How do I tell someone I like them?

LegacyUser

Okay so I've been reading these forums for a while now and now I need some advice.

I fancy a friend of mine, we are both pretty shy about these kinda things. I'm not exactly sure if he likes me in the same way but I figure I should just go for it, tell him I like him...the problem is I don't really know how to go about telling him. We never get really drunk that I could use dutch courage...so should I just suggest meeting up and just tell him over a cup of coffee or a stroll in the park? I don't really know what to do in these situations as I'm fairly inexperienced. Thing is, because we are friends he doesn't read into anything, so it's harder to drop a hint. I don't know if I'm making sense or just rambling but I'd love any help anyone can give!

Victor

Spend some time together, alone. Catch a film, do the coffee thing, etc. He might get the hint.

If not, over one of theose coffees, broach the subject.

abetarrush

Dont tell him

show him

LegacyUser

see that's the problem, I'm not great at flirting probably because I'm pretty shy...that's why I thought I should just come out and say it...

Ruu_Old

Get to know them better, doing so while drunk might give you the courage but probably not the best way to go about it. Good luck.

Rabies

Go for a coffee, then a movie, stroll home to yours or his. Then there is that moment at the front door, make your move.

spinandscribble

do you think he'd like you?

thebman

Unreg...23 wrote:

see that's the problem, I'm not great at flirting probably because I'm pretty shy...that's why I thought I should just come out and say it...

Flirt a little anyway. Ask for advice for that if you need it. If he doesn't get the message after a while tell him. At that point he'll probably realise that you've been flirting with him for a while if he hadn't already.

I don't think you should bypass flirting and just tell him, you might freak him out if it's completely out of the blue and unexpected.

Black Swan

Stroll in the park sounds good (on a nice day).

LegacyUser

tell him you get lonely and horny and wish u had a boyfriend.

Faith

Has he ever given any indication that he's interested in you? If he has, and they've been pretty obvious, then sure, go ahead and tell him straight out.

If he hasn't, or if you're unsure about whether he might be interested in you or not, take it slowly and subtly. Your first mission is to get a fairly clear idea of where his interests lie with regards to you. If he's never done anything to indicate that he's interested in you, you'll scare him away if you just announce that you fancy him one day. He's probably completely clueless as to your feelings.

LegacyUser

Tell him, sit down and have a serious chat. I was in this situation with a friend a good few years ago and did nothing and was waiting to find out how she felt and nothing ever happened and I regret it to this day. I'm was also in the situation again more recently but the girl told me that she was happy being single for the time being and we've stayed friends. It's better to regret things you did rather than thinks you didn't do

LegacyUser

Tough one... depends on whether you think it will work, and if not, what you will lose...
Can you still be mates if it does go wrong?

I've known this girl about 5 years or so, a good mate but I do *like* her too... Don't know how she feels, but I suppose I decided I wouldn't go there, coz I didn't want it to go horribly wrong and us to fall out.
(And I had a feeling it would!)

Bottom line is, only you can really know, based on your own situation!

spurious

Next time he makes you laugh...say 'You're funny, I like how you make me laugh - hanging out with you makes me feel good'...or something along those lines.

This says it without oversaying it and gives him the opening to say 'I like you too' in response, or 'Yes, you're a good mate' which tells you where you stand.