enough (couple of weeks) aswell. Not sure about price range just yet thought.

Keep the ideas coming folks.

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Adam

It depends on your situation. If it were me and I had plenty of cash to burn I'd spend quite a lot, maybe 100+ if it was something wortwhile. But there are no rules, and if you're broke it doesn't matter and your other half should be understanding of the fact. Something small and very thoughtful, perhaps something cute relating to an "in" joke between the two of you, or if she mentioned something offhand that she really enjoyed or used to do get her something related to that i.e. the clichéd girl who used to paint but gave up years ago etc etc

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Ruu_Old

sar84 wrote:

ive been with my bf 2 months & its his bday in a month so ill be in the same situation. except im a poor student so id been thinking about 20-30 on present & maybe bringing him out for dinner. & i dont think i can even afford that!

50-60 just sounds like a crazy amount to me, but maybe thats just cause im currently poor

Nothing wrong with that at all. I probably wouldn't bother spending anything over 50 squid, wouldn't be worthwhile and if I did spend anything over that I would get yelled at.

Rabies

Spend the evening together, go for a walk, talk and enjoy each other's company.
Have a table booked, go for a nice meal.
Ask her friends what see might like, and give them your budget. Give her your present at the end of the night.
After all that, have a quite night in

Gobán Saor

More than double your age, youngfella, but with the voice of experience:D

You will, always, repeat ALWAYS, get a hint about what will go down well in the lead-up to a significant present giving occasion. It will never be said outright, it will be subtle, you will have to read between the lines so be on the alert, pay attention and LISTEN! If you even think she might have dropped a hint, she has. Trust me on this. Your reward for picking up on the hint will be worth it. I suspect women do this instinctively or unconsciously as a kind of test for us - if you pick up the hint, you are obviously paying serious attention - you care - you love her. Put it another way, women "know" men are totally unsubtle creatures to whom stuff has to be spelt out in CAPITAL LETTERS so if you demonstrate serious communication skills, you're top class lover material. Realise this is far more important than the amount of money you spend. While you're at it, learn how to wrap a present nice and neatly - it's not hard - and you will get the same kind of awe reserved for a dog that can walk on his hind legs - you don't even have to do it particularly well, the fact you can do it at all is wonder enough!

GreenKnight

I posted this, dont need to be annonymous though, just remembered she doesnt use Boards. Im a student, dont have a job, but I was working all summer so Iv a good bit of money saved up. Dont have a clue what to get, I was thinking of asking her friend like ya said. She said before Furby's creep her out (dont know why), so I was thinkin of gettin her one as a surpirse joke, aswel as the proper present. Suppose just telling her to pick something out in town would be pretty boring and lack 'thoughtfulness'? And maybe she has dropped hints, but I definitely havnt picked up on any of them if she has :rolleyes:

Shes in college herself too. Anyway, please throw up any suggestions you have, thanks.

stepbar

an ipod shuffle dude, theres a present thats not hard to get and it looks like a lot of thought went into it I think you can get it subscribed with a message on the back

greenkittie

GreenKnight wrote:

Suppose just telling her to pick something out in town would be pretty boring and lack 'thoughtfulness'?

No! don't do that. Someone did that to me before and i hated it.

Rabis wrote:

Spend the evening together, go for a walk, talk and enjoy each other's company.
Have a table booked, go for a nice meal.
Ask her friends what see might like, and give them your budget. Give her your present at the end of the night.
After all that, have a quite night in

What if she has other plans with her family and friends? I know if i had a boyfriend everyone else in my life would feel put out if i only spent my birthday with him.

magnum69

give her an accessory. girls love something that could be worn. it would even remind her of you everytime she sees it!;)

lau1247

how about popping down to the swaroski shop and get a nice crystal necklace??
It only cost about 30 odd euro.. something small yet she can wear most days

Tar.Aldarion

Seems there are a lot of us in the OP's position, heh.

What if she doesn't like jewellery and her birthday is so close to christmas that the presents mus be combined?

magnum69

presents doesn't need to be expensive to be appreciated. just give something you feel could please her. trust your instinct.;)

Tar.Aldarion

It's answers like that that end up in me getting crap presents.
Plus she may read this, so no good suggestions thanks. I'm screwed, hehe.

OliviaM

depends on my mood and the importance of the person.:p

carryboy

depends on the worth of the person:D

molypiper

about a hundred euro.;)

murrayeel

buy an affordable gift which could be worn. she would appreciate that even if it is not expensive.;)

GreenKnight

Hey, was just thinking there. She gets the bus and train alot to get too and from college, and they can be fairly lenghty journeys, so what about an Ipod or something like that?

sonic juice

Ya love them a lot then a golden lamb or a lamp depending on their personality ,you think they are a**holes then some pants that don't fit.

GAA widow

I started going out with my boyf (now fiancé!) in college - first "present giving" was at Christmas after 3 month approximately - he got me lovely perfume in BTs - being a student at the time I just loved the giftwrapping and just the fact that he and his best friend had gone to the trouble of going into BTs one afternoon and testing out all the perfumes...the thought behind a gift can mean so much (I loved the perfume as well btw!)

CathyMoran

Happy memories - I started dating my fiancee almost 9 years ago, I was a postgrad and he was in 4th year. He got me a large teddy bear for our first Christmas and we were not even going steady at that stage...I still treasure it though. I always think that a good book that means something to her is a great first present but that is just me. One of the best presents that I ever got from my fiancee (apart from meeting and spending the rest of my life with him which was the best present) was a pendant which represented the lyrics of one of my favorite songs - actual cost €20, to me, priceless.

I do not think that the cost of the present matters, but you should not go beyond your means, putting time and thought into the present is the thing that matters. If you have to have a price I would not go more than €50.

il gatto

I was in the same position a few years ago. I bought her a necklace. Topaz and silver. It cost €50-60. Went down pretty well. If it is jewellery, get something simple. Something with a busy design is very subjective. I thought I had it made when she told me her favourite book was Great Expectations. I thought I'd get a nice leather bound copy, and two weeks before her birthday, she bought a nice hardback copy of it.:(
Since then, I wouldn't spend any less than €100 on Birthday or Christmas, and sometimes three or four times that (finances dependant), but that's cos she's worth it:)

CathyMoran

I would go €400 min at this stage but the sky is the limit but we are life partners. Even if he is away on work now he still spends a fortune on me - am adicted to Kipling bags and he has bought me a huge collection of them at this stage. I think that memories are great to have so a special meal is great but having a memento is great too. I got a musical jewlery box a year ago as part of my Christmas present - they can be very reasonable (I think that good ones start at €40) and personalised. The one that I have has 2 swans on it but you can get a very wide range. They are old fashioned romantic which is sweet.

Having said all that, I normally get him practical presents - will get him new glasses again this year as part of his present, then again we are also getting married over the holiday.