Do you make a good first impression?

Dave!

Hey folks,

Got the idea for this from some person's username!

If you're for instance new in a job, and you're introduced to someone, and you're talking to each other trying to get to know each other a bit better -- what do you think the other person's first impression of you is?

ie. When you've finished talking to them, and you go your seperate ways, do you think the person is thinking "nice guy/girl", "what a bigoted pr*ck", "thinks he's hilarious", or "wierdo" ?

There are other options, but they were examples! Not from my own experience, no! :mad:

Myself, I think other people think "nice guy, but kinda quiet". I am kinda quiet when I don't know someone (although I make the effort to ask questions etc.), but I'm chatty after I know them a bit better.

You?

Karl Hungus

Not when I can avoid it.

Rabies

Ya, get on well with most people and clients. Good reports ohave come back to the office.
Although, some people don't like my sense of humour at times.

Tak3n

if its women usually, "omg hes cute i want his number, actually, i want his babies!!!1111!"

Faith

I think people generally think that I'm friendly and nice (as long as I'm in a good mood). I also have a nice firm handshake, so that leaves a good impression. I try to chat with people, if there's an oppertunity, and I smile and make eye contact.

Ruu_Old

DaveMcG wrote:

Hey folks,

Got the idea for this from some person's username!

If you're for instance new in a job, and you're introduced to someone, and you're talking to each other trying to get to know each other a bit better -- what do you think the other person's first impression of you is?

ie. When you've finished talking to them, and you go your seperate ways, do you think the person is thinking "nice guy/girl", "what a bigoted pr*ck", "thinks he's hilarious", or "wierdo" ?

There are other options, but they were examples! Not from my own experience, no! :mad:

Myself, I think other people think "nice guy, but kinda quiet". I am kinda quiet when I don't know someone (although I make the effort to ask questions etc.), but I'm chatty after I know them a bit better.

You?

Pretty much the same as yourself except a lot of the time "nice chap but too quiet" (I suppose that is not always a bad thing) I would say. I do try though.

TerrorFirmer

When I'm nervous I tend to talk far too fast, and then try to explain my nonsensical ramblings with further explantions drowned in incoherent babble.

So I think first impressions are always "Right, this guy is a bit strange", which hopefully is replaced eventually by "Nice guy once you get to know him" - unfortunately not so great with the people you don't get to meet the second time though...

ridiculously shy/too quiet

Kolodny

I think it would very much depend on my mood. If I was tired and cranky I would probably come across as very quiet. If I was my normal self I could quite easily be considered way too chatty. I suppose either way it's not good. I need to go and introduce myself to some random people in order to research it fully

grimloch

I'm generally far too quiet and I tend to lose the ability to articulate myself properly which, under normal circumstances, I don't have too much of a problem doing.

In a pub situation, or when at a party with my friends I think I'm a bit better though, with the assistance of alcohol and a relaxing atmosphere of course, but by and large, I won't properly engage a person in conversation unless I've met them twice or three time before.

Kojak

DaveMcG wrote:

Myself, I think other people think "nice guy, but kinda quiet". I am kinda quiet when I don't know someone (although I make the effort to ask questions etc.), but I'm chatty after I know them a bit better.

That would be me also.

Great to see Atari Jaguar in the poll.

Alter-Ego

Sometimes people just do not like me at all. I won't even have to say or do anything and they automatically dislike me. I'm awfully shy so i guess thats the impression they get other times.

seamus

It very much depends on the context. If I'm introduced to a friend of a friend, I usually stand there similing and attempting to laugh at stuff I'm not involved in, but generally saying nothing.

If I meet someone for a specific purpose, or whom I have something to discuss with, then I'm all chatty and joking.

If I meet someone with whom I have nothing to discuss, then I'd be pretty damn quiet.

thebman

Girl once told me I was an asshole when I met her but that I turned out to be really nice and sweet.

I'm generally quiet when I meet someone but I still come across as confident so people think I'm an asshole because they think I don't want to talk to them when really when I meet people at first I am actually shy.

After a while, getting me to shut up becomes the trick.

slipss

No I make an absalutely(sc) terrible first impression evry single time. Wether it's something formal like a job interview or informal like I meet a friend of a friend kinda thing. I always here back from someone that they said they really didn't like me, even many of my long term friends who I'm like family with now have told me that they didn't like me at all the first time or the first few times they met me, it's the same with girls who later became my girlfreind. I really have no idea why this is, not that it bothers me in the slightest because I couldn't give a flying fukk what anyone else thinks about me. My current girlfreind did say before that she thinks maybe thats the reason, because I don't care what they think and some people read that as arrogance and most people put in a good bit of effort to make a good first impression when meeting someone for the first time or go out of thier way to be freindly, not that I'm unfreindly or don't make any effort. I dunno.

Chakar

I'm usually outgoing, it doesn't bother me if I don't know them.That makes it all the more interesting.

Lust4Life

In a new job situation I'm too busy feeling like a n00b to worry about what people think. But I'm sure I give the impression that I care about what I'm hired to do!

In social situations, it depends on the impression I get from others as to whether I am outgoing or reserved.
Such as lunch with the boss lady. I don't get personal.
Lunch with a coworker, I share more.
Beers with coworkers? I'm unforgettable!

Black Swan

Ever left your body's impression in the sand? A hint of your curves? Makes for a novel first impression on those who walk by and observe your signature in the sand.

What's the old song? "Let me hear (see) your body talk...?"

Archeron

When I meet people first, I'm usually quite quiet and just ask them about themselves, while talking little about myself. I find people like to tell you about themselves and it suits me to listen. So people probably think I'm a nice guy, if a bit quiet, and maybe a tad nosey/inquisitive. (I dont really care what they say, but its better than an uncomfortable silence or an utterly pointless conversation about the weather)

stovelid

Nice enough bloke but a bit of a narky g*t. Grand once you get to know him.

connundrum

People often think I'm big headed/stuck up and/or aloof.. but I really amn't. I dunno how I can stop giving off that impression?? It used to bother me but now I couldn't give a poo

Donegal Lass

I should probably lay off the sarcasm when meeting people for the first time...think people tend to think im a bit of a smart arse on first meeting...im really just trying to find my way in such an awkward situation

Pighead

People tend to think Pighead is obnoxious and rude when they first meet him. Although in fairness this could have something to do with my annoying habit of pinching their arse when first introduced. Its a nerves thing.

brown*eyed*girl

I'm very friendly but a bit shy at times but it doesn't stop me talking to people. I "know" lots of people from just talking to them at bus stops, shop queues, waiting rooms etc. In a really long queue in Dunnes the other day I started talking to this woman & we had a great chat. Later on my Mam heard this woman tell her friend about the lovely girl she spoke to in the queue pointing over at me. Perhaps its because I'm getting older that I'll chat more & you'd be surprised how nice some people can be.

Appearance wise some people think I'm quite snobby if they don't talk to me as I tend to done up a lot. My ex said he was amazed at how down to earth I was (not the reason we split). Actually he turned out completely different to how he was initially but that's a whole other issue!!

Job interviews - can't remember because I'm in the same job nearly 10 years, but I was very nervous at it. My boss did say I was very honest though & sincere.

As for when alcohol is involved suppose I can be a bit mad!

madhitchhiker

people tend to like me the first time they see me, know why? i'd buy them a drink...they just don't know i'd make them pay a day after...heheh:D

darkflower

madhitchhiker wrote:

people tend to like me the first time they see me, know why? i'd buy them a drink...they just don't know i'd make them pay a day after...heheh:D

very nice way to impress people.:D

Crucifix

I make an awful first impression. It usually takes a few months for anyone to like me.

BlueSpiral

I'm a smelly hobo, of course I make a good first impression. That's why everybody gives me a hug and a penny when they first see me. :]

Dooom

I either shock people with my sense of humour, or just make them scared by doing odd things.
Once you get to know me I'm honestly a nice guy though! Aside from the insanity bit.

Ickle Magoo

I don't think I've ever been so offensive the first time I met someone as to give them a bad impression...hope not anyway!

:|

I think people think im quiet/boring when they first meet me as im quite shy..

but once you get to know me im alright

pbsuxok1znja4r

Depends entirely on the type of person I'm meeting.
I'm a funny, intelligent, cultured (and modest ) guy, so I feel most at ease when meeting people like me.
(So if I make a bad impression it's probably because you suck, not me )

Mr. Presentable

I always make a good first, but it's swiftly down hill from there, I'm afraid.:(

Rhyme

Surprisingly i sometimes get good feedback on first impressions, more often now that im aware of my body language among strangers... i have to force my arms away from crossing across my chest etc. But yeh, smiles all round ¬_¬

Peteee

Depends entirely on the company I'm with and who I'm meeting

Tar.Aldarion

My mock interviewers said I did excecllent but apart from taht, I have no idea what people think of me after they meet me.

Mrs_Doyle

I definitely must make a good impression in interviews, as I have been offered every single job I have interviewed for.
BUT - I definitely don't make a good first impression with the people I meet in every day life, and I have been told by some of my friends that when they first met me, they thought I was a bit stuck up and that I was in-love myself.

Now, they still think I am in-love with myself:p , but the stuck up bit has vanished, thank God!

DilbertPartII

i don't mind what people think when they first meet me. first impressions don't matter. it would eventually change as they come to know you a lot more...if they'd ever get the chance, that is!:rolleyes:

ferdi

if i'm in an interview, then yes (cause i'll be in a suit and i'm just good at interviews)

in general when i'm out and about in social situations, then no. i'm short, scruff and shy. but i am inclined to joke alot and i almost always make people laugh (one of my few gifts)

free2fly

I think I make a good first impression because it is my nature to be friendly. I also try to make people feel welcome.

EOA_Mushy

I use to make people afraid of me as soon as the oppertunity arose to do so. On growing up I noticing a lot of oppertunities disapear after the 1st few seconds of meating any one....

Well now its optional

tensecyclist

i do! with my magic charm and expressive eyes (like that of a doe) :rolleyes: i could win hearts of many.

OliviaM

i don't know if i do make good first impressions. i don't care. i know myself better than anyone else.:rolleyes:

carryboy

well, i'm sure i do make good first impressions to some and not to some. we can't please everybody so it's fine with me.:cool:

sonic juice

ah the first impression isn't a real vote of confidence,it's only settling your feet into the water.

molypiper

YES!:D
coz i make sure i behave well and constantly bats my lashes like that of a doe.

Chucky the tree

werido

Katykaboom

When Im nervous I talk, but Im fine after 10 mins or so. But friends parents always seem to love me. I believe I've heard that "butter wouldn't melt in my mouth" If only they knew how I corrupted thier children

Femelade

no, people hate me when they meet me first..
2 girls that i am quite friendly with , both said they hated me before they got to know me, i think its cos i can be quite stand off-ish at the start, and people think i am looking down my nose at them..

il gatto

I don't give a damn. And I make sure to tell people that when I meet them first. Even if it's a job interview or I'm chatting someone up. I say "First off, I don't care what you think of me, and nothing you do or say is of any consequence to me." It lets them know where I stand in relation to their opinions of me. Then I procede to make my first impressions........wait a minute...oh! I see. That's what kept happening.:(