Met the girl, what next?

shyguy

Background I was in a relationship for a couple of years which ended earlier this year and my confidence with women aint all that great.
Anyways, I haven't met a whole lot of them recently but the other night I was in a club with my friends ordering a drink for myself when a woman to my left leaned in and said something.
It wasn't anything in particular, just a 'the weather is bad' kind of thing (You know what I mean).
I didn't have a clue what to do, she seemed nice and we spent the next 20 minutes or so talking..
The thing was she was with her drunk sister and I didn't to seem to keen so i tried to play cool.
Anyways, we got on great and I was a nice guy, chatting away..
(Bear in mind I'm thinking...$hit havent done this in a bit..what do i say/do/not do)..
In the end i invented some cock and bull story which led me to getting her phone number..
She was flirty and pretty interested in me..and told me to get in touch with her
As she was babysitting the sister, she had to head off..and I didn't try make a move or anything, or tried to share a taxi or any of that lark...
She was a nice girl but i don't have a clue what to do next..
One part of me thinks she was just being friendly..there was other people around and she was chatting away to them too, as you do.
Should I drop her a text?
What the hell do i say?
From what i described is there interest from her or am i reading too much into things, and she was just being nice?

Ruu_Old

She wouldn't have bothered giving you the number if she wasn't interested. No harm in giving a text. Ask her if shes going out again and it was good craic last night ye were there, that maybe ye can meet up. See ya there type of thing. Good luck.

JungleBunny

Yep, what Ruu said.
No way she would have given you her number if she was not interested! I know I wouldn't.
Text her, call her... but don't leave it too long or she will think you are not interested.
Go get her tiger!!

Colm_OReilly

Which choice would make you happier - to contact this girl or not?

Follow your bliss,
Colm

manonthemoon

shyguy wrote:

She was a nice girl but i don't have a clue what to do next..
One part of me thinks she was just being friendly..there was other people around and she was chatting away to them too, as you do.
Should I drop her a text?
What the hell do i say?
From what i described is there interest from her or am i reading too much into things, and she was just being nice?

She wouldnt have given you the number unless she had some interestPick up the phone and ring her. (I hate texting in these situations)

Ask her what she is up to for the weekend - bla bla. Tell her you are going out. Maybe they might meet up. Bla Bla


She could be THE ONE

Go for it, man

Grem

In contrast to the last few replies-sometimes girls do give numbers, even if they aren't especially interested.

I have a few times in the past when a bloke has been chatting to me relentlessly and you just cant get away without being rude. I'd give a wrong number but thats even worse and you can never tell if they are going to be one of those lads who whips out his phone, takes your number and says "ill just check if it's right" and rings it right in front of you! Which is highly embarrassing if you've just given a bogey number.

Its easier to turn them down by text if they DO get in contact with you.

But in fairness OP this girl sounds like she was interested and was just stung with her drunk sister for the night. Ring her and ask whats she's up to for the weekend.

LegacyUser

Follow Colm's advice first.

If it were me, I'd ring - it sounds better than a text.
Usual rules are to stand while you're talking on the phone - it affects the way you talk positively. Some people also chat to a friend on the phone first - so they are "warmed up" for talking to people.

If there is anything on that you think is cool, invite her along.
Also sell the bejasus out of whatever it is - get her enthusiastic about it:

"There's this awesome music festival/new cafe etc. - I'm checking out next Saturday. It should be really cool - they've this etc. blah, blah.... Want to come along?"

QED

Black Swan

shyguy wrote:

She was flirty and pretty interested in me..and told me to get in touch with her

That's your answer. Call her (don't text her). Invite her for lunch. Lunch is pretty innocent and yet another chance to chat.

Dub_Ster

Blue_Lagoon wrote:

That's your answer. Call her (don't text her). Invite her for lunch. Lunch is pretty innocent and yet another chance to chat.

lunch is way to much coffee ...

greenkittie

no invite her to a bar, that way if it all goes wrong you can get drunk and not care

ando

yea man go for it, she is obviously interested in you